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Should I tell my friend that the guy she is dating already has girlfriend?

  • 09-03-2014 10:51am
    #1
    HonorRoller
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43 ✭


    A female friend told me she is seeing a guy but later on I heard from another friend of mine that the guy already has girlfriend in Spain. Moreover, my friend who told me this information added that the guy in question confessed to him that he just wanted to score.

    This player in question I know him actually. He is nice but from the information I have heard he doesn't sound like a trustworthy person in terms of relationshis. Now I am wondering whether to tell my female friend about it or not. She is from Brazil and have only 5 months left before returning. She said she is just dating and doesn't want to get serious though. However I am wondering if things did get serious. Should I tell her or not?


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  • #2
    ElleEm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,981 ✭✭✭ElleEm


    Of course you should tell her.

    Would you want to be told if you were in her shoes?


  • #3
    P. Breathnach
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,089 ✭✭✭✭P. Breathnach


    You could just "blunder" into it, saying that you hadn't known that he had had finished with his girlfriend.


  • #4
    December2012
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,695 ✭✭✭December2012


    Tell her today.


  • #5
    CaraMay
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,652 ✭✭✭CaraMay


    Do let her know.

    Why wouldn't you?


  • #6
    HonorRoller
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43 ✭HonorRoller


    I haven't been in this situation before so I am wondering. Thanks guys. I'll let her know.


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  • #7
    Voglio
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 29 ✭Voglio


    They could have an open relationship.


  • #8
    Penny Tration
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,687 ✭✭✭✭Penny Tration


    Voglio wrote: »
    They could have an open relationship.

    That would be great, if the op's friend knew about it.


  • #9
    redbaron_99
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,437 ✭✭✭redbaron_99


    Why on earth would you not tell her.....?


  • #10
    Czarcasm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,076 ✭✭✭✭Czarcasm


    HonorRoller wrote: »
    A female friend told me she is seeing a guy but later on I heard from another friend of mine that the guy already has girlfriend in Spain. Moreover, my friend who told me this information added that the guy in question confessed to him that he just wanted to score.

    This player in question I know him actually. He is nice but from the information I have heard he doesn't sound like a trustworthy person in terms of relationshis. Now I am wondering whether to tell my female friend about it or not. She is from Brazil and have only 5 months left before returning. She said she is just dating and doesn't want to get serious though. However I am wondering if things did get serious. Should I tell her or not?


    OP I wouldn't say anything tbh. It's always dodgy hearing these 'stories' from a third party. You might just be creating drama for yourself and your friend has already said she isn't serious about this guy.

    If he has a girlfriend back in Spain already it's unlikely they're seeing each other every day or every week either and your friend IS going back to Brazil soon, so it's unlikely to turn into a serious relationship.


  • #11
    heretochat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 533 ✭✭✭heretochat


    In too many situations such as these, the person who in good faith tries to do the right thing by a friend ends up as the "shot messanger".

    I would agree with czarcasm and tread carefully on this one. You would be acting purely on heresay and if you are wrong, it'll be you that might lose a friend.


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  • #12
    livemusic4life
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 394 ✭✭livemusic4life


    Being on the other side of this recently, I'd definitely want to know. There is nothing to make you feel like a bigger idiot than everyone knowing before you find out for yourself. Tell her up front or as suggested above blunder into it.
    the person who told me about my now ex, blundered into it by dropping it into conversation. I don't hate them for it and have thanked them since.


  • #13
    Obliq
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,371 ✭✭✭Obliq


    livemusic4life wrote: »
    Being on the other side of this recently, I'd definitely want to know. There is nothing to make you feel like a bigger idiot than everyone knowing before you find out for yourself. Tell her up front or as suggested above blunder into it.
    the person who told me about my now ex, blundered into it by dropping it into conversation. I don't hate them for it and have thanked them since.

    +1. Yup, wasn't thrilled to find out about Polish guy's wife and kids at home, but glad I was told by his mate. There was a reason he hadn't mentioned the wife, even when questioned, and that was because I wouldn't have gone there if I'd known. OP, your friend might not want to be the kind of person who would facilitate a fella to cheat - give her the chance to know, eh?


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