where to go from here

zoe 3619

Sorry lads.not done this before.seems like there's good advice being offered so here goes...been married 17 years.both if us were so,so in love when we got together.2 things never seemed right-found him hard to talk to and the sex wasn't great.ok,alarm bells sounding.but I loved him and I married him.thought it was perfect,together for ever.got pregnant.he wanted that badly.I was scared,never really wanted kids.until it went wrong.pain,bleeding,miscarriage happening.told himself,no response,changed the subject.wasn't interested.lost the baby.could handle the miscarriage,but couldn't deal with his attitude towards it.sure,anyway that's background.now we have two gorgeous boys.young teenagers.nothing these days between myself and my husband.find it hard talk to him,sex doesn't happen.he's on Facebook till early morning.never spend any time together.anyway,point is,guess we have no marriage,and haven't fir a while.but don't know how to move on.my boys love their home.say they don't ever want to live elsewhere.and I'm not leaving my boys.husband had the house before we met,so guess its his really.also,as I understand it,can't get rent benefit while there's a family home.if we had no kids,guess I'd walk out tommorow,but guess I have to watch life pass me by for another 10 year's til youngest leaves home.depressed.any thoughts?

Big Bag of Chips

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