I'm feeling sad and lonely now

I just had a Skype chat with my parents and my nephew and niece.

My 5 year old nephew dropped a bombshell of a question: "Why have you never got married?"

I could see my mother immediately start well up a little but and she started wiping her eyes.

It made me feel embarrassed and a bit ashamed, I think it breaks my mother's heart a little bit that I'm not married with kids at this stage in my life.

I'm pushing on 33 year old and am a bloke by the way.

To be honest I am a hetrosexual guy but I've just never met a woman that I'd like to spend my life with who felt the same way about me.

Not sure if I should just "settle" for someone, which I think most married couples eventually do anyway.

I do want to get married some day but I take quite seriously the idea that it's "for life" so don't want to do it unless I'm 100% sure.

I will await the inevitable "man up", "grow a pair" comments as well as any other advice or opinions.

Also anything funny would be most welcome.

sleepytrees

Why haven't you got married yet?

Hande hoche!

Spend more time with your bitter, divorced friends.

Tilly

Never settle. Ever.

dodderangler

Too expensive to get married mate.
Never got the whole fascination with marriage. I'm with my gf 5 years. Getting married isn't on me mind. It's just a ring on the finger and if it goes wrong she gets everything so I'm alri where I am

super_furry

Honestly as a bloke I think that 33 is too young to be having those thoughts. There's plenty of time and you shouldn't be putting yourself under any kind of pressure to get married now just because your mother wants you to - that would be the bigger problem as I see it. And lets face it, women don't really got for mammy's boys. She's lived her life how she saw fit, you live yours.

The_Valeyard

33 is still very young man, you have loads more years before you should start thinking the way you are

Never settle, end up worse in the long run.
Avoid those telling you to 'man up', all in your own time, no rush.


anyhow, it could be worse,

you could have been this guy...

4zn76tysfajdxp

Deleted User wrote: »

I just had a Skype chat with my parents and my nephew and niece.

My 5 year old nephew dropped a bombshell of a question: "Why have you never got married?"

I could see my mother immediately start well up a little but and she started wiping her eyes.

She was probably already getting extremely bored waiting for the "I just haven't met the right girl" and "I don't wanna settle" spiels. Poor woman.

Macavity.

Deleted User wrote: »

Not sure if I should just "settle" for someone, which I think most married couples eventually do anyway.

To be honest, so many people do this. My biggest fear in life is being married to someone I can just about tolerate, just for the sake of it. In the end of the day it's your life not your Mothers, and you have to do what's right for you. Early thirties is still quite young anyway.

Frosty McSnowballs

Take your time and find the right person. Settling sucks balls.

Don't fcuking do it. Best of luck man.

Get a new mother, the one you have now doesn't seem like a positive influence on your life.

RayM

Deleted User wrote: »

I'm pushing on 33 year old and am a bloke by the way.

In fairness, 33 is young. And as a single 32-year-old, I'm going to keep telling myself that.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pUEV4rnu5V8

mad muffin

Don't worry. My wife's uncle is 47 and never even had a girlfriend or even had sex…

My two sisters. One is 33 the other 29 have been living together for probably 10 years. We call them the old spinsters. We doubt they'll ever marry or have kids.


My family call me Obi Wan, because I'm their only hope for kids.

stateofflux

before you do anything watch this first...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5hPjRPJKlK8

The_Valeyard

A Greedy Algorithm wrote: »

Marriage doesn't actually exist its just a made up thing that 2 people do. Like Unicorns.

single are we?

Slutmonkey57b

Senor Fancy Pants wrote: »

Take your time and find the right person. Settling sucks balls.

Don't fcuking do it. Best of luck man.

I agree, if you end up sucking balls you'll find it very difficult to get married.

4zn76tysfajdxp

mad muffin wrote: »

My wife's uncle is 47 and never even had a girlfriend or even had sex…

mad muffin wrote: »

My two sisters. One is 33 the other 29 have been living together for probably 10 years. We call them the old spinsters. We doubt they'll ever marry or have kids.

Two birds, meet one stone.

sleepytrees

mad muffin wrote: »

Don't worry. My wife's uncle is 47 and never even had a girlfriend or even had sex…

My two sisters. One is 33 the other 29 have been living together for probably 10 years. We call them the old spinsters. We doubt they'll ever marry or have kids.


My family call me Obi Wan, because I'm their only hope for kids.

How is this reassuring........? So nice that you call your sisters 'the old spinster' bet they love that! Hope they get married before you :P

Yeah and I just read the bit about your wives uncle but still.... after you get divorced I hope they get married before you

Dowl88

Hookers wilk work out much cheaper in the long run.

Larianne

You're 33 not 63!

Lots of time to find someone.

Never settle!

dd972

If it happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't, thrown the kitchen sink at trying to make it happen. Sometimes you'd think the ''why are you single'' brigade were actually born married.

mosstin

Slutmonkey57b wrote: »

I agree, if you end up sucking balls you'll find it very difficult to get married.

