Random conversations with people of opposite sex

kerry4sam

Random for me due to how it escalated so quickly (as far as I was concerned anywhoo, though he'd obviously given more thought) ...

Had very casual conversations with this guy; casually casual a total of 2 times before, in casual surroundings, until,
During the 3rd time when he escalated the conversation to
~ my age
~ marital status
~ any children I may have
~ he told me how he was married once some time back and shows he no longer wears his ring
~ spoke of his two daughters and his relationship with them
~ spoke of family issues he was going through
~ proceeded to show me pictures of his youngest daughter and even his nephew
~ spoke of his work-place and showed me pictures of there also. His work-place has been confirmed by me after some research.

It was surreal. I was just standing there, just listening to this (almost virtual stranger) man speak so forwardly and openly with me.
Just pure Random!

Never had anyone escalate a very casual conversation to such a serious personal conversation so quickly.

Has it happened anyone else? Literally 3 conversations in total with this man, including the above (detailed). Don't , well, didn't know of him until this when he made himself known to me any time he had seen me which led to the 1st two casual conversations.

Nothing un-nerving. Nothing worrying. Just got me thinking when he spoke so openly with me so quickly.

Anyone else experience this before?
Thanking You,
kerry4sam

Typer Monkey

Just sounds like he's a chatter. Someone who likes to talk and share. I've met lots of these people over the years..on buses, planes, at work, in social situations. A good friend of mine is like this. She'll chat the hind legs of complete strangers and always seems to find another chatter for a natter.

Are you romantically interested in him and hoping this is a sign he likes you too? I don't really see what the issue is tbh

What's the personal issue?

Some people are prone to tmi with strangers, I particularly remember one womans gynaecological history being related to me on a train journey from London to Manchester. Maybe you're strangers now, but he's hoping to change that .

Merkin

What's the personal issue? I get these type of disclosures from people on a daily basis. I have that kind of face apparently and people confide their innermost deepest darkest secrets to me within about five minutes of meeting me. Par for the course I'd say.....I wouldn't read anything into it.

Big Bag of Chips

I once met a man who knew my brother in the local pub. I didn't know this man. I didn't know his sons (who were friends with my brother) I knew nothing about him.. but, maybe because he felt he "knew" me through my brother or something (?) he told me some very personal stuff. That he was thinking of leaving his wife. That his son was due home from Australia in a few months, and it would probably be all over by then etc...

Kept telling me not to tell anyone, etc.

I didn't know this man from Adam. And if I met him in the street now, I probably wouldn't recognise him, but I'm guessing he felt we were "friends" somehow and told me all this.

Maybe after the 2 conversations you had, he thought you were "friends" and decided to tell you a bit more about himself.

Random people tell random people random things all the time. I'm surprised it has never happened you before!

Opposite or same sex isn't really relevant, unless you are looking for deeper meaning. Are you interested in him? Are you hoping/worried he's interested in you? Would you be even asking the question if it was a woman who told you all this in conversation 3?!

Czarcasm

kerry4sam wrote: »

Random for me due to how it escalated so quickly (as far as I was concerned anywhoo, though he'd obviously given more thought) ...

Had very casual conversations with this guy; casually casual a total of 2 times before, in casual surroundings, until,
During the 3rd time when he escalated the conversation to
~ my age
~ marital status
~ any children I may have
~ he told me how he was married once some time back and shows he no longer wears his ring
~ spoke of his two daughters and his relationship with them
~ spoke of family issues he was going through
~ proceeded to show me pictures of his youngest daughter and even his nephew
~ spoke of his work-place and showed me pictures of there also. His work-place has been confirmed by me after some research.

It was surreal. I was just standing there, just listening to this (almost virtual stranger) man speak so forwardly and openly with me.
Just pure Random!

Never had anyone escalate a very casual conversation to such a serious personal conversation so quickly.

Has it happened anyone else? Literally 3 conversations in total with this man, including the above (detailed). Don't , well, didn't know of him until this when he made himself known to me any time he had seen me which led to the 1st two casual conversations.

Nothing un-nerving. Nothing worrying. Just got me thinking when he spoke so openly with me so quickly.

Anyone else experience this before?
Thanking You,
kerry4sam

Nothing unnerving, but you did a background check on this guy just to check he was above board all the same?

You'd have to give some sort of context sam as to how you guys even got talking in the first place or why you're entertaining this guy if you find it a bit surreal. You shouldn't feel you have to entertain him if you think he's over sharing or if you don't feel like sharing yourself.

As for the question itself, geez, I don't think there's a day it doesn't happen tbh, but I meet a lot of strangers (and even strange strangers!) through my work anyway. Some will offload a ton of personal stuff on me in the space of three minutes, let alone three meetings!

Often on nights out too I'm approached by people and there's an internal "Ohh shìt" facepalm moment goes off in my brain because I can just see it written all over their face they're gearing up to take a load off. One of the more surreal occasions was a girl I met and within less than ten minutes we were out in the smoking area and she was asking me had I any baby pictures on my phone (I'd already told her at that stage I was married and I'd a child), she spent the next half hour cooing and awwhing over them while telling me how she "wanted one just like him"... I didn't know where to look! :pac:

Another time I was in the club, heading for the bar when a girl stopped me up and asked me what was with the crutch? I just told her I'd a bad hip, rather than go into explaining as I was gasping for a drink. She replied "Oh my dad has a bad hip too!" (like the fact she was about half my age didn't make me feel old enough already!), before she launched into telling me all about herself while we were standing at the bar. I figured she'd leave me alone if I bought her a drink, but nah, she turned out alright after I guess.

I could fill the thread with thousands more stories of random people that over share stuff and like to get personal quickly, that's just some people's way or their personality I suppose, I try not to read too much into it.

I think it's the oversized ears...

Alf. A. Male

kerry4sam wrote: »

~ spoke of his work-place and showed me pictures of there also. His work-place has been confirmed by me after some research.

I find this the most random and surreal part of your post. What an odd thing to do based on apparently innocent conversations. I think you need to get out more, nice, open conversations between two people who take an interest in others in social situations are happening all the time, just without the follow up background checks.