Me and My best friend really like these two guys but they don't notice us, Why? What

EVA20

Me and My best friend really like these two guys, we see them on the track near our apartment running training every Tuesday and Thursday evening. They both work at a take away most weekends so we often go there but they never notice us. One of our friends knows them because of this we know they are best friends since they were 16 (there 21 now) and that they want to travel, they like running, swimming and kayaking and have never had a relationship, they are doing business in college. Me and my friend have tried flirting with them but they just don't seem to notice us. We haven't really talked to them, only said hi and they say hi back or when they take our order at the take away but that's it.
Why don't they notice us? What can we do? How can we get them to notice us?

B0jangles

Maybe they are already in a relationship with each other?

Meauldsegosha

EVA20 wrote: »

only said hi and they say hi back or when they take our order at the take away but that's it.
Why don't they notice us? What can we do? How can we get them to notice us?

Maybe try and say more then Hi when you speak to them. Ask them some questions so they have to respond and then keep the conversation going.

RacoonQueen

B0jangles wrote: »

Maybe they are already in a relationship with each other?

I actually thought the title said ''these two gay guys'' so wondered why she was asking why they didn't notice her.

If they have never had a relationship, maybe they are shy...

Floppybits

B0jangles wrote: »

Maybe they are already in a relationship with each other?

Thought this myself reading the OP's post.

strobe

Are you two a good bit younger than them Eva?

Sauve

Mod
Hi OP,
I'm going to move your thread to the Relationship Issues forum, it's more suited to there.
Best of luck,
Sauve

Scone0

You said you've tried flirting with them and you also said ye only say hi to eachother... Improve on your flirting maybe, don't expect the guys to always make the first move

baby and crumble

TBH saying Hi and giving your order at a takeway isn't flirting.

Stavro Mueller

Maybe they just don't fancy you. It happens..

Lou.m

Maybe you are not their type. Maybe they are happy single. Or maybe they love each other and are gay who knows.


They do notice you they just do not feel the way you do about them about you. They don't reciprocate your interest. That does not mean anything about you two. But by not respecting their wishes you are actually not seeing them but are projecting your own feelings on to what expectations for what their feelings should be for you. If you noticed them as they are you would see that there is no connection.All you can do is straight out ask them out. Just because someone does not feel the same about you does not mean anything on your part. It does not define you. I don't think you can get someone to give the reaction that you want. Try and focus on other guys too.

It might not even be that they are homosexual sometimes people form very close intense friendships (especially men) where they just know each others thoughts well and click like one. They tend not to need others. It sounds like they do a lot together. It might be a romantic relationship too. I don't know.

But you say you have not really talked to them? Maybe try that and see what happens. Don't go about it as if you are trying to get noticed though. Genuinely try and get to know them and see what they are like. Don't create something in your head that might not be there. They might just not fancy you.

Idle Passerby

You and your friend are two random customers who say hi to them sometimes. You cant have flirted with them if you've never said more than hello. Unless by flirting you mean batting eyelashes or something, the guys are likely not to have even registered that as interest on your part.

Seeing as you've never even spoken to them, you don't know anything about these guys, how do you know you fancy them other than thinking they look good?

I could be wrong but I'm guessing you and your friend might still be in secondary school. If that's the case, there is your reason why two guys in college are not passing any heed of you.

If your really keen to get these guys to notice you though, you will actually have to talk to them, get to know them a bit, show that you are interested saying more than hello.