Guy I met still hung up on Ex....

LegacyUser

Hi all,

I guess I'm not really looking for advice in this situation as I know what to do anyhow...met a guy a number of weeks back, had a few great dates and thought we were really hitting it off...I was actually starting to quite like him...anyhow he rings me up and says he can't seem to move on from his ex (of almost a year), not ready for a relationship etc. There were a lot of mixed messages as far as I'm concerned. Got the "It's not you it's me" (puke!).....I know it's an unfortunate situation and nothing I can do. Just wish he'd never made contact with me (met via a mutual friend).
Do you think I should cut all contact with this person or what? I think I know myself that's the thing to do, forget him and keep moving forward.

Tokyo

Walk away and don't look back, unfortunately, is the only advice anybody can give you here. Cut all contact and delete his number, should you be tempted to call him again.

CaraMay

Keep going as second place sucks

josealdo

Dissapointed... wrote: »

Hi all,

I guess I'm not really looking for advice in this situation as I know what to do anyhow...met a guy a number of weeks back, had a few great dates and thought we were really hitting it off...I was actually starting to quite like him...anyhow he rings me up and says he can't seem to move on from his ex (of almost a year), not ready for a relationship etc. There were a lot of mixed messages as far as I'm concerned. Got the "It's not you it's me" (puke!).....I know it's an unfortunate situation and nothing I can do. Just wish he'd never made contact with me (met via a mutual friend).
Do you think I should cut all contact with this person or what? I think I know myself that's the thing to do, forget him and keep moving forward.

sounds like the dude got hurt and is simply protecting himself . it really isn't you . its him . more specifically his hurt from a previous relationship .

as for.him been hung up on ex . she could be long gone . remember they broke up for very good reason so it wasn't all roses . she could be the last person he want to get back with BUT the pain could be very real .

question is WHAT DO YOU WANT ? and second question is WHAT DOES HE WANT ? if these are similar .GREAT . if these are not similar . ALSO GREAT . now you know where each other stands .and making a decision is easier .

good luck
PS . he doesn't sound like he is hung up on ex

LegacyUser

mike_ie wrote: »

Walk away and don't look back, unfortunately, is the only advice anybody can give you here. Cut all contact and delete his number, should you be tempted to call him again.

Thanks very much, I know you're right. Have deleted his number and won't be contacting him again. Feel sad about that but there's no option.

LegacyUser

figs666 wrote: »

sounds like the dude got hurt and is simply protecting himself . it really isn't you . its him . more specifically his hurt from a previous relationship .

as for.him been hung up on ex . she could be long gone . remember they broke up for very good reason so it wasn't all roses . she could be the last person he want to get back with BUT the pain could be very real .

question is WHAT DO YOU WANT ? and second question is WHAT DOES HE WANT ? if these are similar .GREAT . if these are not similar . ALSO GREAT . now you know where each other stands .and making a decision is easier .

good luck
PS . he doesn't sound like he is hung up on ex

Actually all guys here .
I think he is hung up on the ex, as he said after we'd met last week again he couldn't stop thinking about him all week- this is despite him (the ex) treating him like absolute rubbish and subjecting him to what I would consider pretty bad emotional abuse an manipulation. No accounting for feelings I guess, pity I got caught in the middle...

What I want is someone to be hung up on me and not living in their past! Half thinking I should maybe stay in touch but other half is saying forget and move on...

mapaca

Disspointed wrote: »

What I want is someone to be hung up on me and not living in their past!

Exactly! You will find someone else who is mad about you, and only you! Onwards and upwards.

josealdo

Disspointed wrote: »

Actually all guys here .
I think he is hung up on the ex, as he said after we'd met last week again he couldn't stop thinking about him all week- this is despite him (the ex) treating him like absolute rubbish and subjecting him to what I would consider pretty bad emotional abuse an manipulation. No accounting for feelings I guess, pity I got caught in the middle...

What I want is someone to be hung up on me and not living in their past! Half thinking I should maybe stay in touch but other half is saying forget and move on...

THE CASTRO . It's full of WHAT ?

Tokyo

figs666 - if you can't post constructively towards the OP's issue, then please don't post at all. Any further posts of this nature are going to earn you an infraction and/or ban.

Regards,
Mike