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Can't forgive my parents

  • 16-03-2014 5:51pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I can't forgive my parents for the way they brought me up. Basically they used a lot of corporal punishment. I won't go into the details but it involved removing clothing and getting a fixed tariff. I am now fearful of authority and back down every time I am confronted.
    I am also obsessive about keeping rituals. I can't leave the house with a cup unwashed. I iron my underwear.
    I know a few other girls who were physically punished a children but none of them are as bad as me.
    I now avoid meeting my parents and have as little contact with them as possible. They are getting old and could do with some help but I don't go near them.
    I feel so guilty. What can I do?


Comments

  • #2
    Tokyo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,656 ✭✭✭✭Tokyo


    Honestly OP, if I were in your situation I think that a counsellor would be my first port of call. You are obviously dealing with some very unresolved issues with your childhood, and talking it out with a professional and getting their opinion is the first step on the road to dealing with it, in my opinion.

    Good luck.


  • #3
    ElleEm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,981 ✭✭✭ElleEm


    The only thing you can do, OP, is go see a counsellor. There are many different types, and there are low cost or free options of you have financial issues.
    There are many books you can read (Toxic Parents is one I see frequently recommended here although I haven't read it myself), but with the extent of the damage this has done, you really should seek a counsellor.


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