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Arrowsgoloar64

Hi

Where to start with this.... Lets see?

Im going through what feels like a mid life crisis at the moment. Im a woman in her 20's who hasn't been able to make great life decisions up till now. I left school early and tried the back door route to education and though i was enjoying what i was doing and after a while i enjoyed the social aspect more then the course work (as you do) but after the course finished i was back at square one, jobless and no proper qualification to support me.

In the mix of all of this i entered into a relationship with a guy i had know for a while, while there was a little age gap we still got each other and age was but a number. When we first started seeing each other he was unemployeed trying the education route for the second time but gave up on the idea and found work instead.

A couple of years have passed since then and we are now both employeed and hate, i mean really HATE our jobs. Both of us have been searching for work but are really struggling. He believe that the job he is currently in have drained him of his qualifcations and his confidence because of the group of people he works for. Whereas i have no proper degree as such and never really know what kind of jobs to apply for as a result.

Also i should mention in the five or so years we have been together we live seperately, he live in an apartment and i live at home (i realise how sad that sounds). Reason being at the time i wasn't in a financial position to do so. In the time he has lived there we learn't that the building itself was not built properly,(No proper insulation) and as a result the apartment is completely damp, to the point im waiting for it to collapase on itself. I have explained to him that i am not keen i spending the night there, that he should call his landlord, that he should move out, but i just seem to upset him so i stay quite and he continues to live there. His reason for not moving out is because he does not want to move closer to his place of work because he wants to leave it, which i understand completely, but then hes finding it greatly difficult to find a job thats right for him.

Between the housing situation and the difficulting in finding work its causing lots of problem in the relationship now. I don't want to spend another minute in this job or another minute in this housing, between the two i feeling like im losing my mind. Im working all the hours i can to save to try and move somewhere else and my hours at hour are mostly night five to six days a week but they conflict with his hours, so now we barely see each other. So now we fight about not seeing each other and moving in together/new jobs.

I would just like to be able to find new work somewhere else, i suggested moving to another country for work, a new start, even that possibly one day i could return to college (to do what im still not sure of). But as of this moment im feeling rather trapped and can't seem to talk to him, my friends or my family about it. Im losing hope and my mind. I just want to move forward with my life. Most of my friend are engaged, married or are having kids. I don't want that just yet but i would like so change in where i am now.

Please help.

Sauve

Mod

Hi there OP,
I'm going to move your thread to the Personal Issues forum, I think you'll get better advice there.
Best of luck,
Sauve.

Tokyo

OP, seeing as you already have the same thread posted in the Relationship Issues forum and people are responding, I'll close this one down.

Regards,
Mike