Breast Implants

LegacyUser

You might not want to read this.

So I've had 2 kids recently and my boobs went from 38D to a 38B almost overnight - once the breastfeeding finished. The loose skin sags. Visited my sister a few months after I'd finished breastfeeding and she nodded and said "yes, you can tell you've finished". She didn't mean anything bad about it, her boobs never grew past a B. But while I've lost weight - smaller now than I ever was at a size 12 - my breast really depress me. I can't stand to look at myself naked. I didn't have half this problem when I was a size 16. And while my husband says he still loves my breasts I can feel the looseness of skin when he touches them.

Basically I want a boob job.

I'd never really given much consideration to one before these last few months but now it's almost all I think about - usually when changing or undressing for bed, or showering.

I suppose I just want someone to tell me they've done it and been happy with it. I've never even had braces (though I could use those as well) so I'm nervous about going and surgically changing a part of my body.

I'm also nervous about people noticing. My mother in law is the most critical person in the world. When I was pregnant and due to be married 4 months after having the baby I said I should be down to the size 14 (to fit the dress) by the date, she suggested I'd be down to a 12. When she met me I was a 16 so I don't know where she was getting that idea. And my own mother isn't much better - though she might think it's a wonderful idea (making myself better?).

Just tell me what you think? Could it be worth the trouble of having the "yes, I've had a boob job" with the two of them?

Tigger99

If you want q boob job, then research it to the hilt. There can be problems breastfeeding afterwards I have read. Only thing stopping me getting one (a reduction tho, but still), well the unnecessary surgery part also gave me pause for thought.

As for those two nasty b itches that happen to be related to you or your husband that are so rude about your weight?. Could you imagine saying that to people that you love? Of course not. In my experience the only answer for those remarks or indeed if you have a boob job is - ''That's not a very nice thing to say...'' Usually stops people in their tracks without lowering yourself to their level.

Shakespeare's Sister

What about a boob-lift instead of getting implants, which seem a bit drastic in my opinion.

And jeez, "well intentioned" comments like that from your mother, mother-in-law and sister? No wonder your body image is suffering. It's mad the way your husband finds you gorgeous yet you're focusing on what that lot are saying to you! 'Tis typical of many of us though to focus on the negative rather than the positive - possibly just human nature. Bizarre! And an awful pity too.

Don't just do it because of them though - for fup's sake! If you truly think it'd make you feel happier about your body, do the research, but don't be so hard on yourself either - you've breastfeed two babies; it's not like you "let yourself go".

auldgranny

I had one about 20 years ago. I was like you. I hated my boobs, I obsessed about them. I wouldn't let my husband touch them and would only have sex with a bra on. After 2 years of it nearly ruining my life I had one. I loved my new boobs. I got great confidence back.

One problem I had was I lost some nipple sensitivity in fact they feel a little uncomfortable, just a little. I also have scars under my breasts but I believe there are newer methods now.

I can still say I don't regret it one bit.