Can anyone relate ?

LegacyUser

I'm a single mum with three children. The childrens father left when my youngest was a year and a half. Time has moved on, and I'm going through divorce etc, but in essence , I have been on my own the last six years. When it all happened, I took it on the chin, threw myself into work, and have done well. I don't get any help in any way from the children's father. None. Anyway, I digress. Even though things are going well on the outside, I'm feeling really suffocated. I'm feeling just so lonely I think my heart is breaking all over again. My friends all told me I should be getting back out there , dating and all that, and I did, but unfortunately in my situation I'm damaged goods as it were. I have never introduced my children to any man, and would be very hesitant to, as one of my children has special needs. I know maybe that's a blessing in disguise, as , whoever actually does eventually get involved with me would have to have a heart of gold...but to be honest I'm just so lonely that often I just can't even breathe. I have sought help over the years, my GP is wonderful, have seen counsellor, take care of myself physically. I'm doing everything right. I guess I miss someone to hold me. No one can help really. No one or no medication can take this feeling away.
So it brings me to ask can anyone relate?
I've lost all hope for my future.
Sorry for the rant !

CaraMay

I can't give advice but I can tell you are an amazing woman and mother and the kids are lucky to have you.

Do you not want your ex to see the kids? Does he contribute financially?

LegacyUser

CaraMay: Thanks! No, he moved abroad, and that was it. The door ws/is always open to him to visit them, but he has no interest. Contact consists of a phonecall once a month or so. No, he doesn't contribute in any way.

Alf. A. Male

Don't lose hope. There's someone for you. It may not be easy to find him, but since you haven't tried you have no reason to give up hope. Put yourself out there, prepare for some knocks and enjoy the journey as much as the destination.

Magicmatilda

Your post really struck me for some reason.

I have no children but often feel suffocated with lonliness, I think it is a part of life.

It must be hard in your situation to get out and have fun. I don't mean dating I mean get out and go hiking, or dancing or doing things purely for yourself, rather than for the children. Do you have anyone to mind them for you once a week to allow you to go out and have some quality time to just be you, not a mother or a divorced woman but just Emptyunregistered - doing something she enjoys, for fun.

It might help if you can do that. maybe it is about trying to make time to hold yourself. If you can continue to do that then there is no reason why when you are out doing things for yourself you won't happen across a man with a heart of gold. They do exist.

My sister in law was in a position similar to yourself, abadoned with 2 children by a man who had no interest. One of the children has severe special needs. She did meet another man and went on to have a third child with him......so it can happen