Best friends

Chance The Rapper

I was having this discussion with my gf last night.

I changed primary school in third class. I lost my best friend from senior infants onwards. I had a best friend there until 6th class, but then we went to secondary school so we only saw each other every couple of months after that.

In secondary school I was reunited with my original primary school best friend, but he ended up being obsessed with popularity and being in the cool group so we went our different ways. I had good friends but none that I would call a best friend.

Anyway now I'm in college in a small course and we're a very close class, and I'm very good friends with 4 or 5 people. At the same time I don't have one of them who I just call to come over and chill or whatever. My best friend at this moment in time I'd say my best friend is my girlfriend...

I'm in two minds about the whole best friend thing, are you better off having a close group of friends, or one absolute best friend? (Or both ) do you have a best friend ?

caustic 1

One best friend, who I would die for.

Kevhog1988

One best friend. Weve never fallen out. Others i could take or leave

OldMrBrennan83

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Aidric

Best friends are usually made in the formative years. The rest are just acquaintances.

corner of hells

Patww79 wrote: »

I just try to get on with whoever's in my life at the time, whether it be colleagues or whoever. I've made some good friends along the way, but I make a point of not keeping contact when I move on so I've never gotten as far as a best one.

Same here ,lots of good friends , though my dog was my best friend till last week.








Fcuker , jumped through the garden fence to rape the neighbours poodle when I was in work .Carnage.

Chance The Rapper

Aidric wrote: »

Best friends are usually made in the formative years. The rest are just acquaintances.

For anyone who needed to Google like I did, apparently that's 0-10 years. Sad times for me so :-P I'm not sure I agree Aidric, I think a lot of people make their life long friends in college

The Backwards Man

Friends are just strangers who know what your farts smell like.

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

Don't really have one best friend but a very few very close ones.

I had a long term relationship end last year, for the duration I would have considered my partner my best friend, but due to how things ended that situation changed pretty dramatically. I was a bit lost, but at the same time it really did remind me that my other close friends are bloody great and I can rely on them when the chips are down. Learnt my feckin lesson anyway, all that "ooh I'm in love with you AND you're my best friend" is great in theory, but in practice you're setting yourself up for a fall. Hoes before bros policy for the foreseeable future!

Chance The Rapper

Patww79 wrote: »

I just try to get on with whoever's in my life at the time, whether it be colleagues or whoever. I've made some good friends along the way, but I make a point of not keeping contact when I move on so I've never gotten as far as a best one.

Why do you make a point of it?

cactuspaw

I don't have a best friend. I have a few really good friends, but if would never consider one better then the other. One is very rational, one is very funny, one is very organised, but they all are great in their own way, nobody's the best.

Aidric

Chance The Rapper wrote: »

For anyone who needed to Google like I did, apparently that's 0-10 years. Sad times for me so :-P I'm not sure I agree Aidric, I think a lot of people make their life long friends in college

Fair enough. My scale of formative brings the secondary school years in to the net, perhaps wrongly.

I made some good friends at Uni but the people I would call my closest friends were made during primary and secondary.

Macavity.

I'd have maybe two "good" friends (as in I'd be closer to them than I would my other friends) but saying that we could go months without seeing or talking to one another. I have a lot of friends I'd go on nights out with or hang around with, but we wouldn't be very close or anything. Don't really have a best friend if I'm honest.

I truly believe it's best to make as many acquaintances/friends as possible, for networking if nothing else.

on_my_oe

I moved around a lot as a child, and being long before Facebook, didn't keep in touch. I remember on my first day at college a girl coming up and saying she remembered being invited to my 8th birthday sleepover which freaked me out (being the new kid Dad let me invite all the girls in my year - 23!!).
I'm only in touch with three people from high school, and even then it's a vague Facebook thing. I've got close friends, but my best friend is my OH. I moved to Ireland to join him, and making friends is harder when you're in a couple /past going out tipsy to pick up... A lot of friendships as adults is based on going out to meet a partner, having wing men/ wing women, and I didn't need that in Ireland. I'm infertile so we are out of the next stage of kids / play dates etc, so to some extent I feel we are a little isolated, and I do worry about being in 80s and one of us dropping dead.

OldMrBrennan83

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Chance The Rapper

HugsiePie wrote: »

Maybe you should move this to PI

Youre bound to get a few trolls here.

