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Worried about girls safety

LegacyUser · 2014-07-02 07:29:40

I'm in a little bit of a tricky situation. I've been seeing a woman who told her husband that their marriage was over at Christmas but they are still both living in the same house with their children (aged 16 to 24). She had told him the marriage was over because he is a bully, obsessive and very controlling. He has since…

02-07-2014 7:29am

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I'm in a little bit of a tricky situation. I've been seeing a woman who told her husband that their marriage was over at Christmas but they are still both living in the same house with their children (aged 16 to 24). She had told him the marriage was over because he is a bully, obsessive and very controlling. He has since found out about me and her and gone even more ballistic. He had put a GPS tracker in her car without her knowledge and was waiting for us as I dropped her off at her car. He has since told everyone he can about the relationship branding it an "affair" including their children and her family. I have no ties but he has obviously got a friend to look me up on the pulse system as that is how he got my name and information. I live relatively close to them (about 10 miles) but I now hear he's spreading untrue rumours about me (that I'm a drinker and a drug dealer). According to her she's pretty sure that he knows that he's followed me in a car on a couple of occasions but I can't back that up. We're obviously not seeing each other at the moment as he is constantly watching her like a hawk, monitoring her every move. I've told her to get out of the house for her own safety but she's worried about other things (her children especially the youngest, financial independence - he keeps telling her that she owns nothing)

Basically I can look after myself whatever he throws at me but I'm worried about what might happen to her. She has suffered nearly 20 years of emotional torture and abuse (which is nearly normalised at this stage for her) and to me is a very damaged individual. I haven't much contact with her since it all blew up as she cant use her phone without being interrogated and he's not allowing her to get someone to take the tracker device out of the car but I know she is at a low ebb. To the outside world they are the perfect family and he is the perfect husband but now she is getting a lot of hassle and he is getting a lot of sympathy from the community because he has told everyone he can about the "affair". I can't understand this and especially why he told his children (the youngest one is 16!!). Surely this isn't reasonable behaviour?? Should I walk away and wash my hands or try and help her? How do I help her if so.

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