lonely

marykitty47

So here I am on a Saturday crying my eyes out for the lsst 24hours because my friend let me down..the friend I have feelings for. Before ye start I can't not be friends with him he means too much. For asling as I remember I've always pushed people away with my anger. Not much anger but more standing up for myself. I thought at 28 my life would be alot different I'd at least met someone by now. Instead I'm alone pining over someone who has no interest in me that way. I have this awful feeling of loneliness. All my close friends have emigrated abroad and I'm here in a job I don't like but it is a great job. I just can't knock this loneliness feeling and find myself crying constantly I would love to go out tonight but all my remaining friends are in relationships. I think I might be depressed. How can I shake this feeling?

Topper7

marykitty47 wrote: »

So here I am on a Saturday crying my eyes out for the lsst 24hours because my friend let me down..the friend I have feelings for. Before ye start I can't not be friends with him he means too much. For asling as I remember I've always pushed people away with my anger. Not much anger but more standing up for myself. I thought at 28 my life would be alot different I'd at least met someone by now. Instead I'm alone pining over someone who has no interest in me that way. I have this awful feeling of loneliness. All my close friends have emigrated abroad and I'm here in a job I don't like but it is a great job. I just can't knock this loneliness feeling and find myself crying constantly I would love to go out tonight but all my remaining friends are in relationships. I think I might be depressed. How can I shake this feeling?

Just read this post from the opening page. It can be tough at times with just a few friends but with all the ways to communicate now with each other it should be a lot easier? Use viber, facebook, watsapp, Skype to stay in contact with old friends. There is also plenty of other ways to make new friends such as meet up & tinder (meet up used for groups of people to prmote a group of people to get together for any reason & its a open invite. Tinder moreso for socialising & getting to know people, normally opposite sex).

Finally there is always local clubs/charities that are always open to new members. Go explore these even if its just to get to know new people. Remember nothing is ever given in life, you have to get it so keep your head up & get out there. Hope this helps!

Neon_Lights

marykitty47 wrote: »

So here I am on a Saturday crying my eyes out for the lsst 24hours because my friend let me down..the friend I have feelings for. Before ye start I can't not be friends with him he means too much. For asling as I remember I've always pushed people away with my anger. Not much anger but more standing up for myself. I thought at 28 my life would be alot different I'd at least met someone by now. Instead I'm alone pining over someone who has no interest in me that way. I have this awful feeling of loneliness. All my close friends have emigrated abroad and I'm here in a job I don't like but it is a great job. I just can't knock this loneliness feeling and find myself crying constantly I would love to go out tonight but all my remaining friends are in relationships. I think I might be depressed. How can I shake this feeling?

Dont chase after one guy, get good with guys in general and then take your pick. People take the idea that love is this big fairytale and that you have to find "the one". Thats bull its the ideal that youve been fed by society.

The only reason you are in the situation you are in at any current time is cause of yourself and your decisions and actions and only when you accept this then you will grow. No point sitting down moping about it, so what you cant change his free will... next..

Im a guy and this is the approach i take to life and its stood me well.

Merkin

marykitty47 wrote: »

So here I am on a Saturday crying my eyes out for the lsst 24hours because my friend let me down..the friend I have feelings for. Before ye start I can't not be friends with him he means too much. For asling as I remember I've always pushed people away with my anger. Not much anger but more standing up for myself. I thought at 28 my life would be alot different I'd at least met someone by now. Instead I'm alone pining over someone who has no interest in me that way. I have this awful feeling of loneliness. All my close friends have emigrated abroad and I'm here in a job I don't like but it is a great job. I just can't knock this loneliness feeling and find myself crying constantly I would love to go out tonight but all my remaining friends are in relationships. I think I might be depressed. How can I shake this feeling?

Marykitty, you really truly need to seek professional help. Your ongoing threads about rejection, obsession and unrequited love all have the same themes and it really is high time you stopped with the weekly posts on PI and instead seek the help of a counsellor who can help you work through your myriad issues.

marykitty47

Merkin wrote: »

Marykitty, you really truly need to seek professional help. Your ongoing threads about rejection, obsession and unrequited love all have the same themes and it really is high time you stopped with the weekly posts on PI and instead seek the help of a counsellor who can help you work through your myriad issues.

A bit rude with your reply. You are entitled to your opinion I suppose.

Penny Tration

marykitty47 wrote: »

A bit rude with your reply. You are entitled to your opinion I suppose.

I think she's saying it with the best of intentions, marykitty.

Your posts are ALL about being rejected, being lonely, pining over men. You're only 28, you shouldn't be feeling like this.

You're not going to magically meet someone who'll fall in love with you and live happily ever after, when you're so neurotic and dare I say, desperate, when it comes to men.

You're young. You won't be alone forever. But you need to learn to be happy by yourself, or else you'll never be happy with somebody else. Nobody will make you happy. All they can do is add to pre-existing happiness.

For your own sake, speak to your GP. What you're feeling, based on your numerous threads, just isn't healthy, and I don't know if anyone here in PI/RI can help you, because you repeatedly ask the same themed questions and summarily reject the advice given.

Rubberchikken

When you feel up to talking to your gp, please do. It has to be hard to be young and sad that life isn't going the way you want.

Take care

marykitty47

Rubberchikken wrote: »

When you feel up to talking to your gp, please do. It has to be hard to be young and sad that life isn't going the way you want.

Take care

Its not as if I am sad all the time it's just once in a while like everyone else

Merkin

marykitty47 wrote: »

A bit rude with your reply. You are entitled to your opinion I suppose.

Perhaps it is rude. Unfortunately I have low tolerance for repeated threads on the same topic which bestow the same advice and yet you clearly choose to ignore time after time. I think seeking ongoing counsel on a public forum clearly isn't working and for that reason you need to seek help from a trained professional.

Merkin

marykitty47 wrote: »

Its not as if I am sad all the time it's just once in a while like everyone else

But other people don't start weekly threads on PI?

Taltos

Hi OP

The posters above have a really good point though to be honest I would have preferred if they had just reported your thread instead of backseat modding it, that can force us to have to take action there too.

Back on point though, this is not just the first or second post on this topic you have started in PI/RI, and that would be OK however it is one of a number over a very short time period and it appears that either intentionally or not you are continuing to ignore all of the constructive advice those posters have given you in the past here.

It is time therefore to "ask" you not to post on this topic again here, it will result in the thread being closed and if you persist may impact your ability to post here. Instead the only and best advice we can give you is to to and talk to a professional, you need to learn how to love yourself more, how to improve your self-esteem and how to healthily get to a point where these types of problems are a blip, where you can laugh and just move on with your friends have have fun. There is no magic pill here that is going to fix all of this, the only thing that will do this for you is you - take that first step and work through it, it might take you some time but I guarantee if you have the courage to find the right counsellor you can and will turn your life around and learn to deal in a constructive way with all of life's little stumbling blocks.

Again, sorry for having to take this step, and sorry for the essay. Hope it all works out for you - but do go to your GP and get a referral to someone who can help.

Thread closed.
Taltos