My dad is sick...

WildRosie

My Dad is sick, he has a number of 'red flag' symptoms and is going for a scope next week. His GP has said that it could be stomach cancer (among other things). His Dad was diagnosed with stomach cancer at the same age.

I am so worried. I love him so much, he's my friend as well as my father and we're very alike in so many ways, I don't know what I'd do without him. I've seen such a change in him in recent weeks. I'm the only one he will listen to/talk to you without getting frustrated. I'm a student nurse and I work in a nursing home and I feel like I'm nursing him too, checking his BP, getting him to take his meds, monitoring him generally, trying to get him to eat. It feels like I'm constantly nursing, but I'd go to the end of the earth for him. I can't imagine life without him. I can't write any more without getting upset.

I'm not sure what I want here, I just have no one else to talk to about this. I want to cry but I have to be strong for him and the rest of my family.

LegacyUser

Hi Rosie,

Being a student nurse, you know you are able to help your dad and you can take some comfort in that, both now and in years' time when you look back.

You also don't know exactly what's wrong yet. Although waiting and fearing the unknown is unbelievably hard, at least there is the possibility that things might not be as bad as you fear. My mum died when I was young and I'm an only child. When I was told a few years ago that my dad had cancer and that it had spread, I was beyond devastated. For almost a year we believed that he couldn't be cured, only to find out eventually that his doctors had got it wrong. My dad is fine now (totally cancer-free) and I hope it will stay that way for a long time. You don't know that the worst has happened yet so try your best not to panic (even though I know exactly how hard that is).

WildRosie

Thanks, it's good to hear about your Dad. Dad went back to his GP last night and the scope has been moved forward from next Friday to Monday so we'll know a little sooner. I'll be on placement in the same hospital so although I'll be close by I won't be able to be with him. I wish I could be there but they understand that I don't really have a choice.

Lou.m

WildRosie wrote: »

My Dad is sick, he has a number of 'red flag' symptoms and is going for a scope next week. His GP has said that it could be stomach cancer (among other things). His Dad was diagnosed with stomach cancer at the same age.

I am so worried. I love him so much, he's my friend as well as my father and we're very alike in so many ways, I don't know what I'd do without him. I've seen such a change in him in recent weeks. I'm the only one he will listen to/talk to you without getting frustrated. I'm a student nurse and I work in a nursing home and I feel like I'm nursing him too, checking his BP, getting him to take his meds, monitoring him generally, trying to get him to eat. It feels like I'm constantly nursing, but I'd go to the end of the earth for him. I can't imagine life without him. I can't write any more without getting upset.

I'm not sure what I want here, I just have no one else to talk to about this. I want to cry but I have to be strong for him and the rest of my family.

I really hope the scope goes well !

Sending lots of positive vibes and thinking of you. You are very strong and I can tell you have loving people around you.

CathyMoran

Best of wishes with the scope with your daddy. The fact that they are doing the scope sooner is better as they can start solving things then and the results do not take that long (even if it seems like a long time).

I have personal experience of this from the other side (I am a 7+year oesophageal cancer survivor).

Rubberchikken

You sound like a wonderful daughter.
It's ok to let go and cry when you feel like it.


Worrying about your dad is a lot of stress and pressure to face alone.
Just know that others are thinking about you and wishing your dad well.

LegacyUser

Hope the scope went well for your dad today.

Lou.m

unreg again wrote: »

Hope the scope went well for your dad today.

Me too!