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Taking a break from work for a while?

  • 06-04-2014 9:52am
    #1
    comfortseeker
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 62 ✭✭


    I am a 24 year old girl and i am undecided on what to do. i have been in my current job for two years, I was living in dublin but moved back to Galway when my ex came home from Oz. 3 months after he came home I had an ectopic pregnancy and then became obsessed with my weight and got anorexia really bad. Only in the past few months I have been recovering-my menses returned and I was a healthy weight again but now feel i am relapsing again. Me and my boyfriend had a toxic relationship also, he was emotionally abusive and I am not sorry I am out of that.

    So it has been a turbulent 2 years but I am trying to figure out where I am. I have little friends confidence and dont go out at the weekends and I feel like a fresh start and would like to break the rut I am in and do some travelling or move to a new city. I know I may sound mad leaving a good job in these times so I am seeking advice from anyone who may have done something similar in the past or can offer guidance?. Thanks


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  • #2
    bluemagpie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 69 ✭✭bluemagpie


    I have both moved cities and travelled, so my advice would be if you want to do it go for it. You'll be able to pick up another job, don't stay in something or somewhere just because you have a permanent job, especially when you have nothing that is forcing your hand to stay. I had plenty of people asking why I was leaving a permanent job, but you have go for what you want. You are young so if you want to travel definitely go for it, and traveling solo will help your confidence, and if you would rather move cities go for that too, you can do both, one after the other, and doing either will bring you a freedom that it is ok to move and move again. It is ok to change, you don't need to lock yourself down to your current situation, you've had a tough time but you can take time out and you can always return home anytime. Best of luck!


  • #3
    comfortseeker
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 62 ✭✭comfortseeker


    bluemagpie wrote: »
    don't stay in something or somewhere just because you have a permanent job, especially when you have nothing that is forcing your hand to stay.

    I feel guilty leaving a permanent job, people out there are crying out for jobs and there is nothing wrong with my job I just want to feel free. a lot has happened in the past 2 years, all negative, I feel like I need the uncertaintity and the blank page to write what I like instead of following the pattern I am already in if that makes sense.
    bluemagpie wrote: »
    doing either will bring you a freedom that it is ok to move and move again. It is ok to change, you don't need to lock yourself down to your current situation, you've had a tough time but you can take time out and you can always return home anytime. Best of luck!

    I think thats what I need, to just be free. My job takes all my time at the moment, I drive an hour each way and I know I could move in the Galway city but part of me is holding back because of my anorexia I dont feel comfortable.


  • #4
    Tokyo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,656 ✭✭✭✭Tokyo


    Hi comfortseeker,

    I remember some of your earlier threads this year, and I've noticed that you have opened up quite a few threads in the last few months regarding issues in your personal life. While the PI/RI forums are a great resource for getting something off your chest and getting feedback and advice from others that have has similar experiences, when we as moderators see a member continuously open threads here in such a short space of time, there comes a point where we decide that we need to step in.

    The reason we do this is that multiple threads on related issues like yours indicate that the PI/RI forums are not providing the help and advice that you need - instead they are acting as a crutch, temporarily adding support to the problem rather than allowing you to seek proper help. With this in mind we urge you to seek professional help OP - these forums with the best intentions in the world can not provide that, and we feel that you need to discuss the issues you are currently having with a real life professional.

    Please understand that this is for your own good. With that I am closing this thread, and asking you not to open any new threads for a while. You are of course welcome to respond to other peoples threads, and provide some insight for them. I wish you the best of luck.

    Regards,
    Mike


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