Worried about dreams

LegacyUser

Hey Guys,

I am in a very loving relationship about 2 years and I love my girlfriend to bits. However over the last month or two I have started to have a lot of `wet' dreams about a friend of mine (a girl). We've been friends for years and I am not really attracted to her in that way.

Should I be worried that I am having these dreams? Or just write it off as an over active subconscious libido??

I should note that myself and my girlfriend have a pretty good sex life, we usually sleep together 4 or 5 times a week and we both initiate the romance.

Thanks

Tokyo

Dreams are just that - dreams. We have all had dreams at some stage about someone that we wouldn't normally be interested in. Rather than worrying unnecessarily about it, write it off to an active imagination, and move on.

LegacyUser

Hey Mike,

Thanks for the response. I am just worried about the frequency of the dreams and that they are always about her?

Tokyo

Personally, I'm of the opinion that dreams are just the subconscious trying to work through the stresses of everyday life, nothing more, nothing less. It really doesn't mean anything. It can begin to if you make it, though, and it's possible that simply worrying about the dreams is causing them to recur. As I said earlier, try not to let it bother you, your actions and feelings for your girlfriend speak far more for you than your dreams about someone else, which you have no real control over.

LegacyUser

Thanks Mike, I'll try and not obsessive over them so lol

Lou.m

WorriedDreamer wrote: »

Hey Guys,

I am in a very loving relationship about 2 years and I love my girlfriend to bits. However over the last month or two I have started to have a lot of `wet' dreams about a friend of mine (a girl). We've been friends for years and I am not really attracted to her in that way.

Should I be worried that I am having these dreams? Or just write it off as an over active subconscious libido??

I should note that myself and my girlfriend have a pretty good sex life, we usually sleep together 4 or 5 times a week and we both initiate the romance.

Thanks

No you not should be worried.

Needless to say though I would not tell your GF or this girl about your dreams. Keep it private.

I had a recurring sex dream that I was having sex with cloud! See it means nothing.
Circuits in the brain become activated during REM sleep, which causes areas of the limbic system involved in emotions, sensations and memories, including the amygdala and hippocampus, to become active. The brain synthesizes and interprets this internal activity and attempts to find meaning in these signals, which results in dreaming. This model suggests that dreams are a subjective interpretation of signals generated by the brain during sleep. Basically one part of your brain fire off emotions and it hits of another memory part randomly and creates a dream. Your brain activated desire and a memory activated, it could have been a lampost you had sex with. You also respond to your surroundings when you sleep too.


I don't dream of people often. It is just your brain decompiling information it has collected. It is Information Processing and Memory your brain needs it to function.

Actually your brain cannot shut off exactly it has to keep functioning in some way or you would be brain dead.

It's rebooting.

As you say you are not actually attracted to this girl in that way.

a possible (though certainly not proven) function of a dream to be weaving new material into the memory system in a way that both reduces emotional arousal and is adaptive in helping us cope with further trauma or stressful events.



In short don't worry about it. You have said yourself you don't feel that way about her. I would keep it to yourself though