Have You Ever Found Your Soul Mate

Bongalongherb

I'm still searching, and I'm 45 years old but still have not found my soul-mate. A women that I click with, and her the same. It's a long long search.

My question to you all is this... have you went through life for many a year and met women of all kinds but still have not found the One. Your soul-mate ? Men and women this question is meant for both of you.

If you have, share it here.

I'm just interested to know how, and why you found your soul-mate in the end.

The term (soul-mate) is a very versatile term, being defined differently by different individuals, as it is related to the concept of love. It commonly holds the connotation of being the strongest bond with another person that one can achieve. The term is not used as often as other terms representing the same idea, and this is likely to lead to its perceived rarity in meaning. The definition of it ranges widely, and cannot be pinpointed. It is commonly accepted that one will feel 'complete' once they have found their soul mate, as it is partially in the perceived definition that two souls are meant to unite.

jellyboy

What is a soulmate? of course its defined in your post op,but soulmate means many different things to different people

for many many years i carried the pain and burden of being abused by my mother ,brother ,when i finally broke free and was placed in the "care" of the services i was classed as female and having the mental age of 6,the special school had an abusive brother who abused me,when i tried to tell again nobody would listen ..


i hid away from everybody ,i ignored myself ,i didn't exist..
after much drink,drugs,abusing myself failed this and that

I found myself
i found my soulmate ,the person who was missing in my life ,the person who i missed everyday

the person who i cried for to save me in my darkest hours of despair
and when my life meant nothing

the joy and feeling of love when i found and accepted myself was immense
of course like all great love ,the path never runs straight..

to answer your question

I found my soulmate

pebbles21

Bet your sorry you asked now bongalongherb??

_Redzer_

Soul mates do not exist. There's not just one person in the world for everyone and that's it. There's hundreds of thousands that are very, very compatible with you.

If there was only one soul mate for everyone, isn't it very coincidental that people find them in their home country, usually their home counties even. In a world of 7 billion, it shouldn't be that easy, but it goes to show there's a group and type of person very well matched to you, and there are actually quite a few of them hanging around.

holystungun9

What a load of absolute b@llox.

The Hill Billy

Nobody will ever find my soulmate. But they will admire my lovely new patio for many years to come.

Burky126

A "soulmate" is just another term used that is fictionalized into thinking that we need to go on this quest to find that one and only person for us when in reality,the very notion of a soulmate goes against human nature. If early man depended on the idea of a soulmate we would be long extinct by now! You just have to luck out by one day discovering someone out there that clicks with your personality which is mathematically possible for everyone!

Don't buy into the bull**** and just remember to be the best person you can be everyday. Positivity is contagious!

--LOS--

I don't believe in 'soul mate' or 'the one', it's only logical that there are many many people that would be compatible in a world so populated.

Birneybau

I did indeed.

In your face space coyote!

Bongalongherb

pebbles21 wrote: »

Bet your sorry you asked now bongalongherb??

Not at all. I have a thick neck, i can handle anything except for a large angry woman with a frying pan.

eviltwin

Load of Mills and Boon ****e to be honest, there is no such thing, there are people you meet and connect with and can have a great time with and all that but this idea that there is one person in the world who is out there meant for you is a load of crapola.

cloud493

This bacon sandwich I'm currently eating. It gets me man.

catallus

I had my soulmate and then she went off and married her ****ing boyfriend!:mad:

gugleguy

Ah OP you're gonna wrecking my online fortune telling scam because there'll be no one left to believe. I'll have to go into something else now like publicity promotions with folk like Garth B.:pac:

Pumpkinseeds

Yes, I found my soulmate, and I married him:D So screw all of you miserable sceptics :P

anto9

Met my soul mate twice .The first time i let her slip through my hands .Maybe it was not meant to be ,but i still think of her every day .
The second one a different person on the other side of the World is my current wife and soul mate .Some times we argue badly but we still have that bond which keeps us together .We may split up in the future ,who knows but it works for now going on 6 years .
And yes i do believe in a soul mate .Those who don't have not met there's,as when you do you know straight away .

Tigger

We are 16 years together and we are still in love
Haven't argued in any real way since lunch

The One Doctor

Yes. Yes I have. It's way better than I imagined. I had a relationship before that I thought was good at the time. I was wrong. This is far, far, far, far, far better. No arguments and mutual trust. It's brilliant.

AnonoBoy

The term soulmate always makes me think of this classic Onion article

new old poster

Pumpkinseeds wrote: »

Yes, I found my soulmate, and I married him:D So screw all of you miserable sceptics :P

I think the sceptics are the ones not in a relationship or an unfulfilling one

Rasheed

No

If you're into football, cattle and living in Roscommon, give me a shout

11wingnut

Yes had what i taught was wonderful for 33 years then she found her solemate with a big wallet.

