Dating a Pole Dancer

LegacyUser

I started dating a girl. we really hit it off and after a few weeks she told me she no longer work where she initially told me but quit and started working in a strip club.

Sounds great but imagine going to bed at night knowing your girl is taking her clothes off for money. She does seem to get a thrill from the job too. and i asked her what are chances of looking for normal work. seems no chance right now.

What id like to know is do girls in strip clubs tend to take it a step further?
Has anyone dated a pole dancer? how did it work out?

for me she knew changing job theres risk of relationship ending. what would ye do?

any advice. i dont want to end it over her job but long terms its not viable at all

LegacyUser

notSoHappyGuy wrote: »

for me she knew changing job theres risk of relationship ending. what would ye do?

any advice. i dont want to end it over her job but long terms its not viable at all

OP, you're not comfortable with this, and that's the bottom line here. You've asked do pole-dancers go further and I don't think that's a fair question because a) generalising is not going to get you an answer - you could meet a nurse/teacher who'd be less faithful than a pole-dancer depending on who THEY are, not their profession and b) you either trust your girlfriend or you don't.

This comes down to you tbh. Your girlfriend seems to like working in this strip club and maybe gets a thrill out of it. You don't like the idea. I suggest you end the relationship, not over her job, but because you're not compatible. And for what it's worth, I wouldn't be thrilled either if my fella started working in a strip club and got his kicks from being naked for money. Call me prudish, but it wouldn't suit me at all. You're not alone there!

Tramps Like Us

Just end it, if you are not comfortable with her job and she wont change it then thats it.... (I would feel the same as you, I wouldn't date a stripper)

helimachoptor

a lad i was in college with also dated a stripper for a couple of years.

She was also in college and needed cash, he met her on a normal night out. They went out for a couple of months before she told him, as expected he freaked out a bit but they went on to have a pretty good relationship until he had to move for work.



AS hard as it sounds OP, its a job. She is not banging every guy who gives her a fiver.. but in saying that if you cant get past it you cant get past it.

openup

If you can't deal with it, you owe it to yourself and the girl to move on. She's no more or less likely to cheat than any other girl

LegacyUser

Thanks for the advice guys. As for step further. its just you are putting yourself more in the way of it. I have heard of stories of the girls just seeing the money to go a step further.
and there is a small culture of partying and drugs which isnt me at all and not her either. id hate if that changed though :-)

skallywag

Unless you are a pimp then dating a pole dancer will most likely not end well in my opinion.