Am I right to feel so perturbed?

LegacyUser

This seems relatively minor compared to the vast majority of issues out there (and harboured by myself too); but it's niggling at me.
On Saturday night I was in a busy venue with a group of friends; on the way back from the bathroom an acquaintance, a women also, twenty years my senior!! put her hand down my top! Now, my daughter who I breastfeed for nigh a year knows not to do that. Not only this, but her fellow 'locked' friend (also female and unknown to me) did the same. I was so freaked out...trying to get her hands away as she persisted on commenting on the padding of my bra and grasping at my barely-a-handful breasts! The two of them hanging out of me, in front of everyone while my polluted friend tries to drag me away.
If two men did that people's reaction would be to report them! I see one of the two regularly and we have a lot of mutual acquaintances/friends. What I'm looking for is opinions on whether I should say to her how absolutely bang out of order she was? I now have even more of a complex; and I'm well aware no one should have the right to make some one feel such a way.

Sorry!

Any wisdom on what to do/let it go...appreciated

tomwaterford

Can't_touch_this wrote: »

I should say to her how absolutely bang out of order she was? I now have even more of a complex; and I'm well aware no one should have the right to make some one feel such a way.

why would you not pull her up on it???

an attempt to hulmiliate you in public:(
I cant see why you'd want anything to do with them again!!

Merkin

It's assault whatever way you look at it. As you rightly point out, if it was two guys who had groped you in this fashion then it would be all out war. I'd talk to her about it and tell her how frightened and uncomfortable you felt, they were both bang out of order.

Tigger99

I'm not surprised you didn't confront them, you were so shocked. Will you see them again? If it was me I'd tell them when they are sober how disgusting their behaviour was. Ask them how they'd feel if a man or woman did that to them? Christ I'm furious for you, what scummy scummy thing to do. Dirtbags.

They sexually assaulted you, publicly humiliated you, violated your personal space and right to modesty and treated you like an object. They completely overstepped not only social boundaries, but also what I'd consider to be boundaries that are your right as a human being.

Don't let this lie. I'd find the one of them you know and confront her ASAP. If a man had done that he'd be sitting in a garda station right now.

Pawwed Rig

I don't see why their sex matters in this case.