It's not really an issue though, I'm more curious about what other people's situations are. I'm very happy with life at the moment.

orchidsrpretty

on_my_oe wrote: »

I'm only in touch with three people from high school, and even then it's a vague Facebook thing. I've got close friends, but my best friend is my OH. I moved to Ireland to join him, and making friends is harder when you're in a couple /past going out tipsy to pick up... A lot of friendships as adults is based on going out to meet a partner, having wing men/ wing women, and I didn't need that in Ireland. I'm infertile so we are out of the next stage of kids / play dates etc, so to some extent I feel we are a little isolated, and I do worry about being in 80s and one of us dropping dead.

I'm infertile too but 6 months pregnant with twins!! Go science if you want kids there are many ways to achieve your family whatever route you decide to take.

My oh is my best friend. I recently reconnected with two of my 'best friends' from growing up. We never went to he same school, just grew up in the same area and we fell out of touch when we reached our early 20's. Didn't talk for nearly five years, no fight or anything, I moved and one of them went travelling. It's like we never fell out of touch. I think that's what a true best friend is. No pissing and moaningthat they weren't invited to your party or whatever.

pragmatic1

I have two best friends. One I met in college and the other is my cousin. Love them both but would never say it to them.

on_my_oe

orchidsrpretty wrote: »

I'm infertile too but 6 months pregnant with twins!! Go science if you want kids there are many ways to achieve your family whatever route you decide to take.

Congratulations you'll be doubly blessed with two little bundles of joy!!

http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/jul/20/loneliness-britains-silent-plague-hurts-young-people-most

So loneliness... Different to best friends. I don't feel lonely thankfully

Wellyd

I had two or three best friends in school but we drifted apart. Throughout college I had a person I could've killed for but we had a stupid falling out and still never got over it. Realistically as a 25 year old woman my best friend is probably my daddy. A Saturday morning without tea and cookies with him just isn't right.

--LOS--

I haven't really had best friends since school, 2 long term relationships since then, I would have considered those people best friends, that's sort of inevitable though.

Sound of Silence

I never really had a best friend.

My fault really. I'm not really a very open person; was always too worried about what people thought of me to risk it.

Need to work on that.

FunLover18

I have a group of friends from secondary school one of whom I get on with much more than the others. We have more in common and I'm in touch with him more.

FairytaleGirl

Two super best friend's. Met at secondary school. Was in a bad relationship for 4years and drifted apart from them for a bit, but they were right there when it all (and I) fell apart.

Will never take them for granted (or rely on my spouse to be my one and only best friend again)

Now we're closer than ever and I'm also In a great relationship... One should never compromise the other!

Shane-KornSpace

I moved home a few years ago and now I have no friends
I see my old friends every few months when I go home for a day but that's it.
My old best friend moved to Australia.
I suppose that would make my Gf my best friend now.

whirlpool

Reading through this thread, it's all I could think about.

Raminahobbin

My longest friendship started when I was in 4th class- we have very little in common, but I know she'll always be in my life. It never matters how long we leave it between chats, it always feels like no time at all. We'd do anything for each other.

My two best best friends I have known since I was 18, although it turned out I went to primary school with one of them. Hopefully we'll always be in each other's lives- I class them more a sisters now than anything else.

I still have several other friends that I knew from school (primary and secondary), might have lost touch with them for a few years at a time but they're still around- although I'd class them more as acquaintances.

whirlpool

P.S. My three best friends, I met between the ages of 15 and 20.

I'm 28 now and they've remained my best friends.

I have one or two other best friends that I met over the past few years, but it's mainly those original three. They're more or less the only people I ever talk to. I definitely don't have the energy for any more.

Adamantium

I have one friend in college, that I met up after almost 2 years of having not seen hi (I got physically ill had to drop out and still haven't returned) and decided to meet up with in Galway one summers day.

We were such close friends in 1st year, we lived in the same house and we would finish each other sentences, it was like one mind in two bodies, honestly I'd never been so happy in my life until I was having fun with this guy, and I said to myself "I have to meet up NOW or this will only get more awkward"

I wasn't expecting much warmth from him, and assumed the old cynical "I'm sure people have moved, got their degrees and I'm left behind sick, trying to hold onto the torn rag of youth, don't expect much" but I couldn't leave without seeing what he was like now.

Within 5 minutes me and him were having making new in jokes and remembering old ones, like it was the very first time we met all over again and it was like somebody filled up my soul. I almost wet my eyes thinking how much I'd missed and how short life is and how rare these people are.

If you ever lucky enough to find them, you'll know them. You can't make new old friends.