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Turned 24 and 5 people wished me happy birthday
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08-09-2014 6:17pm#1
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I've got 1 really good friend from my childhood who I see about 4 or 5 times a week, 2 from school who I see around once every month or two and 2 who don't even live in the country. I guess I feel like I should be more well liked and more popular (probably a childish attitude to have). I should really have more than 5 friends though in fairness.
Actually you're being hard on yourself here. I'm guessing you're still young and at the age where it seems like everyone has dozens of friends. If you ask someone who's a few years older than you how many close friends they have, the number will be very low. It's perfectly normal to "only" have two or three friends. Most people have a handful of close friends then a wider circle of drinking buddies, sporting buddies etc.I've no idea how to improve in this area. I work, and while I get on with some of my co-workers I wouldn't consider any of them as friends. I'd only go out socially with them when the rest of the office is going out together. I still live at home and am 45 minutes commute from work. I'm fairly shy, find it difficult to open up and let people see the real me (who happens to be a down to earth, funny person) and I don't really have any social hobbies.
Part of your problem may be that you're living at home. It's a comfort zone and it makes it all too easy for you to stay home in the evenings. Unfortunately new friends aren't going to magically materialise and drop into your lap. You're going to have to make the effort to get out more and meet people. Find out what sports/clubs/activities are in your area. Other boardsies here recommend meetup.com so maybe there'll be something of interest on that too. Would your friend be willing to come along with you even just at the start if you felt shy?
And by the way, Happy Birthday
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It's quality not quantity. You probably could do with expanding your social circle however. Not in a bid to 'collect' friends or whatever but meeting new people is fun. Take up some new hobbies and you're bound to meet some new people. Happy Birthday 0
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Happy birthday op.
you're twenty four? you've it all going for you! I've one main friend who I know from school. We go away every year together on holiday, and she still asks me for my birthday when booking tickets. :-)
My two brothers forgot my birthday this year until my sister rang them the next day.
I know how you feel, but hey the 5 friends that did wish it must really think something of ya. so you think something of yourself too. happy birthday 0 -
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It'sMaBurthday wrote: »I've got 1 really good friend from my childhood who I see about 4 or 5 times a week, 2 from school who I see around once every month or two and 2 who don't even live in the country. I guess I feel like I should be more well liked and more popular (probably a childish attitude to have). I should really have more than 5 friends though in fairness.
That is a really good situation to be in. A lot of people your age don't even have 1 close friend. Just because someone gets 50 birthday messages on facebook doesn't mean they have 50 friends. They might all be associates. Count yourself lucky.
Edit: Oh, and happy birthday 0 -
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I think people (partiuclarly younger people who were not adults prior to the advent of Facebook) have been programmed too much into falling for the perceived social importance of Facebook and are fooled by those who project a certain lifestyle via what they share on their timeline as being happy constantly with a great party lifestyle going on, loads of group snapshots posted every Saturday night etc. They also seek validation through the number of Likes, responses and birthday greetings etc, and worse compare their self worth to those on FB who appear to be getting more attention. FB is a great invention for keeping in touch but can be tough for the insecure.
As others have said, if it pops up on your timeline that it is an FB friend's birthday you are more likely to send a greeting. I've sent such greetings to mere acquaintances that just happened to be FB friends and omitted to send same to much closer friends who's birthday's I forgot and wasn't alerted to on FB. It hardly means I've more closeness with such an acquaintance over a dear friend or relative.
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