Dating site, without photo

BandyMandy

And before the smart-asses reply, yes, I am too ugly to put a photo up! ...It's not just that I'm ugly, I just don't want anyone I know seen me.
Is there any dating sites you can join without having to upload your photo?

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy

This one.

Just post some smut, and wait for the PMs to come rolling in.

Banjo String

BandyMandy wrote: »

And before the smart-asses reply, yes, I am too ugly to put a photo up! ...It's not just that I'm ugly, I just don't want anyone I know seen me.
Is there any dating sites you can join without having to upload your photo?

Yeah, try moose-singletons.com op.

SouthTippBass

Guess what? The people you know who are going to see you, are already using that dating site themselves! Mad I know. Also, you're not going to get anywhere without a photo.

tomwaterford

BandyMandy wrote: »

And before the smart-asses reply, yes, I am too ugly to put a photo up! ...It's not just that I'm ugly, I just don't want anyone I know seen me.
Is there any dating sites you can join without having to upload your photo?

will you not just end up looking at loads of blank profiles with no one else with photos up???

sure for anyone you know to see you...they will have to be there as well

Talib Fiasco

What's the bloody point of setting up a dating profile without a picture. You'll either be labelled a perverted creep, ugly, too concerned and scared of people's opinion of you or all three. It's as pointless as Anne Frank's drum kit.

BandyMandy

SouthTippBass wrote: »

Guess what? The people you know who are going to see you, are already using that dating site themselves! Mad I know. Also, you're not going to get anywhere without a photo.

Cant someone just get to know someone's personality first?

Shakespeare's Sister

That's like putting an ad up on Daft without pictures of the rooms - you won't get any interest.

Trebor176

On such sites, I like to know who I am chatting with. To quote many users in their profiles "no pic, no reply!" I wouldn't even bother reading the profile in the first place. Most forums are different, however.

Bepolite

Neither I nor my wife of 7 years had a photo up.

BandyMandy

Talib Fiasco wrote: »

What's the bloody point of setting up a dating profile without a picture. You'll either be labelled a perverted creep, ugly, too concerned and scared of people's opinion of you or all three. It's as pointless as Anne Frank's drum kit.

But there must be other people who feel like me?

Westernyelp

Bepolite wrote: »

Neither I nor my wife of 7 years had a photo up.

And are ye having any luck getting dates?

F1ngers

Talib Fiasco wrote: »

It's as pointless as Anne Frank's drum kit.

Ba-dum tish.

Oops mommy, my bad.

BandyMandy

Bepolite wrote: »

Neither I nor my wife of 7 years had a photo up.

Did you meet each other on a dating site?

Talib Fiasco

BandyMandy wrote: »

But there must be other people who feel like me?

Robots? In all fairness wouldn't you want to see the picture of the woman/man you're communicating with in a sexual/flirty/dating type of way?

Bepolite

Westernyelp wrote: »

And are ye having any luck getting dates?

Just drop the car keys in the bowl.

Trebor176

BandyMandy wrote: »

But there must be other people who feel like me?

Well, it's one reason why there is the option to have private images. Therefore, nobody needs to see you, unless you trust them enough to share your picture(s) with them.

tomwaterford

Bepolite wrote: »

Neither I nor my wife of 7 years had a photo up.

you'll not get so much as a reply nowadays without photo (hard enough with a photo )....esp with cameraphones and more easily asscess to mobile internet...

the_syco

Sure, there are a few profiles on POF.com without pictures, but you have to ensure that you fill out your profile a lot more. No pic, no profile equals no contact.

Bepolite

BandyMandy wrote: »

Did you meet each other on a dating site?

Yes ten years ago though so I half agree with the below, however...

tomwaterford wrote: »

you'll not get so much as a reply nowadays without photo (hard enough with a photo )....esp with cameraphones and more easily asscess to mobile internet...

Not if you're a girl, you'd get a reply if you put up your age and sex if you're female. I can't comment to the quality of the replies though.

Fr_Dougal

BandyMandy wrote: »

Cant someone just get to know someone's personality first?

How many times have you closed your eyes when you're in a bar/club and started chatting to someone random? I'd wager never.

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BandyMandy wrote: »

And before the smart-asses reply, yes, I am too ugly to put a photo up! ...It's not just that I'm ugly, I just don't want anyone I know seen me.

Especially your wife.

Bepolite

TheZohan wrote: »

How many times have you closed your eyes when you're in a bar/club and started chatting to someone random? I'd wager never.

LOL we're all chatting away to people here we've no clue about.

The Backwards Man

Ooh Mandy, well you came and you gave without taking (a photo)
And I sent you away ooh Mandy.

fartman

If a person is interested in you can you send them a picture of you then.

BandyMandy

Ahhh, I think I'll join the monks/nuns.