Its a ridiculous concept

PizzamanIRL

Don't call me mate, buddy. And no I'm still soul searching

SCOOP 64

Pumpkinseeds wrote: »

Yes, I found my soulmate, and I married him:D So screw all of you miserable sceptics :P

How long you have you been married ?

Tigger

Just to tell you skeptics and romantics
I've been in love more than twice but I've only known that closeness once

Penny Tration

I don't believe in soulmates. I have, however, found somebody I love, trust, understand and could easily see myself spending the rest of my life very happily with and he feels the same.

Equally though, if we broke up, I'd eventually get over it and meet someone else who I feel that way about.

Shakespeare's Sister

_Redzer_ wrote: »

Soul mates do not exist. There's not just one person in the world for everyone and that's it. There's hundreds of thousands that are very, very compatible with you.

If there was only one soul mate for everyone, isn't it very coincidental that people find them in their home country, usually their home counties even. In a world of 7 billion, it shouldn't be that easy, but it goes to show there's a group and type of person very well matched to you, and there are actually quite a few of them hanging around.

Very well put. And despite what people are saying about "sceptics", what you're saying is actually really positive. Isn't it far nicer that there are lots of people all over the world whom we could be well matched to?
A soulmate, "the one" - it's not that they don't exist, it's just that there are many of them... not just one. To echo what Redzer says, it would be one hell of a coincidence if every person who meets the love of their life in their home town has simultaneously met their "one and only" soulmate.

holystungun9 wrote: »

What a load of absolute b@llox.

Which now? We need specifics!

Rasheed wrote: »

No

If you're into football, cattle and living in Roscommon, give me a shout

My friend's sis met her husband (a Roscommon man) through Macra - have you joined it?

Tasden

I don't believe in soulmates but I found a guy that I connected with in a way I never did with anyone else, we just clicked and I can see how people buy into the idea. But like everything else in life it didn't work out :pac:

But if I had believed in soulmates then I would've been absolutely devastated breaking up with a person who I thought was "the one", I can only imagine how it feels to lose a person you consider your other half or your one and only soulmate. Its very rare that you find someone that you get on amazingly well with but I don't think its an issue of soulmates, if anything my friends would be more soulmates than any partner would be.

Rasheed

Magaggie wrote: »

My friend's sis met her husband (a Roscommon man) through Macra - have you joined it?

Macra seems to have quieted down a lot lately. Although I have heard a good few couples getting together through it. The few lads I know in it wouldn't set you panting though.

Plus I'm up to my eyeballs with football and work! Maybe next year I go hunting for a good looking man with road frontage.

Adamantium

Well Excuse me, I do have a soul and I'm not your "mate". What is this, ****ing Australia?

Don't take my answer the wrong way.

Pumpkinseeds

SCOOP 64 wrote: »

How long you have you been married ?

We've been married for 10 years and been together for 18 years.

Rasheed

Pumpkinseeds wrote: »

We've been married for 10 years and been together for 18 years.

That's lovely P, best of luck to you both!

Lou.m

Magaggie wrote: »

Very well put. And despite what people are saying about "sceptics", what you're saying is actually really positive. Isn't it far nicer that there are lots of people all over the world whom we could be well matched to?
A soulmate, "the one" - it's not that they don't exist, it's just that there are many of them... not just one. To echo what Redzer says, it would be one hell of a coincidence if every person who meets the love of their life in their home town has simultaneously met their "one and only" soulmate.

Which now? We need specifics!

My friend's sis met her husband (a Roscommon man) through Macra - have you joined it?

I don't think people are saying there is only one. More like have ou ever met a person who you KNEW you were both intensely attracted to one another and in love early on and just clicked. Yes there may be more than one. But it's rarity is also what makes it precious. If it were so common it would be too disposable. There is more than one ...but much fewer than many. But they are out there. If there were many they would not be your soul mates as there would be nothing to distinguish them from everyone else.

If you found out 'your one' was capable of falling for every Tom Dick and harry it might make you question the specialness of your connection. What is not so common is precious. Yes I agree with the fact that there are a few out there but the disposability of the conveyor belt dating is not the same thing and it makes connections less deep.

You have a few soul mates ..some are not lovers ..but friends ..but they are very very precious.

_Redzer_

Magaggie wrote: »

Very well put. And despite what people are saying about "sceptics", what you're saying is actually really positive. Isn't it far nicer that there are lots of people all over the world whom we could be well matched to?
A soulmate, "the one" - it's not that they don't exist, it's just that there are many of them... not just one. To echo what Redzer says, it would be one hell of a coincidence if every person who meets the love of their life in their home town has simultaneously met their "one and only" soulmate.

Which now? We need specifics!

My friend's sis met her husband (a Roscommon man) through Macra - have you joined it?

