How to get married - Help!

Sadderday

Hi All,

I might sound absolutely thick but I've been researching this and I am lost.

I know we have to register... but I don't know if we need to register our intent to marry or if we get a marraige licence?

I don't know how to go about getting wed in registry office and if you have to wait three months ?

Trying to do it on a serious budget anyway but I can't get my head around how to get things started.

PLease advise

Thank You

Milly33

Hello!! Happy Engagement and Congrats to Ye!!

First take a breath you sound stressed it is ok it isn't as hard as they make it out to be...So it sounds is it that ye want to have a reg office wedding..

So in short you need to register your intent to marry three months (min) before ye want to get married. This is just the min, you can go in well in advance if ye like. Lets say we are planning for next year and we have already been in booked or date and time. So if ye want to have it on a certain date and time then the early ye book the better..

I think but not sure, I am sure someone else will if there is a very extreame case where ye cannot give three months notice you can but you must go to a judge.

After that then you get onto the HSE make your appointment, to make things easier say If ye are free morning or afternoon. They send on a list of what you need to bring with you, Passport, long form birth cert, fee of €200 and whatever paper work they give you too fill in, nothing serious.

And that's it really.. They only other cost after that is if you want to get married outside the registry office. If you want to do the wedding signing of the papers and all that on the same day (it has to be Mon - Fri) then you ask the register and she will advise on how much extra you pay on top of the €200 fee. Or you could go into the reg office on your appointed date and sign the paper work there with your two witnesses and just get a friend to say a few words on the wedding day itself.

Hope this helps

Sadderday

Milly33 wrote: »

Hello!! Happy Engagement and Congrats to Ye!!

First take a breath you sound stressed it is ok it isn't as hard as they make it out to be...So it sounds is it that ye want to have a reg office wedding..

So in short you need to register your intent to marry three months (min) before ye want to get married. This is just the min, you can go in well in advance if ye like. Lets say we are planning for next year and we have already been in booked or date and time. So if ye want to have it on a certain date and time then the early ye book the better..

I think but not sure, I am sure someone else will if there is a very extreame case where ye cannot give three months notice you can but you must go to a judge.

After that then you get onto the HSE make your appointment, to make things easier say If ye are free morning or afternoon. They send on a list of what you need to bring with you, Passport, long form birth cert, fee of €200 and whatever paper work they give you too fill in, nothing serious.

And that's it really.. They only other cost after that is if you want to get married outside the registry office. If you want to do the wedding signing of the papers and all that on the same day (it has to be Mon - Fri) then you ask the register and she will advise on how much extra you pay on top of the €200 fee. Or you could go into the reg office on your appointed date and sign the paper work there with your two witnesses and just get a friend to say a few words on the wedding day itself.

Hope this helps

Hi Milly33, thank you so much for the response.

I get super stressed because the OH is traditional and wants to get hitched but we are saving for our own home so I figured maybe we could organise a tiny wedding and do something special in a couple of years... but I tend to be responsible for paperwork and organising everything at home... and I get stressed when I can't make sense of something.

So, please correct me if I've picked you up wrong.....

We ring up a registrar?, make an appointment and go in and tell him we would like to get married and see if we can get married in the registry office and agree a date?

Then we make another appointment and bring 200 quid and birth certs etc?

Then we turn up on the date to get married ?

Or is it that at the second appointment we can bring witnesses and just do it? or is the second appointment the actual wedding...

Is there even a second appointment or am I totally picking you up wrong?

Sorry, I did ring them but I couldnt keep up and I'm lost and stressed.

Needs some dumbing down !

Milly33

Ah not at all, don't be silly I was the same only that a few friends had got married recently and let me know all the details and I must say I found Cork HSE great they were very nice..


1) We ring up a registrar?, make an appointment and go in and tell him we would like to get married and see if we can get married in the registry office and agree a date? -

Ring the HSE Office in your district or I even just emailed them.
Give them the date you were thinking of, they come back to say it is free of not free.
Then they make the appointment with you to go in and meet them just you and the hubby.
For this appointment they send you on a list of what you need to bring with you and a small form to fill out just with basic details, to say that your hubbie to be isn't your sister or anything like that. And they ask you to bring the €200 fee with you..Which is the fee you pay to reg the marriage and get married in the HSE offices.
Also need to know your two witnesses birthdays and who they are going to be.

