still single @ 32

cindrella

So as title says I'm 32 and single would love to meet someone but its hard I'm a full time carer so my time is limited. Don't drink but enjoy going out the odd time.im the funny one in the group always laughing and making jokes. Gets me down sometimes not to have someone to share stuff with etc any advice on how to meet like minded people like myself would be great

skooterblue2

Its a wonderful job you are doing being a carer but you have to make time for "Cinderella time" to go to the ball.
This is not just for you, this is for your client as well. You will get cabin fever if you are not Cinders for a few hours outside house or a night once a week.

One of the game changers about dating in your 30's is most of your friends are married and left the pub and should have left the club scene. You have to start shopping else where.......

The great thing about dating in your thirties is you have the experience to spot certain types of people you didnt have when you were with in your 20's. You can spot a guy who is fond of his drink, regular gambler, etc etc

Internet dating is fairly difficult with minefields at the best of times. I really empathise with you. The dating pool really narrows after 30. This might seem like a busmans holiday but volunteering usually shows up better individuals. As in people who do things for other people who expect nothing in return, People who give their free time to others.

Hang on in there Cinder ..... Prince Charming isnt coming along because he doesnt exist, but there are many other fine men out there ..... you just have to keep looking. The best of men get passed off every day of the week

Rubberchikken

would any of your friends have other friends/work colleagues they could introduce you to?
it has to be hard being a full time carer and trying to have a life outside.

good luck

Mr. Loverman

Are you doing everything you can to maximize your physical attraction?

Slim (portion control and calorie counting; you don't need the gym.)
Clean teeth
Nice hairstyle and nice clean hair
Clean skin
Not too much makeup, applied correctly.
Age appropriate fashionable/stylish clothes. Ask your most stylish friend to help you with this.
Good posture
Smile a lot

skooterblue2

Mr. Loverman wrote: »

Slim (portion control and calorie counting; you don't need the gym.)
Clean teeth
Nice hairstyle and nice clean hair
Clean skin
Not too much makeup, applied correctly.
Age appropriate fashionable/stylish clothes. Ask your most stylish friend to help you with this.
Good posture
Smile a lot

Nah .... Most carers I know have their Care Assistants course done and are well aware of these things....... I am more going with Time management/Time & Place thing.

skooterblue2

Sorry I think it is more likely the OP doesnt get out to meet the right people or is in the right place at the right time.

The OP might consider a hobby or something else that takes her outside the house.

Does the OP get one or two night out in the week for her own personal time?

JeffKenna

Online dating seems the obvious choice?

cindrella

Just to clarify a few things im a full time carer to my mum look after everyday 9-9 Sometimes I get a few hours off here and there or if I need to go somewhere at night etc I get a family member to cover yes I have done hca course but common sense I always wear clean clothes hair etc. Have my own hse etc

JeffKenna

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OP has awful as it sounds but your career choice does seem to be hampering your search for a partner. Is there any way to share the work with the rest of your family? Personally speaking I would find it hard to enter into a relationship when so much of your time is dedicated to your mother? I mean like 9-9 with a few hours off here and there. How are you expected to have time for yourself, to find a partner and then after to invest enough time to make a relationship from it?

RebelButtMunch

cindrella wrote: »

So as title says I'm 32 and single would love to meet someone but its hard I'm a full time carer so my time is limited. Don't drink but enjoy going out the odd time.im the funny one in the group always laughing and making jokes. Gets me down sometimes not to have someone to share stuff with etc any advice on how to meet like minded people like myself would be great

I've seen meetup.com mentioned a few times on boards. Maybe have a look there

cindrella

JeffKenna wrote: »

Maybe park the aggression at the door.

OP has awful as it sounds but your career choice does seem to be hampering your search for a partner. Is there any way to share the work with the rest of your family? Personally speaking I would find it hard to enter into a relationship when so much of your time is dedicated to your mother? I mean like 9-9 with a few hours off here and there. How are you expected to have time for yourself, to find a partner and then after to invest enough time to make a relationship from it?

To be honest I like my career choice I choose to leave work when my mam became ill as I feel like we only get one and I enjoy it.

I do get time off when I need it can be free anytime after 6 most evenings if I wanted to and get the odd saturday off now and again.

Yeah time is a problem but most people work in day and meet up in evenings

JeffKenna

cindrella wrote: »

To be honest I like my career choice I choose to leave work when my mam became ill as I feel like we only get one and I enjoy it.

I do get time off when I need it can be free anytime after 6 most evenings if I wanted to and get the odd saturday off now and again.

Yeah time is a problem but most people work in day and meet up in evenings

Well first off I hope your mother isn't in too much discomfort. While it's your life, I have often thought about this situation myself and I do think from the sound of your post you need to make more time for yourself. If your working 7 days a week at home then it is almost impossible to meet someone.

Do you live in the country or a town/city? Would you not consider online dating?

cindrella

JeffKenna wrote: »

Well first off I hope your mother isn't in too much discomfort. While it's your life, I have often thought about this situation myself and I do think from the sound of your post you need to make more time for yourself. If your working 7 days a week at home then it is almost impossible to meet someone.

Do you live in the country or a town/city? Would you not consider online dating?

I live in south east in a town.i agree I do need to make time for myself have tried online dating and normally by third message its very clear there after one thing. Not that I'm a prude but would like to meet someone a few times have conversation etc before I hop into bed.
Maybe I'm using wrong sites etc .

JeffKenna

cindrella wrote: »

I live in south east in a town.i agree I do need to make time for myself have tried online dating and normally by third message its very clear there after one thing. Not that I'm a prude but would like to meet someone a few times have conversation etc before I hop into bed.
Maybe I'm using wrong sites etc .

Not at all. I guess that is the big problem with online dating, it's created a very sexually liberal society so to speak. I again wouldn't be a prude but having been single for the past year I'm quite shocked at some of the stuff that goes on.

Anyway, a bit of practical advise would be to head over to the 'feedback' section here and join the online dating forum. As you've experienced yourself online dating does have it's drawbacks so it's a great place to seek advise/vent.

Tokyo

To all,

I've taken the very unusual step of pruning this thread in in order to get it back on track and addressing the OP's issue. I'd like to note that I deleted no less than 17 posts of drivel, which frankly, was only marginally more straightforward than issuing multiple infractions.

Mark Tapley - your posts alone were enough to earn you a permanent ban from PI. Immature statements and advice are not welcome here, and consider this your one and only warning on this matter - further breaches will result in infractions and/or a ban. I would strongly urge you to read the forum charter, and needless to say, don't post in this thread again.

Everybody else, if there is an issue with a post, report it. Don't enter into debate in-thread as it detracts from the OP's issue.

Regards,
Mike

RebelButtMunch

cindrella wrote: »

I live in south east in a town.i agree I do need to make time for myself have tried online dating and normally by third message its very clear there after one thing. Not that I'm a prude but would like to meet someone a few times have conversation etc before I hop into bed.
Maybe I'm using wrong sites etc .

Local hill walking clubs might be interesting.

biketard

Don't have any answers for you, cindrella, but just wanted to wish you the best of luck.