Lost job: feels so alien

lazeedaisy

I recently moved jobs after 10 years due to relocation. It took me 15 months to find new job as there is not much going in the area.

I worked with the new company 4 months - I thought it was a great job, but it was a new start up and boss had no experience. Since christmas I knew it was not for me - but i persevered - have never been out of work - last week my employment was terminated with immediate effect, not working out blah.....

Shock horror - now out of work - just don't know what to do with myself - house is clean! have been baking round the clock, went to fas but i am somewhat! educated - they cannot help me. :eek: so they say.

I know its a case of looking and applying and looking some more - but I feel strange because I was let go,

I have no idea what to do with myself - we moved - so i don't know anyone nor the area at all, I have done nothing but work for the past 4 months solid - very long hours. or the past 25 years!!

Not sure what i want - suppose i want to hear i am not alone - i know that - and there are lots of people in my last job happy to hear i was let go - serves me right for leaving a good job!! good old irish begrudgery is alive and well,

i feel lost to say the least and an ticking over but don't know what to do with myself, confidence took a battering also,

what next?

Mrs OBumble

Yup, it can feel alien.

I don't want to sound trite - but perhaps this is actually gift of time that you can use to develop some hobbies, community networks etc. Of course this depends on how much you need the money. But maybe it's an opportunity in disguise.

And stayiing mentally healthy takes a lot of work, if you've been used to someone else (ie work) organising your day for you. Dunno if it will help or not, but below is an extract from something I wrote a while ago with some advice about how to approach it.

Good luck.



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IMHO anyone who is long-term job-seeking or under-employed needs to set goals in each of these areas:

•job-hunting
•employment skills
•home and family
•hobbies
•community service
•something physical (if your hobbies don't include sport).

Have big picture objectives too, but focus on the day-to-day and week-to-week goals. Make sure they're realistic, so you can succeed at them.

Then plan each week so you can and do succeed, and make use of the fantastic gift of time that unemployment gives.

Basically you're giving yourself the structure and positive feedback that work would normally give you - and this is an important part of keeping yourself employable. Even something "ridiculous" like vacuuming the lounge three times a week" can do the trick, so long as you make sure you do it and give yourself the "credit" for it.

Whether I've got a temping gig or not, I get up at 8am - unless I've "given" myself an annual leave day. If I'm not on "leave", I plan the day like a work day. If I am on "leave", I slouch in bed 'til 11.

lazeedaisy

Thanks for the advice - just what i needed.

I am hoping to take a breather and then see how life plans out.

I feel a lot hopeful,

Thanks

davo2001

To be fair, you haven't mentioned the money aspect of losing the job at all, this would leave me to believe that you are financially stable, which is of course a good thing and not alot of people can say this.

I'd take the opportunity and go and try some new interests you might have.

lazeedaisy

Money is a big issue for anyone loosing their job. its a big deal for me but there is no point talking about it because nothing can be done. I never borrowed excessively, savings have been depleted over past few years and i was living week to week. i will continue to do that. i had my last holiday 3 years ago but dont have the urge to travel as much as i used to. Himself & myself have always been financially independent of each other. if i dont have money - i can't make it. so there is no point in moaning about it. it will be a struggle.