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Long Distance Advice - Quit Job and go Back??

  • 10-08-2014 4:18am
    #1
    BazzaNolan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1 ✭


    Well lads, new on here but heard it was a good spot for a bit of advice.

    Basically here's the story, myself and the girlfriend of about 2 years have been doing a long distance thing for about 8 months now. We were living together in Sydney for a while but she went home as her auld fella is shook and she went back to be there for him. It's at the point now where he's getting bad but noone knows how long he has left but from the point of looking at it now we're thinking she could be there for another year.

    I moved on up to Queensland and am working a good job and am saving up for a house back home for us.

    I'm thinking though that i'm being unfair and should be back there with her helping her through this, if i go back theres a 90% chance i wont pick up a good/any job as ive been looking whats about and applied for a few and it's slim.

    Now if the auld fella got really bad or something happened to him i told her i could get a month off or so and go back becuase for now she seems to be getting on fine and said im better off here saving for our future.

    I told her i would try to come back as soon as possible but i have my eyes set on March next year to go back as i should be in a good place to have the house sorted by then and my contract will finish.

    What do ye think? Is it worth pushing on the next 6 months on and being sorted financially or should I go back now?

    Not sure if i've made it all clear as day there but any advice any of ye could give me would be sound.

    Thanks
    Baz


Comments

  • #2
    Chattastrophe!
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,284 ✭✭✭Chattastrophe!


    I really don't see why you'd seriously consider going back? The long-distance thing seems to be working for both of you. I'm sure you miss her, but really how much practical support can you provide - it's more important to provide emotional support, which I'm sure you're doing already through text/phone calls/Skype/whatever.

    If I were you I'd stay where you are, and try to save as much as you can while you're there.

    Are you happy overall, apart from missing her? Do you have much of a social life there?


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I know it is not easy for either of you at the moment but by staying in Queensland until March of next year you will have more money saved. Long term these savings will make life better for you both. Also the jobs market might have improved by this time.

    If you come back here - yes you will be around for your girlfriend but you could end up on the dole. She was willing to move home as her mother needed her here.
    Along with this she is not expecting you to move back for a while because she knows long term your working towards buying a home for you both.
    The less money you have to borrow to buy/build a home the better it will be for you both long term.

    I know several couples who were in your position or where one of them lived away, worked long hours ect. They know it would be for a certain period of time. They told me at the time it was not easy but now 5 to 10 years later they said it was worth doing this.
    They now have a nice home, are not in a lot of debit and in some cases one person can stay at home with the children when the other person works.


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