Cheated or not?

TrueIt

Ok I'll try and make this short as I can. I'm here to get peoples opinions from an outside point of view.

So a while ago the girl that I've been seen for just under a year went out with a so called 'guy' friend from midnight to sunrise. She tells me that they just went into town for a drive, had food went for a walk and ended up at a McDonalds in his town before returning home. She told me on a previous date that he liked her and that she has zero feelings for him.
So the worrying part is that on the same night she lied to me and told me she was at home and couldn't sleep. An old friend of mine said it to me recently that he saw the two of them leaving her estate at midnight.
When I confronted her about this, she said she went out cause she was bored sitting around all day, even tho i was in hers' earlier that day. She told me that she didn't tell me she went out with him because I knew he liked her and was afraid I'd be annoyed.
She puts up a convincing argument about what they done that night, she swore and promised that she did nothing with this guy. She tells me how much she absolutely loves me.
In her younger years I know she has had a bad past with this sort of stuff but she has settled down an awful lot since then.

So what do you think, is she lying to me? Yay or Nay

Czarcasm

It's impossible to say OP based on the limited information you've given.

What age are you both?

If you don't trust her, then you don't trust her and let her go now rather than tormenting both yourselves with her sneaking around because she feels she can't tell you when she wants to go meet her friends.

TrueIt

Early 20's.
I've never ever complained to her about talking to a male or having any male friends, not once. It is just the fact she lied to me and deleted the conversation between the two of them. I asked her did she tell him about this and she said yes, he said, 'It isn't my problem'.
Being honest I would not get jealous all that easily. But on this occasion, with all the factors, I just feel something is not quite right.

LegacyUser

It doesn't matter if she did cheat or didn't cheat. The seed of doubt has been sown.
She swore she didn't do anything and you don't believe her. You think your girlfriend is a liar, that's all that matters.

Why on earth would you stay in a relationship with someone you think is a liar ( or unfaithful) ?. Dump her so you can both move on and find more healthy relationships.

CaraMay

Very dodgy and makes no sense to me

jellyboy

based on what you wrote

if she lied about meeting him and wiping her phone record
Then my head tells me that she is lying about the lies (theres a cover up )

she loves you ..
But can you love her with lies attached ?

it could be that lies are a defense or a wall against previous hurts or behaviors..

All depends on how much weight you put on her behavior

Talk to her

desbrook

You don't have to take clothes off to cheat OP as I think you actually know. Even if "nothing happened " something did happen. Let's look at that -

Your gf arranged/agreed to a meeting and went off with a guy alone in his car for hours at night and never told you. Not just any guy but a guy she knew had feelings for her. Not alone did she not tell you this - after she made up a story about it and deleted the texts. ( I'm presuming she didn't delete others texts) She only went off with him because she was bored - her words.

Forget about whether anything physical happened. You probably will never know. From reading your post what you do know is that her overall behaviour is not acceptable to you. I'm presuming and hope that you wouldn't behave that way. For me her behaviour alone would end things and I think if you are honest that's how you feel.

Cazzoenorme

OP if it were me I would leave her, she's not trustworthy.

Colser

TrueIt wrote: »

Early 20's.
I've never ever complained to her about talking to a male or having any male friends, not once. It is just the fact she lied to me and deleted the conversation between the two of them. I asked her did she tell him about this and she said yes, he said, 'It isn't my problem'.
Being honest I would not get jealous all that easily. But on this occasion, with all the factors, I just feel something is not quite right.

I would go with my gut instinct on this OP...who goes out at midnight with a guy she knows that fancys her and expects her boyfriend to be ok about it? I wouldnt accept it and I wouldnt concider it to be jealousy just common sense.

Stavro Mueller

That you're asking strangers on a website speaks volumes - you're not buying what she's saying. Personally I think it sounds very fishy but I'd certainly not be betting the farm on it. Maybe she is telling the truth... You need to ask yourself how you see this going in the future. Will you find yourself sitting at home wondering is she gone off with yer man again? If she goes out with her friends, can you say hand on heart that she hasn't gone off with this guy or another lad? Go with your gut instinct, whatever it is.