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Married abroad / Civil ceremony here

  • 02-12-2014 4:09pm
    #1
    Sherlof3
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 171 ✭✭


    Hi all! :) I'm getting married in France next July in a Catholic ceremony. In order to make things easier we're signing the paperwork here in Ireland before we head off. Want the minimum fuss ever for this, I'll just wear a frock I have and my OH works across the road and would be wearing a suit anyway. Had planned to just take a long lunch, pop in and do the paperwork with our two witnesses, have a bite of lunch and then go back to work.

    My mum unfortunately has let the cat out of the bag about the civil ceremony here to my family. She was in the States for a few months so was a bit out of the loop herself so I don't blame her one teeny bit!

    The only thing is now I have family members saying they'll just come to the civil ceremony, and is it not more important they are there than in France?

    Anyway - how do I basically tell my family they are not invited - that no one is invited - to the civil ceremony?

    With a wedding abroad we were always expecting a little bit of a kick back - which is fair enough as we know it could put some people out. In both my OH and my family there has not been a wedding in 15 years, I am the first of my friends, and OH is the last of his friends to get married.


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  • #2
    AnonoBoy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,559 ✭✭✭✭AnonoBoy


    Sherlof3 wrote: »
    Anyway - how do I basically tell my family they are not invited - that no one is invited - to the civil ceremony?

    By saying just that.

    "Oh the civil ceremony? That's just the paperwork day, in a boring office. The real day is in France - that's when everyone is coming along, that's the day we're really getting married in our eyes."


  • #3
    Sherlof3
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 171 ✭✭Sherlof3


    Thanks AnonoBoy, I have tried that, to not much avail. It seems some family members think if we're having a wedding here they should have the choice to attend if they can't afford to come to France.

    Of course we appreciate that it is more expensive and accept some people may not come. However I don't want to get into a situation where all my mum's side insist on going to the civil ceremony and having to do another dinner etc. Diplomatically of course!


  • #4
    lazygal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,644 ✭✭✭✭lazygal


    Just don't tell them the date and time.

    Although legally, any member of the public who wishes to can attend the ceremony.


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