Why is sex such a big deal?

How Soon Is Now

Before i start i dont have a very high sex drive i enjoy it when i get it but go threw stages of not paying it any attention but.......

Ive wondered this for years now why is there such a big deal made out of having sex and people needing sex?

If you where to look at society and the way people talk and go on you would think it was one of the most important things in the world when really its not!

For example people finish perfectly good relationships because of problems over sex for why the **** ?

Ive always felt sex was made out to be this amazing crazy wild thing thats so bloody important when to be honest its really not that important or a big deal when its done its done :pac:

Curious to see what people think about this.

dodderangler

Surely your not that bad in the sack

Mech1

your doing it wrong

Mena

Op, sorry, you're doing it wrong mate.

How Soon Is Now

dodderangler wrote: »

Surely your not that bad in the sack

I think im doing ok put it that way :pac:. I have more good things said then bad anyway!.

spitfireIRL

Because sex is probably the most fun thing ever to do! How could you not love it?!

AlanS181824

yhu ok hun?

Chat me xox

deseil

Because Orgasms!!!! And it's free..

deise08

I'm with you op!

How Soon Is Now

I knew would get these kinds replys :P

As far as im concerned ive had some great sex ive enjoyed it i still do i just dont see the big deal its not something i need all the time i could go periods of time without thinking about it or caring.

4zn76tysfajdxp

deseil wrote: »

Because Orgasms!!!! And it's free..

Woah, where?

henryporter

As Eddie Murphy once said "Humminahumminahumminahummina..." It's the be all and end all (no pun intended) of life is all.

Mech1

deseil wrote: »

Because Orgasms!!!! And it's free..

EH.... No its not.

Ever Ever Ever.

moc moc a moc

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

you would think it was one of the most important things in the world when really its not!

Are you thick? Literally none of us would exist if it wasn't for sex. It is the absolute number one most important thing to the human race (and, in fact, to the vast majority of living creatures).

Good Lord, I know this is AH, but this is one of the dumbest thread starters I've seen in a while.

I honestly think it depends entirely on your sex drive. For me sex is a hugely hugely important thing that I think about far too regularly. If you have a lower sex drive, it's obviously going to be less important.

Reindeer

You are missing out

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

Before i start i dont have a very high sex drive i enjoy it when i get it but go threw stages of not paying it any attention but.......

Ive wondered this for years now why is there such a big deal made out of having sex and people needing sex?

If you where to look at society and the way people talk and go on you would think it was one of the most important things in the world when really its not!

For example people finish perfectly good relationships because of problems over sex for why the **** ?

Ive always felt sex was made out to be this amazing crazy wild thing thats so bloody important when to be honest its really not that important or a big deal when its done its done :pac:

Curious to see what people think about this.

Gongoozler

It's somewhat a paradox to say you have a high sex drive but aren't that mad about sex. But I kinda agree OP. I like it, love it with my boyfriend, it is fun but I never understood the whole 'amazing sex' thing.

Mech1

Deleted User wrote: »

I honestly think it depends entirely on your sex drive. For me sex is a hugely hugely important thing, that I think about far too regularly. If you have a lower sex drive, it's obviously going to be less important.

I wish my wife was, just a bit, more like you.

beano345

Depends on the person if yous click sexually,a lot of the time its over rated

How Soon Is Now

[Deleted User] wrote: »

I honestly think it depends entirely on your sex drive. For me sex is a hugely hugely important thing that I think about far too regularly. If you have a lower sex drive, it's obviously going to be less important.

Ya true I just think weather you high or low sex drive the world puts way to much pressure on people when it comes to sex there's more important things to worry bout it's not the answer to everything.

The_Valeyard

SSSSSSSSSSSSEEEEEEEEEXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Mocha Joe

I had to masterbate twice before i could reply to this thread.

looking_around

"For example people finish perfectly good relationships because of problems over sex for why the **** ?"

This has been an ongoing issue in my relationship. And me and my partner have had to find a balance.

I can't tell you why it's important for everyone.

But I can say why it is for me.

It is a very real physical need. I feel it as strongly as I feel hunger. Going long spurs(well a few weeks, went 6 months with my partner and the relationship almost broke down.)going without, results in me being, extremely volatile, over emotional, stressed out, frustrated, bitter and snappy.
I am tense and I can't descrive the feeling other than constantly horny and every thought, every single damn thing, becomes sexual in some way.

I do masturbate frequently enough, but it doesn't come anywhere near close to sex.

I assume, that there's a large enough section of society who feels similar enough, and this is why it's important.

syklops

Before i start i dont have a very high sex drive

Theres the source of your confusion right there.

I personally don;t like sweet things. I don't have cravings for sweet things. Offer me a chicken sandwich and Im in, but I don't go crazy for chocolate or other sweet things. My girlfriend on the other hand would eat her body weight in chocolate if she was allowed.