Well that's exactly it, there are thousands of "soulmates" around the world. They're still rare enough that they're special, and that doesn't demean or devalue your connection to them when you meet. It's not cynicism, it's logic to think that in a world so large there are more that are so matched to you.

As you said, that's a positive way at looking at it.

And before anyone says otherwise, I do know what it's like to meet somebody so compatible with you. I still think the same way, though.

--LOS--

So if we don't believe in soulmates were skeptics? Jeezuz you can believe and experience love without believing in fairytales

Pumpkinseeds

--LOS-- wrote: »

So if we don't believe in soulmates were skeptics? Jeezuz you can believe and experience love without believing in fairytales

I don't believe in fairytales. I said that I found my soul mate and I have, but life isn't a fairytale, for anyone. Life is mostly tough but you get through it together, that's part of the soul mate thing.

groucho marx

Lol, soulmates its hard to tell until you fork out the six euro to check out their ICB rating.

RossieMan

Rasheed wrote: »

No

If you're into football, cattle and living in Roscommon, give me a shout

hello there.

LETHAL LADY

I woke up one morning gazing into the eyes of my soul mate.










Snorting coke off a mirror will do that.

House of Blaze

Pretty sure I lost mine down the back of the couch..

dueaug

Married 10 years to my soul mate. Together 14 years. Never believed in marriage or any of that crap before we met.

TGJD

Lou.m wrote: »

I don't think people are saying there is only one. More like have ou ever met a person who you KNEW you were both intensely attracted to one another and in love early on and just clicked. Yes there may be more than one. But it's rarity is also what makes it precious. If it were so common it would be too disposable. There is more than one ...but much fewer than many. But they are out there. If there were many they would not be your soul mates as there would be nothing to distinguish them from everyone else.

If you found out 'your one' was capable of falling for every Tom Dick and harry it might make you question the specialness of your connection. What is not so common is precious. Yes I agree with the fact that there are a few out there but the disposability of the conveyor belt dating is not the same thing and it makes connections less deep.

You have a few soul mates ..some are not lovers ..but friends ..but they are very very precious.

By this definition, which i like and agree with, yes I have. But things didnt work out in the end. Which came as quiet a shock but that's life. Haven't found that same connection since and hadn't before but it's very possible I will again.

--LOS--

Pumpkinseeds wrote: »

I don't believe in fairytales. I said that I found my soul mate and I have, but life isn't a fairytale, for anyone. Life is mostly tough but you get through it together, that's part of the soul mate thing.

What the hell has that got to do with soul mates??? You could be extremely happy with someone, maybe so happy that you're not able to perceive anyone else being able to compare, love right! But of course other people can, it would be naive to think otherwise. And if you disagree then you're just putting someone on a pedestal which isn't healthy.

Its actually really silly to judge someones relationship on whether they believe in soulmates. Sounds like people who believe in that crap somehow think their love/relationship is better/stronger. Unless you're making up your own definition of soulmate.

Lou.m

TGJD wrote: »

By this definition, which i like and agree with, yes I have. But things didnt work out in the end. Which came as quiet a shock but that's life. Haven't found that same connection since and hadn't before but it's very possible I will again.

Yes I think You will again

wp_rathead

This sums up the whole "Soul Mate" for me:

A snippet of it:

Look, I'm not undervaluing what we've got when I say
That given the role chaos inevitably plays in the inherently flawed notion of fate
It's obstruse to deduce that I've found my soulmate at the age of 17
It's just mathematically unlikely that at a university in Perth
I happened to stumble on the one girl on earth specifically designed for me

And if I may conjecture a further objection
Love is nothing to do with destined perfection
The connection is strengthened
The affection simply grows over time

Like a flower
Or a mushroom
Or a guinea pig
Or a vine
Or a sponge
Or bigotry
...or a banana, banana

And love is made more powerful by the ongoing drama of shared experience and synergy
And symbiotic empathy or something...

LETHAL LADY

This is how you know he's for keeps.:P

House of Blaze

I think Al Pacino / Satan said it best...

Keanu: "What about love?"

Pacino: "Overrated. Biochemically no different to eating large quantities of chocolate."

Lou.m

Pumpkinseeds wrote: »

I don't believe in fairytales. I said that I found my soul mate and I have, but life isn't a fairytale, for anyone. Life is mostly tough but you get through it together, that's part of the soul mate thing.

I believe in Fairies....I am a fairy...:p BELIEVE!

Lou.m

LETHAL LADY wrote: »

This is how you know he's for keeps.:P

Music is another kind of love.

sleepytrees

I'm a soppy romantic that ever lived. Dreamt of a prince and a white horse and all that crap. Then I met my husband and we fart in front of each other and I love him to bits! I'm think a 'soulmate' is the one you chose out of the thousand of 'compatible people for ya and you choose to stick with them fart or no farts!