The Diabolical Monocle

Compensate for the lack of a photo with a guarantee that you're not a sex offender.

Bepolite

The Diabolical Monocle wrote: »

Compensate for the lack of a photo with a guarantee that you're not a sex offender.

Or are if you're female.

tomwaterford

Bepolite wrote: »

Yes ten years ago though so I half agree with the below, however...



Not if you're a girl, you'd get a reply if you put up your age and sex if you're female. I can't comment to the quality of the replies though.

ive known young wans whove struggled to get msgs/replys from online dating with no photos up

Talib Fiasco

BandyMandy wrote: »

Ahhh, I think I'll join the monks/nuns.

What's so bad about putting up a photo of yourself? You think you're ugly? We always pick faults with ourselves that nobody else sees or actually do not exist. Be proud of what you are and what you have. F*ck thoughts like "I'm not photogenic"...being a positive and genuine person will shine through in a picture more than a cool piercing or what have you. A true smile is a genuine one and a real smile is always attractive.

You're afraid of someone you know finding you? What is there to be ashamed of? You're a human being, dating is a natural thing and online dating is almost as common as real life dating. What's the worst they can say, "oh _____ has a dating profile, they must want to find someone"....that's all they can say if they're actually someone worth knowing. If they make snide remarks then they aren't worth the time of day.

Put yourself out there, you literally have nothing to lose

The Diabolical Monocle

You're a wimminz - therefore you can dye your hair, extend your hair, wear a wig, color yourself orange, and do all manner of mad stuff without being called gay.


Just disguise yourself at the start.

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BandyMandy wrote: »

Cant someone just get to know someone's personality first?

Personally I'd have no interest in getting to know someone's personality without having an idea of who I'm talking to. In fact, I'd probably want to FaceTime them or Skype them beforehand incase they catfished my ass.

MistyCheese

Date me. Sight unseen. It's the new thing, like Facebook but without the faces.

Nermal

Bepolite wrote: »

Neither I nor my wife of 7 years had a photo up.

If you like pina coladas...

BandyMandy

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Ooh Mandy, well you came and you gave without taking (a photo)
And I sent you away ooh Mandy.

Nice one! that made me LOL!

_Whimsical_

BandyMandy wrote: »

But there must be other people who feel like me?

I'd feel the same. I've never tried a dating site but if I did I'd much rather do it without a photo for all the same reasons you've mentioned. Also I wouldn't really want to be rejected on the basis on my appearance from the comfort of my sofa. I'd rather be cocooned away from that crap in my own house, on my internet!

There's nothing to stop you giving it a go without a pic for a few weeks though. Write a decent profile and message interesting looking men yourself, apparently men on dating sites receive far fewer messages than women so they might respond to the bit of attention.
Try to open with something dazzlingly clever and funny though!

blankblank

Craigslist??

westliferule

I met my boyfriend online about three years ago. At first things were going great we spend all our spare time together and were mad about each other. One day about 18 months ago randomly stopped texting me I had not heard from him for about a couple months so I thought it was over but stayed single just in case. About a year later he text me asking how I was and wanted to met up. I replied asking him where he vanished to for a year but he did not reply. I met with him and he was very different to how things used to be. We went out a couple times and things slowly went back to how it used to be. Recently he has stopped texting me again I am beginning to wonder is he cheating on me my friend joined the site we met on because I had told her that I met my boyfriend on it she was searching through profiles and came across his. What ye think is going on should I just move on?

biko

Unfortunately westlife it seems you're just a fling for him, not a girlfriend.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

He can't be cheating on you if you're not together.
A boyfriend disappears for 2 or 3 hours when he's sneaking to the pub with his friends instead of staying in with you like he promised. Not disappearing for a year. FFS. Meet someone else!

anncoates

Create a number of fake profiles (with bizarre sexual peccadillos) using photos of your friends so you have pisstaking ammunition if they find your profile.

cookiexx

Happened to me a few times with online dating I'd get chatting to someone who didn't have any photos up, we'd swap a few messages, get some great banter going, then they'd send me some photos privately and I'd be like, "oh. That's a pity".

Not that they'd be ugly but just not my type at all. And they'd have messaged me in the first place coz they liked my pics so it's a bit of unequal footing. Given it's a dating site and not something you've signed up to to make a few aul buddies, it's just got so much potential to waste yours and the people you talk to's time.

House of Blaze

Have to say, that's pretty weird westliferule.

bucketybuck

This is nothing as utterly pointless in this world as not having a profile picture on a dating website.

Who the fuck wants to date somebody that hasn't even the courage to show a simple picture of themselves? What are you going to do if you actually did get a reply and a date, show up with a towel over your head and tell him/her that its the conversation that matters, not the looks?