tax break unmarried couple

gettinhitched

Hi can someone please help... we are an un married couple..(.engaged but cant afford to marry yet) we have 2 kids 1 and 3, my partner is working and im not I havent since the kids were born I was on illness benefit for the last 2 years but that is due to stop this month. My question is regards my partners tax he pays 230 a week! In tax and we are struggling he works nights is there any tax break credits ANYTHING he can get for me and the kids?? Please an someone advise us???
Thanks in advance x

Cocolola

Is there any possibility of you getting married without all the bells and whistles? As in in a registry office? It only costs €200 AFAIK and you can always have a more personal ceremony with family and friends in the future when funds allow for it.

barneystinson

gettinhitched wrote: »

Hi can someone please help... we are an un married couple..(.engaged but cant afford to marry yet) we have 2 kids 1 and 3, my partner is working and im not I havent since the kids were born I was on illness benefit for the last 2 years but that is due to stop this month. My question is regards my partners tax he pays 230 a week! In tax and we are struggling he works nights is there any tax break credits ANYTHING he can get for me and the kids?? Please an someone advise us???
Thanks in advance x

Unfortunately not. I'd suggest a quick quiet trip to a registry office... ;-)

gettinhitched

Cocolola wrote: »

Is there any possibility of you getting married without all the bells and whistles? As in in a registry office? It only costs €200 AFAIK and you can always have a more personal ceremony with family and friends in the future when funds allow for it.

Thanks for the reply
We were thinking that and were thinking reg office but dont want our family's to know ( very very Catholic familys) so if we did that and when it comes to getting married in a church how csn we avoid the signing of the register for pix and that can we fake it??

Cocolola

gettinhitched wrote: »

Thanks for the reply
We were thinking that and were thinking reg office but dont want our family's to know ( very very Catholic familys) so if we did that and when it comes to getting married in a church how csn we avoid the signing of the register for pix and that can we fake it??

Hmmm, I'm not 100% on this but for some reason I have it in my head that some people do a pretend signing for the pictures in the church and then go into the back rooms to actually sign the real thing. I wonder if you could have your bridal party/witnesses in on the "secret" and keep the parents out of the room? And convince the priest to keep quiet?? I dunno to be honest that sounds mad! Is there any way they'd understand your wanting to get legally married asap and be open to helping you do a religious ceremony in the future? That way you'd still be giving them what they wanted.

I personally have no time for this business of peoples' parents getting involved in their children's weddings or people being afraid to have/don't have religious ceremonies for fear of upsetting others but that's just me. There's no offence intended there btw, I'm not having a go at you but I like to try get people to think about standing up for themselves when it comes to parents and weddings and christenings etc. Easier said than done I know. Sorry I think I went a bit off topic there

But anyway I'd think of it like this, you and your fiancé are losing out on a lot of income through this tax situation and to me, sorting that out would be a lot more important than either waiting until you can afford a religious wedding to suit both your parents or having to pretend that you guys didn't have a reg office ceremony.

owiseone

If your parents are that religious surely they would prefer you were legally married and not, as a good catholic would see it "living in sin" and having two children "born outside wedlock". What do your parents think of your current situation? If they have accepted that and not disowned you for your "heathen ways" maybe you could get married in registry office and get a church blessing another time. Taxwise it is definitely more beneficial to get married.