I would never in a million years start a thread on boards entitled "Whats so great about chocolate?". Whats so great about a thing other people love which is a thing I don't love?

Other people love it, thats why its great to them.

Im think Im getting a headache.

castletownman

I think the whole issue really is pressure to perform more than anything. I've been in relationships where when the "time came" (no pun intended) I was as nervous as heck and despite my best efforts was self-consciensly wondering whether I was up to scratch. In fact, I generally think there's far more pressure on lads than women (the horror of having a flop or "getting excited too quickly") in sexual encounters.

Of course, it's always a sign that you were up to standard if the relationship lasts after the first time.

syklops

Mocha Joe wrote: »

I had to masterbate twice before i could reply to this thread.

Lightweight.

How Soon Is Now

Reindeer wrote: »

You are missing out

Lol what am I missing out on exactly?

I'm in a long term relationship I live with my girlfriend I could it every night the week because she has a high sex drive she wouldn't say no ha!

I chose not to cause at times I don't even think about it. It's not a case of anyone doing it wrong or missing out I just don't think it's as important as people make it out to be.

Shakespeare's Sister

moc moc a moc wrote: »

Are you thick? Literally none of us would exist if it wasn't for sex. It is the absolute number one most important thing to the human race (and, in fact, to the vast majority of living creatures).

Good Lord, I know this is AH, but this is one of the dumbest thread starters I've seen in a while.

Well yeh but I think the OP means more culturally than biologically.

As said, it depends on the person. It's very individualised. This isn't always acknowledged. There can be an assumption that everyone feels the same way about it.

For me, when it's really great, it's the best thing ever - nothing like it. But it has to be with the right person. I don't have to be madly in love with him but I have to have some attraction to him, whereas for others, the act alone is great - doesn't matter who is attached to the penis/vagina. Hence people being able for doing porn I guess. That would not do it for me. But neither view is right or wrong.

So yeh, I don't see the big deal with sex the act either - there has to be more accompanying the act for it to be a big deal to me.

Holsten

Waste of time and money pursuing sex really.

Celly Smunt

The run up to sex is probably The Best Part for me. If a woman was to just give it to me without any chase id probably be very bored and border line ready to decline.

Have had numerous one night stands which have always been pretty meh to me. Though any one ive had to chase a little has always been The most amazing sex.

The Peanut

In my opinion, it's the most intimate, intense experience one can share with another individual. When that experience is with someone that you want to talk, laugh and spend time with, it's a killer combination. Incompatible sexual needs is as big a deal breaker as mismatched humour or intelligence.

Pocoyo

Mena wrote: »

Op, sorry, you're doing it wrong mate.

Are you coming on to me??

How Soon Is Now

syklops wrote: »

Theres the source of your confusion right there.

I personally don;t like sweet things. I don't have cravings for sweet things. Offer me a chicken sandwich and Im in, but I don't go crazy for chocolate or other sweet things. My girlfriend on the other hand would eat her body weight in chocolate if she was allowed.

I would never in a million years start a thread on boards entitled "Whats so great about chocolate?". Whats so great about a thing other people love which is a thing I don't love?

Other people love it, thats why its great to them.

Im think Im getting a headache.

No I understand some people love it it's the fact it's universally made out to be incredibly important and part of everything going on around us that I don't understand.

moc moc a moc

moc moc a moc wrote: »

Are you thick? Literally none of us would exist if it wasn't for sex. It is the absolute number one most important thing to the human race (and, in fact, to the vast majority of living creatures).

Good Lord, I know this is AH, but this is one of the dumbest threads I've seen in a while.

We get that but the whole concept of sex is not as simple as a method of reproduction.

For the vast majority of Women and men respectfully, they are at odds with regards to what sex means to them. For women, sex should be something more emotionally connected whereas i think most men probably dont hold the whole concept of sex on that level and its more in terms of satisfying a physical need. That's probably where the big deal is.

4zn76tysfajdxp

henryporter wrote: »

As Eddie Murphy once said

Get in the car, sir.

How Soon Is Now

Shakespeare's Sister wrote: »

Well yeh but I think the OP means more culturally than biologically.

As said, it depends on the person. It's very individualised. This isn't always acknowledged. There can be an assumption that everyone feels the same way about it.

For me, when it's really great, it's the best thing ever - nothing like it. But it has to be with the right person. I don't have to be madly in love with him but I have to have some attraction to him, whereas for others, the act alone is great - doesn't matter who is attached to the penis/vagina. Hence people being able for doing porn I guess. That would not do it for me. But neither view is right or wrong.

So yeh, I don't see the big deal with sex the act either - there has to be more accompanying the act for it to be a big deal to me.

Well said thank you!

