Girl from the office

LegacyUser

I started a new job a little over a month ago and have since noticed a girl who also works here, dunno what it is about her bit id like to get to know jer better.

I met her just the once through a mutual friend she works with, well a guy i know to see bit met him one of the days when he was joined by her and a few others and got introduced to them all. She walked by me a few times on the corridor and what not but im never sure shoukd i say hi and it seems like o one really talks of they dont know each other, might jave gotten a smile out of her today though.

Without making it awkward for either of us how can i improve my chances of getting to know this girl better? I know we both work for the same company bit its two different departments and we might as well be floors apart. There is a small element of collaborarion between the departments and i think maybe shes working on something similar as i am.

Paulyh

Hi OP, I was in a similar situation about 6 years ago. Worked in an office and started really liking a girl on another team, we sat at the same end of the building so saw each other all the time, although never really worked together.
What I did was, when chatting to the office gossip, I dropped into conversation that I liked this girl, knowing full well that it would get back to her. If she felt the same then I hoped she would say something, or I would hear back from someone else.
And I worked, we are getting married in two weeks
I guess I did it that way as I would never of had the balls to tell her directly and though that if nothing ever happened, I would just go on as normal. Not saying this would work for you, but might be an idea.

Good luck!

CaraMay

Paulyh wrote: »

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What I did was, when chatting to the office gossip, I dropped into conversation that I liked this girl, knowing full well that it would get back to her. If she felt the same then I hoped she would say something, or I would hear back from someone else.
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This is really bad advice and playground stuff. It's your place of work and not a dating agency so get to know this girl bit by bit but keep it professional at all times.

You are new to the job so that should bf your focus in work at the moment.

Start by chatting to her about the weather etc when you see her and take it fr there.

Luke92

CaraMay wrote: »

This is really bad advice and playground stuff. It's your place of work and not a dating agency so get to know this girl bit by bit but keep it professional at all times.

You are new to the job so that should bf your focus in work at the moment.

Start by chatting to her about the weather etc when you see her and take it fr there.

Not really, he is marrying the girl in 3 weeks. It may be childish, but if it works don't try fix it!

CaraMay

Luke92 wrote: »

Not really, he is marrying the girl in 3 weeks. It may be childish, but if it works don't try fix it!

Great logic... It's totally unprofessional and not to be recommended when you are a month in a job.

chin nuts

You sound like a barrel of fun caramay.

Tokyo

chin nuts - as per the forum charter, if you have an issue with a post, report it. Please don't call the poster out on it in-thread.

Caramay - the disparaging responses do wear thin. Considering that you already have a history built up of being asked to rein it in, and that you yourself have availed of the kind words and advice of others here in PI, I'd kindly ask you to consider both of these things in choosing your words when posting again.

Regards,
Mike

GreeBo

OP try to get talking to her during the normal course of your working day, no need to spread the word or anything, especially when you are only in the door and dont know who to spread it to anyway.

Get yourself to the point where you do say "hi" to each other and maybe chat a bit, then on a work night out try to talk to her and see whats what.
Throwing yourself at her via letting everyone know you fancy her isnt likely to work out well if she is not interested...and even if she is, she may prefer to keep her private life private.

LegacyUser

Thanks everyone for the replies.

Hehe that's great that it worked out! Got to like stories like that.

There wont be any office parties where I could meet her. Different disiplines and seeminly we dont go out together. We have a night out with our team on friday though, shes on a different team. Spoke to her briefly today about something work related, might just have to say hi to her the next time.

Before I get my hopes up i should prob find out if she is single first? Had a look for her on facebook but just the one pic of her.

Flippyfloppy

Office dude wrote: »

Thanks everyone for the replies.

Hehe that's great that it worked out! Got to like stories like that.

There wont be any office parties where I could meet her. Different disiplines and seeminly we dont go out together. We have a night out with our team on friday though, shes on a different team. Spoke to her briefly today about something work related, might just have to say hi to her the next time.

Before I get my hopes up i should prob find out if she is single first? Had a look for her on facebook but just the one pic of her.

I'm in the camp of maybe leave it for a while until you find your footing in work. Until then be friendly and mysterious and be careful not to tread into 'friend territory' with her. I'm thinking maybe 6 months or so?

The only reason I'm saying this is because I've seen with my own eyes some budding relationships, where the two people really have a spark, get shut off too quickly because the guy makes a premature move & the girl just shuts off because she's unsure about a work relationship, and the good reputation she has in the place of work. I'm sure there are exceptions but I hope that makes sense!!

Perhaps wait until you're not the new guy, you're on a more even footing work wise, and I stress, do not venture into friend territory!!

Then have as much fun as you want in letting her know!

frazzledhome

Did you not consider saying "Hello" some morning? I find this a great way to start a conversation.

LegacyUser

Ill start saying hi to her from now on when i see her.

Im not sure if ill be in the office for 6 months its kind of a between jobs job until i find sonething I trained for.

dixiefly

I think that you should go with the flow and gradually get to say hello, great weather etc. if you happen to be standing together, in a lift or something, ask what she is doing for holidays. That might help u ascertain the boyfried situation.

Don't worry too much about the fact that you are finishing in 6 months. If you still really like her at that stage you could always ask her out then as you will kind of know her or at least she know who you are and ye will no longer be working together.

lazybones32

Get talking to her.
Ask her to go for(whatever) or just ask her out.

Within 7 mins. you know where you stand.


This approach worked with me with a woman I met at a bus stop. I used this approach with a woman that I inadvertently got talking to in a retail-store and she was kind enough to tell me she wouldn't go for a drink because she was due in "about two weeks". I saw nothing but her eyes...