Facebook profiles of deceased people

WhiteWalls

I have one facebook friend who is deceased. It was creepy when he did die as a few people must have accepted his friend requests when he passed. After he was buried it came up on my page that he was now friends with new people which was strange. Even now it can pop up on my news feed a page that he liked.

Is it a nice place for family to look at pics or should the page be deleted?

SterlingArcher

I find the whole fb thing and dead people wrong. People saying happy birthday on fb to a dead relative or friend. Although I have heard fb takes, souls and once you are in you can't get out not even in death. So maybe they're there trapped. Status... Dead bored.

But I suppose different people deal with grief in different ways. so gotta let it slide.

Sir Arthur Daley

WhiteWalls wrote: »

. After he was buried it came up on my page that he was now friends with new people which was strange..

Did you get a status update saying he was buried?

Timmyctc

Personally I hate when people post crap on deceased people's pages giving their condolences there. If they cared they would offer the condolences to the actual family in person. The FB comments serve absolutely no purpose barring fishing for likes. In fact I've seen people from my home town post "RIP" status updates on their own profiles when somebody they know to see or maybe as an acquaintance dies; for nothing more than seeing that notification button light up with "Somebody has liked your status"

Tl;dr
Offer your condolences to the grieving family. Facebook is a scourge.(by and large)

SterlingArcher

Sir Arthur Daley wrote: »

Did you get a status update saying he was buried?

Down under.

SterlingArcher

Timmyctc wrote: »

Personally I hate when people post crap on deceased people's pages giving their condolences there. If they cared they would offer the condolences to the actual family in person. The FB comments serve absolutely no purpose barring fishing for likes. In fact I've seen people from my home town post "RIP" status updates on their own profiles when somebody they know to see or maybe as an acquaintance dies; for nothing more than seeing that notification button light up with "Somebody has liked your status"

Tl;dr
Offer your condolences to the grieving family. Facebook is a scourge.(by and large)

Liked ;D

Sir Arthur Daley

SterlingArcher wrote: »

Down under.

With so many in australia that could lead to huge confusion.

SterlingArcher

Sir Arthur Daley wrote: »

With so many in australia that could lead to huge confusion.

That being the aim.

Sir Arthur Daley

SterlingArcher wrote: »

That being the aim.

Should a facebook page be invented maybe?

SterlingArcher

Sir Arthur Daley wrote: »

Should a facebook page be invented maybe?

Hmmm. This , this might be the Achilles heel. A facebook page. Status ...harvesting and selling your information.

Arthur you genius.

Killer Wench

A week ago, an internet friend of mine died after a long illness. He had posted regularly throughout his fight but towards the end, his posts became less frequent. Then his father logged onto his computer and posted to all of his Facebook friends that his son had died in his sleep. I'm very glad that his page remains because all of his friends--many he didn't meet in person--are able to share their memories of this great guy.

I didn't know his family in person. I never met the guy offline but he was still my friend, and it was the appropriate thing to do to offer my condolences to his family through the medium we shared.

Gremlinertia

I have a few deceased friends on facebook, and while i find some of the posts cringeworthy or breastbeating for sympathy, i think that these days with so many people moved to countries thousands of miles away it's nice to have the page there for memories sake..

Mr_Red

I thought this was funny

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qo2cj1dsne8y4k

It's creepy and weird writing to the dead person. A girl in my town overdosed on heroin last year, and people were photoshopping pictures of her into their own profile pic, writing stuff about god only taking the best so young and that life wasn't fair, heaven gained an angel, all this kind of stuff.
Infact her junkie boyfriend still writes his statuses as if he were talking to her. "Ill be up to see ya later wi a few cans bbz"

The poor girl died during the summer last year, when the weather was really really hot. She was 4 or 5 days lying in her flat, zonked, before she was found.

Now, call me cynical, but where were all her "friends" then? The hundred odd of them that were gutted enough to dedicate multiple posts about how great she was, or what an amazing friend she was?
I know if that was my best friend, or my boyfriend, if I hadn't heard from them all day I know I'd be worried. If for 2 days I had no calls answered or recieved, no texts or anything I'd be straight over to see what's going on, and I'm not even a good friend!

I don't know, I know grief is a very personal thing but I can't imagine how much genuine comfort you'd get from writing something to your loved one, and making it public.

mickydoomsux

LexieOnRale wrote: »

It's creepy and weird writing to the dead person. A girl in my town overdosed on heroin last year, and people were photoshopping pictures of her into their own profile pic, writing stuff about god only taking the best so young and that life wasn't fair, heaven gained an angel, all this kind of stuff.
Infact her junkie boyfriend still writes his statuses as if he were talking to her. "Ill be up to see ya later wi a few cans bbz"

The poor girl died during the summer last year, when the weather was really really hot. She was 4 or 5 days lying in her flat, zonked, before she was found.

Now, call me cynical, but where were all her "friends" then? The hundred odd of them that were gutted enough to dedicate multiple posts about how great she was, or what an amazing friend she was?
I know if that was my best friend, or my boyfriend, if I hadn't heard from them all day I know I'd be worried. If for 2 days I had no calls answered or recieved, no texts or anything I'd be straight over to see what's going on, and I'm not even a good friend!

I don't know, I know grief is a very personal thing but I can't imagine how much genuine comfort you'd get from writing something to your loved one, and making it public.

Most of those people probably had **** all time for her when she was alive what with her being a junkie and all but in
Ireland once you die you become the single greatest person ever and everyone competes over who can say the nicest thing possible about you.

We are a very insincere nation when it comes to people dying.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

mickydoomsux wrote: »

Most of those people probably had **** all time for her when she was alive what with her being a junkie and all but in
Ireland once you die you become the single greatest person ever and everyone competes over who can say the nicest thing possible about you.