ToddyDoody

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

For example people finish perfectly good relationships because of problems over sex for why the **** ?

Ive always felt sex was made out to be this amazing crazy wild thing thats so bloody important when to be honest its really not that important or a big deal when its done its done :pac:.

I actually don't see the point of being in a relationship if the sex is no good.

Shakespeare's Sister

henryporter wrote: »

As Eddie Murphy once said

"White guys drive a car like this... but black guys drive a car like this"?

wp_rathead

Cause Miley had sex once in Glenroe - was original sin - mankind been corrupted ever since

Pocoyo

Shakespeare's Sister wrote: »

"White cars drive a car like this... but black guys drive a car like this"?

Cars driving cars now?

deseil

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

Lol what am I missing out on exactly?

I'm in a long term relationship I live with my girlfriend I could it every night the week because she has a high sex drive she wouldn't say no ha!

I chose not to cause at times I don't even think about it. It's not a case of anyone doing it wrong or missing out I just don't think it's as important as people make it out to be.

Your weird

Shakespeare's Sister

Pocoyo wrote: »

Cars driving cars now?

I have no idea what you're talking about...

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Wibbs

Reindeer wrote: »

You are missing out

Not necessarily RD. Think of another physical need; hunger and the delight of food. Some people can't go more than a few hours without grub and love food and the tastes and varieties on offer. For them going on a diet, or god forbid a 3 day fast would be hell. They would miss out. Then consider those folks who basically see food as fuel, don't eat that much and don't get that much pleasure from it, it's more a way to stop hunger. To them a diet or a 3 day fast might go pretty easily. If you're someone in the first category this makes no sense and sounds daft and so it is with sex.

You don't tend to miss something or get less out of something if you don't have much a need for it in the first place and so it is with sex. Some people's drive is high, some people's drive is low, most are in the middle and all of this depends on age too(and gender to a much lesser extent).

BTW I am NOT saying women want it less, I'm saying that generally speaking men tend to more obsessed with the physicality of the act. Men tend to be more sexual according to stage of life. Horny as fcuk at 18, not so interested, or not nearly as interested at 60. Women tend to stay at a slightly lower level of horniness for more of their lives. Plumbing may come into this though, as Mae West once said 18 goes into 80 a lot more easily than 80 goes into 18 :D Viagra and the like may change this over time. A fee bits of research seem to show a difference in male/female responses. Very basically if a man gets a hard on he tends to wants to stick it somewhere. The willie leads the mind. Whereas with women it's more a case of the mind leading the wide on.


TL;DR? Tits, fannies and willies. And drink and sweat and suchlike.

Pocoyo

Shakespeare's Sister wrote: »

I have no idea what you're talking about...

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Are you coming onto me?

the_monkey

I always remember a good saying an Irish teacher once told us :

"Sex is an overrated experience, and a good shyte is an underrated experience"


So true.

Daveysil15

beano345 wrote: »

Depends on the person if yous click sexually,a lot of the time its over rated

+1. Depending on the person it can be utter crap or sensational. Although other factors come into it too like how horny you are, your mood, location, the type of jondom been used, (ribbed ones for example can completely ruin the experience; its like having a **** with bubble wrap.) No amazing partner can compensate for that.

flutered

deseil wrote: »

Because Orgasms!!!! And it's free..

no its not, never has been, never will be, the gospel according to flutered.

catallus

Don't worry OP; sex is the glorious communication of universal love; I get what your saying about your thinking it not to be a "big deal" but that's only because the elites have conditioned a lot of people to be blind about the special place it has in human life, mainly through the promotion of "safe-sex" through the use of condoms, which isn't real sex!!! Try the real deal sometime

Pocoyo

the_monkey wrote: »

I always remember a good saying an Irish teacher once told us :

"Sex is an overrated experience, and a good shyte is an underrated experience"


So true.

The toilet is the most comfortable seat in the house.

You ever do a phantom or ghost poop? You know where you feel it come out and then wipe your bum only for the paper to be dry, in amazement you gaze into the bowl to see clear water and no evidence that a poop ever occurred. But you know it did,you felt it....ghost poop!!!

Rubberchikken

It's probably a good thing that some people have a low sex drive. Think how many more ninnies would be out there!

Op, if it's not a problem to you, then carry on.

Mac1978

It's a big deal because it's a huge industry. Lots of stuff is sold on the back of it, so the people doing the selling have to make it the 'be all and end all.'

Admitting that it's a basic human action, like running, or jumping, isn't going to help you sell anything. Instead, the industry, and people who have little else going for them, build it up to be some kind of art form. If they can convince you that you can be 'good or 'bad' in the sack, they can sell you stuff, and/or feel superior to you.

In other words; sex is a basic human behaviour, that is exaggerated into something much more than it is, because of other basic human behaviours.