How much contact makes a guy look too keen?

LegacyUser

Thought I'd get some opinions from here. So I've recently met a girl that I like and I'm almost certain she likes me too. We've gotten with each other a few times which is why I say so. Anyway, just want to know how often is acceptable to either text or message this girl without her thinking I'm too keen and scaring her off? I'd get onto her everyday like if I knew she wanted that or didn't mind that but I don't know how to gauge it.. I'm interested in more with her and don't want to chase her away. All thoughts and opinions appreciated!

CaraMay

Ask her out on a date and then you will know if it's going anywhere.

Holsten

Contact her to arrange dates or when you are going to meet up.

That's the most you need really.

FollatonWood

Work it out by her responses, some girls like a lot of contact and some don't. I've had guys text me alot in between dates and it'd only annoy me if I wasn't that into them, but then I know some girls who would say it wrecks their head.

signmeup

I always preferred less contact from men. Even from my ex husband while I was married to him!! :rolleyes:
Since we split, I dated a good bit and would always prefer less contact - arrange a date dont be bothering me type

Then I met someone who is truly the love of my life. He likes to keep in contact, it slightly unnerved me at the start, I had to get used to it. Not in an ott way, but there would be contact every day when we were dating. I was so into him I always love hearing from him. Now we email / text / call eachother every day, and I'm still so happy to see him every evening!

My point is, when you are the right guy, and she is the right girl, there is no such thing as too much contact.
Every couple is different. Do what ever you feel is right. Try to use your instinct.

But, saying that, I would agree with the advice to observe caution and not over do it at the start. No wants an eager beaver. Let her look forward to hearing from you.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the responses. I suppose I'll keep it minimal enough, would it be expected that I'd initiate the texting? I've just come away from a relationship (not even official bf/gf but that's another story) where she'd find it unusual if I didn't text her everyday or if I didn't respond to her texts. So you can see where I'd be confused with this new situation!

Tokyo

Send her a text. See what she replies. Take it from there.

LegacyUser

mike_ie wrote: »

Send her a text. See what she replies. Take it from there.

I actually did earlier today because I saw something funny I knew she'd appreciate. Went back and forth for a bit, basically essays haha so I spose that bodes well enough.

Tokyo

So why ask if you should initiate the texting then? Sounds like you already did. And she responded, so I guess you have your answer too...

LegacyUser

Ha you're right, I couldn't help myself being honest, threw caution to the wind in this case!!

CaraMay

Now ask her out

LegacyUser

CaraMay wrote: »

Now ask her out

I absolutely intend on it