sex issue

LegacyUser

My boyfriend and I are in our mid 30s. We have been going out for six months and recently started having sex. We are using condoms but he cannot ejaculate with one on.
He has used them before in other relationships for years, so I'm concerned the problem is me

Any suggestions or advice?

signmeup

Just relax - both of you. Its not all about the ending, most of the enjoyment is in getting there.
Maybe take climaxing off the table, and just enjoy the sensation of being with each other, and exploring each other. Find out what he likes, tell him what you like. It will all happen, but not if you are forcing it.
You are just getting to know each other, and how and what turns you on, and how you work together. Dont try to rush it, it all needs to be enjoyed.
I always come before my OH, and sometimes multiple times before him. At the start sometimes he didn't finish, but he told me not to worry about it as he was very much enjoying himself.
Be open and honest with each other and it will lead to a very fulfilling relationship.

Holsten

New relationship, first times having sex this can happen.

Added condom use and it's completely normal.

Relax and have fun, sex doesn't have to be all about orgasm.

Teyla Emmagan

Nothing to do with you - he's just not used to having sex with a condom on!

He will adjust, don't worry about it.

Tokyo

There are thinner condoms on the market that may help him with this. Pop into the local chemist and see for yourselves what's available.

iusedtoknow

mike_ie wrote: »

There are thinner condoms on the market that may help him with this. Pop into the local chemist and see for yourselves what's available.

This

I've had this problem, and we switched to a lighter brand. Never looked back.
As others have said, experiment with a different type/brand and enjoy the experimentation.

Engine No.9

Just spotted this over at The Gentleman's Club

Note the link for the worlds thinnest condom. Haven't read the article myself but might be worth a look.

Sleepless and Manic

+1 on trying different brands.

Hasnt been mentioned yet but a sizable number of men have allergies to Nonoxynol-9, the added spermicide in condoms.

Even if you only experience a little of the stinging or burning that is possible, faint enough to barely feel, its going to effect, or at least distract from the business of the moment.

Sleepy

There's nothing in the rules that says sex has to end with intercourse either OP. Have some after-play until he gets used to wearing them or you've got alternative contraception in place and have the STD tests done etc.

desbrook

wondering woman wrote: »

My boyfriend and I are in our mid 30s. We have been going out for six months and recently started having sex. We are using condoms but he cannot ejaculate with one on.
He has used them before in other relationships for years, so I'm concerned the problem is me

Any suggestions or advice?

I think the other posters COULD be right - then again maybe not. I'm slightly older than you guys but admit I never thought it was my partner that was rhe reason I struggled to ejaculate for years. Since our relationship finished a few years back I realise it most certainly was. I've had no such problems since mostly because I've steered clear of any girl over a size 14 .

Engine No.9

desbrook wrote: »

I think the other posters COULD be right - then again maybe not. I'm slightly older than you guys but admit I never thought it was my partner that was rhe reason I struggled to ejaculate for years. Since our relationship finished a few years back I realise it most certainly was. I've had no such problems since mostly because I've steered clear of any girl over a size 14 .

Is that to say fat people can't achieve orgasm?

Taltos

Back on track guys - des' experience are his, no more off topic discussions please.