Advice really needed

Vananna

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Call me Al

Our friend's brother buried his mom 10 days before he married his wife.
This was a few years ago. Like you they were looking at the bigger picture of people who had paid for flights, accommodation, booked annual leave etc. His family didn't argue with or question his decision though and got on with it.

Vananna

quote="Call me Al;92670393"]Our friend's brother buried his mom 10 days before he married his wife.
This was a few years ago. Like you they were looking at the bigger picture of people who had paid for flights, accommodation, booked annual leave etc. His family didn't argue with or question his decision though and got on with it.[/quote]
We have ten people travelling over from the UK and because we're marrying on a Thursday everyone who works has had to take annual leave. It's just a terrible time but I'm hoping they will turn up on the day and rally around their brother. Thanks for your reply.

Oink

I think your fiancee and your brother need to talk. Why is your brother-in-law only saying this now? And maybe your fiancee should have talked to his family if he didn't but at this stage it's too late to cancel so everybody should try and make it the bedt day possible for the bride and groom.

The 2 brothers need to make peace.

Buona Fortuna

Vananna I do feel for your predicament.

Back when we got married my MIL said - if anything happens to either of us go ahead.

A couple of years ago my Dad was seriously ill. My brother was there. Brother was not in great shape with work and personal stuff but he had a holiday booked for the next day. Dad said - Go I'll be fine. I think it was his last act of love.

Now there's something in my eye

I wish you all the very best.

Vananna

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Bikerbhoy

Don't forget who's day this is , your husband to be is happy to go ahead, you obviously want it to go ahead and as your fiancee has said your father in law would want it to proceed also, these are the only 3 opinions I would be concerned about. Going forward your life with you husband will be full of decisions and choices which can only be resolved by the two of you , this being one of them . .
Go ahead as planned and enjoy your day.

Best of Luck.

Hannibal Smith

I think you should have a talk about it with the family. The grooms father is dying and it's understandable if they can't think about a wedding.

I know your wedding day is of huge importance to you and you're caught between inconveniencing your guests. ..but any guest would understand if you did have to postpone.

We were invited to a wedding a few years ago and the mother of the groom was seriously ill. They agonised over whether to postpone, the mother insisted the wedding should go ahead, but in the end they got together as a family and agreed she was getting too ill too fast. In the end they postponed and the mother died on the day the wedding should have taken place.. They had the day 6 months later. No one minded one bit.

fits

Really tough situation OP. Hard to make a call. Good luck whatever you decide!