College stress

LegacyUser

I am so stressed.

Basically I'm doing a group assignment in college and one of the people in my group is so incredibly stuck up and rude. The person wont respond to any emails I send to them about the assignment which leaves me totally in the dark as to what the person has done if anything. I'm the one who has to submit the assignment and put all the different pieces together.

Then when we do meet during lectures the person has such a stuck up tone when they are talking to me. I actually can't stand being nice to the person any more its ridiculous. I am really stressed over this and I can't sleep.

Oh and to make matters worse the person has basically admitted to not even wanting to be in our group but no one else would do an assignment with the person. I am literally so stressed about this. I've been worrying about it non stop since our last lecture. This assignment is worth a lot of my grade for this semester and I don't want it messed up because some arrogant **** wont get off their high horse.

The other members of my group are fine its just this one person. How hard is it to reply to an email like.

skallywag

Is it an option to just cut this person loose and do their portion between the rest of ye?

tinz18

I would chuck the being nice and ask them face to face whether they're going to do the work or not. If they say if not go to the lecturer (quietly if you want- this is a lot easier in an IT) and point it out. Doing their portion of work is neither fair on ye nor is it going to teach this person to pull their weight- they sound like the type that expects people to do the work for them and they'll float through college as a result. I know no one wants to be the one to snitch but people like this need a kick in the a***- it was done a couple of times in my course (not by me) and what happened was that person got a percentage taken of their mark based on how much work if any they did.

Colonel_McCoy

talk to your lecturer

Kilgore__Trout

This is a fairly common occurance in group projects. People have different levels of interest for the material and invest different levels of effort. Some might have something going on in their life. Some are just flat out lazy.

How long has passed since you got the assignment, and how long do you have left?

I'd suggest one last attempt, perhaps face to face, to see if they are doing anything. If they aren't, forget about the non-contributing member, concentrate on working with the remainder of your group, and hand up the best project possible. If you are running low on time, it may even be a good idea to contact the lecturer seeking advice for handling the situation. If they haven't contributed by the end, inform the lecturer.

While perhaps easier said than done, it would be good idea to try to stop stressing yourself about this person. There's no point getting worked up about things outside your control, and it's counter-productive. High levels of stress undermine your ability to work and make good decisions, and this isn't going to help your grade.

th283

Hi there, the best advice I can give you is to talk to the other members of your group, if you all reach agreement then approach your group tutor. Record the input from the different members so you have the division of work down on paper.

Something similar happened to me recently, 5 of us in a group, 4 worked our asses off, the other did a total of one hours work, didn't turn up for meetings or reply to any emails or phone calls. They then had the nerve to take over the presentation of the project, and claim other peoples work as theirs and in a meeting with the tutor claimed that they had carried the group, done all the work and called the rest of us lazy and unorganised, and became aggressive with me. Ultimately because we were all in a group and hadn't informed the lecturer we all got the same mark

Moral of the story, talk to your lecturer, make sure your group back you up, and keep a record of input or there of so you have evidence. No matter how bad it feels reporting your classmate remember that their work has an impact on your mark, good luck

Rubberchikken

Get the rest of the group on board. Talk to your lecturer together so that they know the full story.

Lazy arrogant people don't deserve any chances. It's clear to see why others don't want to work with this person.

Wompa1

Congrats, this is actually part of the benefit of group assignments. It prepares you for the workforce and working with a-holes you want nothing to do with. Ask them what they want to do, what they want to contribute. Make sure it's all in writing.

If you they don't commit or deliver just do the work without them. Cover Your A$$ though, make sure you have things in writing incase this person turns on the rest of the group

Backstreet Moyes

Had this problem a few years their is nothing worse when other's influence what result you get especially when one of them does nothing.

Best advice is meeting as a group and go to the lecturer about the person. You obviously have tried and nothing you do is going to change the situation. Putting off telling the lecturer will just let your fears grow and your work to build up and nothing will change.

Don't think of it as being a snitch or whatever these grades can effect your results and your future. Let the lecturer sort it out it is their job.

LegacyUser

Tell them you need their piece of the project in early so you can edit the whole project together. The early deadline will be a test to see if they are actually going to produce something or not.

Really feel for you. In a group project their is always someone who is a pain in the neck.