Your place or mine?!

This thread could be aimed at anyone not living with their partner, or those who are free and single!

Recently dating a new guy, whether we go to his or mine is usually based on which is handiest, for the night, and for the morning. Tomorrow night we could do either - so I've been considering this!

I'm a very messy person. Sometimes I prefer to go to a guy's place, plainly because I can't be certain what state my place is in. I also like my own habits and comforts, liking to be in my own room than someone else's. Then there's the house sharing versus living alone thing too. I've never lived alone, but have dated guys who did, it was always his place.

I guess for me the deciding factors would be handiness, comfort, privacy.

we'llallhavetea

when i was single i would always try and go to theirs so i could leg it in the morning. nothing worse than waiting for someone to go the next day imo.

barleybooley

My housemate became my bf so it's always our place :P but seriously, he insists on staying in my room because it's cozier and I'm happy enough to go along with that.

kylith

I must admit to being a bit trepidatious about this kind of thing. I have to go home after a night out because I have dogs, but if I happen to get lucky I'm not sure if I'd be comfortable bringing a stranger home because I live alone.

Raminahobbin

I prefer staying in mine. It's nicer, and I know there's no surprises hidden anywhere (always clean sheets, bathroom is grand etc), plus I live alone, so privacy.

The once or twice when I was single that I brought people home after a night out, I had no problems saying 'Right! I have to go do things. I'll walk you to the bus stop. Bye now!"

Dial Hard

It really depends on whether they're one-nighters or something a bit more. For the first night, I would always have been a fan of their place, mostly so I could leave on my own schedule the following morning.

Once it's someone you're seeing on a more regular basis, then yeah, it kinda just depends on handiness/who has the nicer gaff/what your housemates are like. I live with my sister and she is not precious about telling me to fcuk off to himself's house if she thinks we're spending too much time in mine.

Rosy Posy

I haven't been in this situation for a long long time but I know one of my friends had an issue with her house mate because of it- if it was a ons/fling she'd always bring the guy back to hers cause it felt safer but her house mate didn't appreciate having her Sunday morning pottering about in her pj's interrupted by a strange man in her kitchen!

If I were seeing a new person and they never invited me back to theirs, I'd always wonder if they were hiding something.

However if it were a once off thing, I'd much rather go to theirs. As we'llallhavetea has said, there's nothing worse than the next morning when they're at yours and you're just making uncomfortable conversation, waiting for them to leave.