Or, to look at it another way, if you work out a way to suck your own, you'll never want to get married.

dd972

mad muffin wrote: »

Don't worry. My wife's uncle is 47 and never even had a girlfriend or even had sex…/QUOTE]


Bet you believed in Jimmy Saville's eccentricity as well....:pac:

sleepytrees

Don't get me started on mothers, if you're not married, they get upset 'jayus, were did me and yer da go wrong' Then when yer married "Wen are ya gonna have a real family, you're not getting any younger"
Then when you have kids " In my day we were peeling potatoes at that age, not being spoiled rotten"

It never ever never ends....EVER

My ma gets tears in her eyes when she see my face!!

sheesh

A Greedy Algorithm wrote: »

Marriage doesn't actually exist its just a made up thing that 2 people do. Like Unicorns.

you and your significant other do unicorns???:eek:

OP it is not too late at all. In fact you are the right age to start looking really your old enough to know what you want and know what you are going to be doing for the forseeable future with regards to where you are going to live and what you are probably going to be doing.

you could meet someone tomorrow and be married in 5 years if that is what you wanted.

lulu1

OP dont get married just for the sake of it and dont settle for second best. You have plenty of time to meet the right person

AnonoBoy

dodderangler wrote: »

Too expensive to get married mate.
Never got the whole fascination with marriage. I'm with my gf 5 years. Getting married isn't on me mind. It's just a ring on the finger and if it goes wrong she gets everything so I'm alri where I am

If you're living with your Missus for five years and you break up either of you could file for maintenance.

Doesn't matter if you're married or not.

Hah!

_Redzer_

I lost €88 betting on horses today. I need a sha... I mean hug

sheesh

sheesh wrote: »

you could meet someone tomorrow and be married in 5 years if that is what you wanted.

I actually do believe this (might be a bit arrogant), but I'd rather not do it for the sake of it.

buried

You should have told him the truth, which would be to mind his own filthy business and ascertain some goddamn manners for himself

buried

buried wrote: »

You should have told him the truth, which would be to mind his own filthy business and ascertain some goddamn manners for himself

never thought about that, might say it to him if he asks again!

haha like the constructive comments people have given, as well as the funny ones!

sleepytrees

You should of told the 5 year old, Santa is dead Total diversion from 'you not being married' talk!

Donkey Oaty

Time saving tip: find a woman you don't like and give her your house.

Fat Christy

I hope this song makes you feel better:

mad muffin

Cali Shapely Turbine wrote: »

Two birds, meet one stone.

Haha. We have joked about it before

sleepytrees wrote: »

How is this reassuring........? So nice that you call your sisters 'the old spinster' bet they love that! Hope they get married before you :P

Yeah and I just read the bit about your wives uncle but still.... after you get divorced I hope they get married before you

Obviously, we don't call them that to their face

dd972 wrote: »

mad muffin wrote: »

Don't worry. My wife's uncle is 47 and never even had a girlfriend or even had sex…/QUOTE]


Bet you believed in Jimmy Saville's eccentricity as well....:pac:

He does like to go "golfing" in Thailand with a mate of his :eek:

sleepytrees

Obviously, we don't call them that to their face

dd972 wrote: »

Ah well thats different then...............

relationship
A legal form of prostitution where a female collects money, cars, and other valuable things in exchange for sex.
i gave tiffany a really expensive diamond for the aniversary of our one year relationship last night.

yeah but did you get laid?

you know it!

sleepytrees

Deleted User wrote: »

relationship
A legal form of prostitution where a female collects money, cars, and other valuable things in exchange for sex.
i gave tiffany a really expensive diamond for the aniversary of our one year relationship last night.

yeah but did you get laid?

you know it!

Ah here, just cause your not married don't be going ****ting on all other marriages....

Dyr

listen horse, Im 40 and seeing all me mates marriages that are now breaking down and them being cleaned out in the courts has made me appreciate that marriage is'nt some finishing line you need to hit before a certain age

And dont your ma gamming on.

sleepytrees

Bambi wrote: »

listen horse, Im 40 and seeing all me mates marriages that are now breaking down and them being cleaned out in the courts has made me appreciate that marriage is'nt some finishing line you need to hit before a certain age

And dont your ma gamming on.

^Is this to the OP or Sarah Jessica Parker?

Remmy

You just got besmirched by a 5 year old.

Tuisceanch

Nearly everybody I meet these days has one,if not more,failed marriages behind them so being single without having the bitterness of an acrimonious divorce behind you and children you never see is not worst position to find yourself in. Also,as many have said already,33 is no age at all with respect to settling down. Enjoy the now and you are more likely to meet somebody who you want to be with.

siblers

Married at 33? **** that.

recylingbin

You're too younf to get merried at 33. At that age, you should be dying of drug overdoses or getting crucified. Leave the marriage for a few years.

your only 33!! As someone put perfectly marriage isnt the finishing line,

I know plenty of people in 30s and 40s who are not single and very happy,

ceadaoin.

You're only 33, plenty of time to meet someone and get married. Is your mother normally such a drama queen/emotionally manipulative? She definitely knows how to work the guilt trip anyway!

RayM

Remmy wrote: »

You just got besmirched by a 5 year old.

In those situations, you really need to be ready with a witty retort. Something really sharp and cutting like "Well, I might be single, but at least I've got pubic hair."

Thoie

Head over to the wedding forum, pick the first thread you see, read all of it, then sit back and thank your lucky stars.

Magenta

My dad was 34 when he met my mam and 35/36 when they married... that was back in the day when a man would have been married years by that stage... they've been happily married all this time and he is definitely glad he didn't settle and get married to the wrong person just for the sake of fitting in.

The Backwards Man

I'm not getting married until I'm at least 55.

Sir Arthur Daley

The Backwards Man wrote: »

I'm not getting married until I'm at least 55.

Just to avail of reduced wedding rates?