We are a very insincere nation when it comes to people dying.

Yeah, and a nation of people with attending funerals being the main hobby!
When my dad passed away, he'd been sick for a while but it was kept to ourselves and not broadcast. Anyway, myself and my brother are sitting in the funeral home the night of the removal, this man, I never saw him before in my life, came up to sympathise with us, and started asking my brother what happened him, was he sick long, where did he have the cancer, he couldn't believe his eyes how bad he looked ect. All this while holding up everyone behind him. My brother told him it was neither the time or place to be asking ridiculous questions and he promptly ****ed off.

But even when they were about the close the coffin people stood gawking.

It's weird, how people can even think that's ok. Being at funerals or around the bereaved makes me feel uncomfortable so maybe it's just me but I'd hate to stand looking at someone's family having to say goodbye.

The Irish do seem to love a good funeral, and the more tragic the better

mickydoomsux

We, as a nation, love a good bit of misery-porn.

Look at our newspapers, listen to people in the streets talking to each other or look at our main evening news. All just miserable stuff.

shampooman

With I die I will get my friend to use my facebook page to post for me. Status Update : #"John O' Brien stop playing with yourself.. we can all see you doing it here" Status update " Was chatting with the big man last night and you're not going to believe who will be joining me next.. I'll give you a hint last name Curtin.. first name Mike. Congrats boy!" " Someone dig me up there and stretch my legs they're aching"

gugleguy

mickydoomsux wrote: »

Most of those people probably had **** all time for her when she was alive what with her being a junkie and all but in
Ireland once you die you become the single greatest person ever and everyone competes over who can say the nicest thing possible about you.

We are a very insincere nation when it comes to people dying.

in other words nation of hypocrites

RFOLEY1990

wouldn't be my bag, personally. but whatever floats your boat.

Muise...

mickydoomsux wrote: »

We, as a nation, love a good bit of misery-porn.

Look at our newspapers, listen to people in the streets talking to each other or look at our main evening news. All just miserable stuff.

Show me the nation where journalists report on kittens and lollipops in the newspapers; where people discuss their favourite cloud formations in the street, and the main evening news bulletin is sung by a robin in a rosebush.

Chickentown

Facebook is for people seeking attention, no matter what way they like to rationalise their presence on it; it all boils down to the attention seeking. There are plenty of ways to connect with people you know around the globe without Facebook. This is coming from a non "Facebooker".

Bog Standard User

the family of the deceased person can request a facebook profile be closed on presentation of a death cert

Muise...

Chickentown wrote: »

Facebook is for people seeking attention, no matter what way they like to rationalise their presence on it; it all boils down to the attention seeking. There are plenty of ways to connect with people you know around the globe without Facebook. This is coming from a non "Facebooker".

And all of those other ways involve seeking attention. We seek attention from each other all the time; we are social creatures and that is what we do.

If you actually tried facebook, and added likeable and interesting people who are not actually toddlers or drama queens, you might find it - quite rationally - a handy multi-modal platform for being sociable.

RFOLEY1990

Facebook is full of cretins anyway, attention seekers of the highest order. this is no different I suppose, just more fuel to it.

leeroybrown

RFOLEY1990 wrote: »

Facebook is full of cretins anyway, attention seekers of the highest order. this is no different I suppose, just more fuel to it.

Boards.ie is full of cretins of cretins too, attention seekers of the highest order!

RFOLEY1990

leeroybrown wrote: »

Boards.ie is full of cretins of cretins too, attention seekers of the highest order!

haha maybe, I'm relatively new though so I'm sure I'll find out for myself.

I always say Facebook makes you hate the people you know and Twitter makes you like the people you don't.

on the river

leeroybrown wrote: »

Boards.ie is full of cretins of cretins too, attention seekers of the highest order!

The Internet is full of cretins of cretins too attention seekers of the highest Order!

leeroybrown

on the river wrote: »

The Internet is full of cretins of cretins too attention seekers of the highest Order!

Life is full of cretins of cretins too, attention seekers of the highest order!

P_1

WhiteWalls wrote: »

I have one facebook friend who is deceased. It was creepy when he did die as a few people must have accepted his friend requests when he passed. After he was buried it came up on my page that he was now friends with new people which was strange. Even now it can pop up on my news feed a page that he liked.

Is it a nice place for family to look at pics or should the page be deleted?

Probably just people confirming friend requests that were send by the deceased before the sad event happened. A bit freaky to see I grant you but probably nothing too sinister.

on the river

leeroybrown wrote: »

Life is full of cretins of cretins too, attention seekers of the highest order!

Life, earth, technology and the universe is full of cretins of cretins too, attention seekers of the Highest Order!

Phonehead

Meh whatever floats peoples boat regarding facebook profiles of those who have died - no worse than a book of condolence! plus I generally find people who bitch and moan about what other people post about their lives on facebook/twitter/blogs to be ever more annoying.

Chickentown

Muise... wrote: »

And all of those other ways involve seeking attention. We seek attention from each other all the time; we are social creatures and that is what we do.

If you actually tried facebook, and added likeable and interesting people who are not actually toddlers or drama queens, you might find it - quite rationally - a handy multi-modal platform for being sociable.

I was thinking along the lines of Skype and e-mail, not another social media platform. But your point is valid and has been duly noted, maybe I know to many chavs
:-)

Chickentown

on the river wrote: »

Life, earth, technology and the universe is full of cretins of cretins too, attention seekers of the Highest Order!

Even cretins are full of cretins, its a fuk1n vicious cycle...

amdublin

A girl I know posts from her deceased brothers account I.e. She uses his account as her own.

So you get a notification saying: *John Murphy has commented on your photo.
Then when you go view it says something like "Looks fab! Mary x"

I find it odd. But she apparently finds it comforting. So be it.

*not real names