money worries cant get job

LegacyUser

Hello , Im on jobseekers with my partner now at the moment while waiting for rent allowance to be sorted we must both hand over 70 each per week for rent , we get 342 for us and our nearly 1 year old daughter , then most of our money goes on bills and food and baby milk . Im so stressed were left with 60 then for ourselves I keep applying to jobs and get no answer , Im so stressed my little girls birthday is 10 days away and I cant even get her toys or presents I feel like breaking down and crying so much but that wont help .

I was thinking if I cant get a job to start handing out leaflets to houses and places saying that I could do cleaning jobs and an other things. just to make a bit of money for presents

I just wish I could get a job to make life better for my baby girl , I just feel so bad I won't be able to get her nice presents for christmas or any of my family stuff Im such a looser at 24 I cant believe my life has turned out to be so bad .

Tokyo

OP,

I grew up in a home much like yours where there was very little in terms of disposable income, so I do sympathise. Unfortunately there's not much you can do on the job front except keep applying and hope that something comes up. And when rent allowance comes through it will ease the burden somewhat.

In the meantime, regarding Christmas coming up, have you considered contacting SVP for assistance? Each year they provide assistance (fuel, food etc) to families going through a period of hardship. They also run a Christmas toy appeal, which may be of benefit to your one year old. Regarding the rest of your family - don't put yourself under so much pressure to stump up expensive gifts - you're starting out with a young family and they will understand.

And, while this might seem like little consolation at the moment - your child is one. Being with you and your partner for the day is going to mean much more to her than an expensive toy.

Rubberchikken

You're doing your best so go easy on yourself.

A 1 year old doesn't know anything about presents so have a look in charity shops. They sonetimes have great toys for that age group for a lot less than the toy shops.

Stop worrying about buying things for family members. Be honest, say you can't afford to buy gifts for everyone. Maybe ye could organise secret santa? It's good fun and creates less waste.

Good luck on the job search.

Littlekittylou

I don't think you are a looser. I think you are mom who loves her child and is trying her best. This will pass. It's ok. Your family will understand and maybe they can help. I would do anything for my family and they for me.

ted1

Op, no need to spend lots on a present the charity shops often have hreat presents for kids. Especially for 1 year olds because they outgrow toys so fast.

With regards handing out loads of CV, it's quality not quantity, get someone to sit diwn and go through your CV and cover letter. Target jobs and modify both to suit the role.

Things will get easier.

LegacyUser

OP every year at Xmas my parents would retell the story of my first xmas when they had no money and they went to the local pound shop and spent a whole £5 (which they scrapped and saved for for months) on various bits and pieces as presents for me. I don't remember this at all and my parents tell the story in a joking manor but I know that time was a struggle for them. I know we had very little money until I was nearly a teen but I have the best memories of childhood because my parents were there for me and that's what you need to focus on.

I know it's easier said then done but you've got to stop beating yourself up.

yellowlabrador

rethink xmas. We are exposed to media that tells us to spend and tells us how we must live. I had the same struggles as you when my children were young and I realised that I was trying to be 'normal' yet it put so much stress and strain on me. I also had the children's birthdays on 13/12 and xmas eve so even more worries. We sat down and talked and we got rid of the tv and adverts. Then we rethought xmas and learned to enjoy it. Home made presents, fun gifts that weren't too costly and many years I used to take the pressure off yourself, things will get easier and make it a family day.for next year, save small amounts each week. It's surprising how odds and ends of change can mount up, that way you can buy more gifts.

LegacyUser

stressedsomuch wrote: »

Hello , Im on jobseekers with my partner now at the moment while waiting for rent allowance to be sorted we must both hand over 70 each per week for rent , we get 342 for us and our nearly 1 year old daughter , then most of our money goes on bills and food and baby milk . Im so stressed were left with 60 then for ourselves I keep applying to jobs and get no answer , Im so stressed my little girls birthday is 10 days away and I cant even get her toys or presents I feel like breaking down and crying so much but that wont help .

OP your 1 year old daughter is not going get the whole present idea or that its her 1st birthday yet. I have a nearly three year old niece who was given toys for her first birthday that she has only started playing with now!!!She got dozens of teddies and dolls that sat there for a year or more, its only now that she is speaking that she has started playing with them and having conversations with them. Have a look in the charity shops you can get loads of books and toys for really cheap, my sister got a tricycle for €15 in the local charity shop. You really don't need to go to soo much expense for a kid that young, if your kid is getting lots of love and affection its a hell of lot better than loads of toys.