Ever had your heart broken.

LegacyUser

Hi, Have you ever had your heart broken by a significant other? If so how long did it take you to get over the hurt, what coping mechanisms did you use to help yourself? I am asking because recently I've had my heart broke in a LTR where I was cheated on and then left for the other person after a long period of lies and betrayal. TBH I'm struggling a bit with it and would just like some peoples personal experiences to reassure me that it does get better, because at the moment I'm not sure it will. Thanks.

secondcap

I am so sorry for your pain, I can only share my experience, My marriage broke up for many many reasons but my spouse had an affair with someone which turned out to be the last straw,It hurt so bad and was like someone sticking a knife in me without wishing to sound dramatic. There will be dark days ahead of you but eventually it subsides with the help of time and patience, dont let anger and bitterness chew you up although of course some of this is only natural and is a part of the healing process. I still have bad days even a year and 1/2 on but have more peace of mind and learned to let it go.

Other tips would be good excersise, counselling, avoid alcohol, casual relationships or even new ones for a while.

I wish you well and you will find strength you didnt know you had.

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It will get easier, but it does take some time

I know it's clichéd but casual relationships are very helpful (not necessarily sexual encounters), I found that just meeting and chatting with new people, people I would never have become friendly with if I was still in a relationship made me realize just how toxic the whole thing was.

Good luck OP!

buried

Hi Op, Sorry to hear about the situation you have currently found yourself in, I've been there myself and no doubt countless other's have also. What I have always done in this kind of situation is immerse myself in the hobbies and interests that I have always been able to enjoy solely for myself. Begin to treat yourself on what you enjoy doing, its hard to fathom or even realise that can be done so soon after a break-up as the feelings concerning the matter can be so raw and painful, but you can relieve a lot of those feelings in the knowledge you now have the freedom to do what you personally want to do and can enjoy for yourself. It's a powerful frame of mind once it takes effect. And it attracts, it attracts a better sort of person who won't deceive and betray your confidence, not even for a relationship's sake, it will attract more friend's, more avenue's, more people, and from that - more potential relationship's to explore for yourself.
Best of luck for the future and take care of yourself :-)