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  • 16-06-2014 6:46pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    ok this sounds like a strange question but how do you tell someone you need help or you have mental health issues? i have sufferered from depression for years i have had therapy but it hasnt really worked. i am very untidy maybe caused by depression i dont know or lazyness i have a 2 parents and younger siblings my only social life is the pub i only come out at night most of the time as i feel people are talking about me. i have always been single but there are nasty rumours going around me. i am sort of estranged from some of my siblings. my parents and have never really got on. they care about me but are very hard to talk to. even simple basic conversations can turn into major arguments. in fact when i was living at home 9 out of 10 conversations seemed to turn into arguments. i seemed to have grown up in front of the tv. i have in my life at times felt as if they never really knew me. maybe i am just feeling sorry for myself. for some reason i have never been able to talk to younger siblings about my problems. pride? i have behaved erratically in the hope that they would notice but no avail. is there anything i can say to get someone attention?


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  • #2
    Rubberchikken
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    Could you talk to your gp?
    They will listen and see what's the best way to help.

    Good luck


  • #3
    LegacyUser
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    i have done that before but find it hard to do. part of my problem is originally that i have never had a good relationship with my family. my mom was always prying and being judgmental and i always had to be on my guard around. growing up i had no one to talk to i was very isolated. i have always held my emotions in and never asked for help. i feel as if emotionally and socially i never grew up. for some reason i thought maybe if i broke that cycle it might help. another thing is i live my life in my head.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I have always felt this way too, coupled with anxiety which can get pretty bad. I have never been able to get the amount of erratic to cause them to notice....but have a sibling or 2 who went totally mad (arrested, drugs, alcoholics) so maybe that's cos I'm not willing to go that far? Not sure what to say that could help only that on my good days I'm not sure it's worth it to have their attention or if it's even possible. I have a couple of good friends who can give me some of the attention I crave and who reassure me, when needed, that I am entitled to some of the attention I missed out on as I grew up. I don't know if knowing others feel the same will help or if you have a friend or 2 who are able to help you with the attention you need.

    I also went to the doctor and felt a bit passed over cos i look ok and speak well so I'm not seen as an immediate risk so sit on waiting lists for years, can't afford to privately get help.


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