2) Then we make another appointment and bring 200 quid and birth certs etc?
Nope there is only the one as above.. You and hubbie only go to this with all yer information.

Then we turn up on the date to get married ?
Yep that's it... All done!! You must bring your two witness to this too to sign the register.


3) Is there even a second appointment or am I totally picking you up wrong? - not as such, you will be asked to go in and meet with them maybe a few weeks before the wedding day to make sure all is in order. If ye wanted to bring flowers for the main table or something like that you would arrange then, and also the order of the wedding if you were having prayers etc you can go through this with them. When you go into meet them the first time they give you a page of how the ceremony will run and when/where you can change bits or add to them

Sadderday

Thanks a million for all of that info.

Really appreciate it !

Milly33

if your stuck for anything or want any help let me know.. I have way to much time on my hands well most of the week...

HIB

Hi Milly,

Seems like you really know this process well. Maybe you could help me out too.

I'm looking for the cheapest and quickest way to get married. Romantic I know! But the truth is myself and other half have been living together for years and don't really feel the need for any kind of ceremony. We just want the marriage for legal, and tax reasons.

So,here's what I'm wondering. If we go down the registry office route, it'll take min 3 months and cost 200 euro. Is this right? What if we go to our local priest? Can this speed it up, and do we still have to pay 200euro. Or is part of the 200euro fee an actual charge for using the registry offices facilities on the day of the wedding?

Thanks in advance. Would feel just a little bad asking a priest if he could fast track a marriage, just for tax purposes!!

bee06

HIB wrote: »

Hi Milly,

Seems like you really know this process well. Maybe you could help me out too.

I'm looking for the cheapest and quickest way to get married. Romantic I know! But the truth is myself and other half have been living together for years and don't really feel the need for any kind of ceremony. We just want the marriage for legal, and tax reasons.

So,here's what I'm wondering. If we go down the registry office route, it'll take min 3 months and cost 200 euro. Is this right? What if we go to our local priest? Can this speed it up, and do we still have to pay 200euro. Or is part of the 200euro fee an actual charge for using the registry offices facilities on the day of the wedding?

Thanks in advance. Would feel just a little bad asking a priest if he could fast track a marriage, just for tax purposes!!

You always have to wait a minimum of 3 months regardless of whether it's church or civil ceremony unless you go to court and argue extra ordinary circumstances to get married quicker. You also always have to pay the 200 euro. If you get married in a civil ceremony at the registry office then there is no additional fees. If you go religious then you'll be expected to make a "donation" to the priest and/or church as well.

Milly33

Yep as above tis mad really but that is the score.. to get married legally it is €200 fee.. That is to register.. So lets say you can pay this and get registered in the HSE offices and that's it done and dusted.

Anything else, Church weddings, Humanist, Civil outside the HSE office is all extra.. From looking at the options looks like a priest can be anything from €100 to €400 extra, Celtic Priest or Humanist work from around €350 - €460 extra, and then to have civil ceremony outside the ref office depends on how far away the venue is from the office..

The cheapest is to go to the registry office but lets say if you did want a wedding day not in a church but another spot then you can go into the reg office with the two witnesses say "I dos" and then just have a friend or even a priest if you know one to say a few words on the chosen day..

HIB

Thanks for the replies.
Looks like we're 'living in sin' for another few months so

Milly33

What is sin sure!! Well after going to a few weddings this summer I am seriously trying to re-think our own. We have lots of fun ideas but I would defiantly say do not knock going to the reg office followed by a nice meal in a nearby restaurant with a group of great family and friends..

Been to three this year going from Country house to fancy hotel and to be honest they were all yawn, was chatting to a friend and remembered one last year were we meet with the wedding party in a local bar after they had gone for dinner with the immediate family and wedding guests and it was great could not fault the night