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permanent adolesence?

  • 13-05-2014 5:06pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Just wondering if anyone in their 20's feels the same way as me. I'm 24 and mostly fairly unhappy with my life.

    I tend to get overwhelmed very easily by daily life and things other people seem to get on with just fine... for example, in my last job I was so stressed out by a situation that I was having hugely negative thoughts every day, like not wanting to wake up in the morning basically. It just totally took over my life to the point that for a few months I was constantly miserable. This is a problem with work in general- I love having something to do and prefer working to being unemployed- however, I just can't cope with any stress, especially dealing with customer complaints and queries. I used to spend a lot of time in the bathroom crying in my last job if there was a difficult phonecall, etc. I know nobody relishes this part of work but it just seems to take over my life... i often feel like a 13-year-old trying to deal with problems that are too 'adult'. It just seems like work is for 'grown-ups' who can deal with responsibility that I'm not able for.

    I often wish I could go back to being a child/teenager and have no real problems or concerns.

    This feeds into other parts of my life, such as dealing with people in shops, hairdressers, etc. I'm really nervous and I know I come across like a bumbling little girl and not a confident woman.

    I suppose I'm just wondering if anyone has ever experienced this and what you do/did on a day-to-day basis to cope?

    I should add that I'm currently in counselling and my therapist thinks that I'm emotionally stuck in a teenage phase/state. makes a lot of sense to me!


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
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    Hey OP. Your post is pretty much word for word my situation also, and has been for a number of years. I was also miserable working in a call centre and I used to dread going into work every day. As a general rule, I am not a people person, and find even interacting with my friends a chore. So as you can imagine, doing customer service was like trying to fit a round peg into a square hole. I too find that when dealing with Doctors and other appointments I must come across as a teenager!

    Its great that you are getting counselling. I do hope that this will help get you back on track. I suppose, I cant give you any solid advice as I am now in my late 30s and still cannot function all that well. A mixture of denial and isolating ones self from the world is how I get by. Its not really ideal to be honest, for the most part life is a chore to get through whilst waiting to die. However I say this because I do not recommend this for you, keep with the counselling and try get out as much as you can and interact with people. Also, if you hate the job, my advice is to look for something else where you would be more comfortable. That is if you have not done so already.

    Wising you all the best


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