How likely will Irish people date foreigners?

Kobe

Hi, I'm new here, I'm an Asian currently studying in Ireland. Totally love this country and the people here. However I don't have much luck in getting an Irish girlfriend. I had one Irish girlfriend before but unfortunately it ended quite soon, since then I've been single until now. My question is, how likely do Irish people date non Irish? Thanks.

Leogirl

I'm Irish & dating a foreign guy, we're about to move in together. My best friend is Irish & living with her foreign boyfriend - they have 2 children now. Another friend is foreign & going out with an Irish guy for years. And that's just a few examples. So in my experience, Irish people are very open to relationships with other nationalities - once they have a similar humour, similar values & both are tolerant of the other persons differences. Guess that goes for all relationships really :-)

sleepytrees

I can't speak for every Irish person. Everyone is different but I married foreigner

It's not about nationality it's about the connection! Although I love the mix of cultures and visiting my husbands home country.

ted1

I think it is easier for foreign girls to date Irish guys than it is for the reverse.
But that doesn't rule it out.

From my experience Irish girls are different than most girls. They like people to be themselves, if you try to impress them and be a gentleman they'll see through it and rip the piss out of you. They like to be treated as equals, where as some nationalities like to be treated as princesses etc.

So in summary be yourself, don't try to be a Prince Charming, talk to them as you would a make friend.

dannyc31

I think it is easier for foreign girls to date Irish guys than it is for the reverse.
But that doesn't rule it out.

From my experience Irish girls are different than most girls. They like people to be themselves, if you try to impress them and be a gentleman they'll see through it and rip the piss out of you. They like to be treated as equals, where as some nationalities like to be treated as princesses etc.

So in summary be yourself, don't try to be a Prince Charming, talk to them as you would a make friend.

i second this. the amount of italian and american men i've come across who get very upset in a bar when their chessey chat up lines of how much of a princess the irish girl is, is met with "would ya F*ck off"

i dont think irish girls are use to be spoken too that way, and are more use to a "take the piss out of each other" culture rather than been put up on a pedestal.

so as the previous poster said be yourself and treat them as equals and not princess which might be the norm in your culture. the other thing i would do is really embed yourself into the irish way, learn the lingo the banter and the craic. irish girls like banter & craic from a guy more than most.

retro:electro

I think Irish people are very open to dating other nationalities. My brother is going out with a Polish girl and she is one of the nicest people I have ever met.
Just relax a bit and don't rush into something just for the sake of it. Best of luck!

Bananaleaf

I've never been with a foreigner myself, but a lot of my friends have and are - I'd say its very common to be honest. As a teacher, a lot of our students nowadays are mixed nationalities too.

I'm going to generalise now and prob get slated for it, but ... I can totally understand why Italian especially and to a lesser degree American men get brushed off quite frequently. Basing it on my experience and I know I'm generalising but, I have found the former sleazy bordering creepy and the latter very cheesy!!

OP, again another generalisation but I would think the Asian community is more insular than the Irish one. this might result in women not approaching you and you might have to do a lot of the running. Again though, really not trying to offend.

Kobe

Great opinions Thanks everyone
There were 3 Irish girls step backwards when I tried to step one step forward asking them if they want to hang out, I was being creepy at all in fact I'm kind of shy, so trying to go ahead and ask a girl out for the first time us kind of a big deal for me. I agree that in general Irish girls are very nice and friendly, maybe they were just simply not into me. But have been failed several times made me doubt myself a little bit. I'll keep searching for the right one and at the same time maybe don't let myself try too much.

Konata

My view is probably a little skewed since I study a foreign language (Japanese) and am therefore surrounded by people who are interested in said foreign language/culture etc. but I know several Irish girls who have dated/are dating foreign guys. Sure there may be girls who generally aren't attracted to Asian guys, just like there are girls who aren't generally attracted to guys with blonde hair or short guys or whatever. That's just personal preference at the end of the day and there's not a lot you can do about it! But I think that most people are just looking for a connection of some sort when dating someone, which could come from anyone, regardless of their race etc.

If a girl rejects you or doesn't seem interested just move on. It's unlikely it's because you're foreign and much more likely that she just doesn't feel a connection or something. Don't feel down about it if you're rejected - it happens to everyone at some point! Don't focus too much and trying to find a girlfriend. Just keep having fun and hanging out with lots of different people and you'll find a connection with someone eventually

Legs.Eleven

I've 4 siblings (2 sisters) and including myself, all of us are in long-term relationships or married to foreigners.

Arthur Beesley

Depends on the nationality.

CaraMay

Arthur Beesley wrote: »

Depends on the nationality.

No it depends on the two individuals involved.

kylith

I know two Chinese guys who married Irish women, so you've a good chance of finding someone.

Tokyo

My past girlfriends, in no particular order have been Irish, French, German, Australian, Colombian, American, Romanian, Mexican and Norwegian, so yes, Irish people are certainly open to dating foreigners.

I can only speak for myself when saying this, but it had a lot less to do with where they were from, and a lot more to do with whether they were decent people who I enjoyed spending time with...

Arthur Beesley

CaraMay wrote: »

No it depends on the two individuals involved.

So you speak for me now?

Emme

Kobe wrote: »

Great opinions Thanks everyone
There were 3 Irish girls step backwards when I tried to step one step forward asking them if they want to hang out, I was being creepy at all in fact I'm kind of shy, so trying to go ahead and ask a girl out for the first time us kind of a big deal for me. I agree that in general Irish girls are very nice and friendly, maybe they were just simply not into me. But have been failed several times made me doubt myself a little bit. I'll keep searching for the right one and at the same time maybe don't let myself try too much.

Are you looking for a girlfriend or an Irish girlfriend? I think that Irish people have no problem dating foreigners. You need to look in the right places. Focus on being friends with girls, see what happens and take it from there. Don't go out with the express intention of dating an Irish girl. If you're in Dublin you can meet girls of all nationalities. If she's Polish/Russian/Brazilian/Chinese/Irish that's fine as long as you get on well together.

There's a meet up group called Dublin International which might suit you if you live in Dublin.

Kobe

Emme wrote: »

Are you looking for a girlfriend or an Irish girlfriend? I think that Irish people have no problem dating foreigners. You need to look in the right places. Focus on being friends with girls, see what happens and take it from there. Don't go out with the express intention of dating an Irish girl. If you're in Dublin you can meet girls of all nationalities. If she's Polish/Russian/Brazilian/Chinese/Irish that's fine as long as you get on well together.

There's a meet up group called Dublin International which might suit you if you live in Dublin.

thanks for your reply, I keep my mind opened on nationality, at the same time I like Irish girls because I think they are very attractive. I live in Cork, there are some events organised for international students to meet more friends but unfortunately most of them fall on weekends as I have part-time job so I usually I can't go. Also most of my female friends are in relationships so I want to get to know more friends and see where it will lead to.

Sorry if I have made some grammar mistakes

The Corinthian

Latent racism, I suspect, is an issue in Ireland. Not a nasty, concious racism, more one of those subconscious "he's a nice guy, but I'd rather my kids were not of mixed race". They'll never admit it openly, but there's no shortage of them. As such, while there are plenty of people in relationships with foreigners, you'll find that once you take out those of European ethnic background (including North/South Americans), the number decreases dramatically.

Of course, there are also Irish women who are the opposite. Good friend of mine has a thing about Asian men, and refers to herself as a bit of a 'rice queen' and ultimately married a very nice chap from Japan.

But on the other hand, there's also a good chance that it's got nothing to do with your 'race' or 'nationality' or anything else like that. There's lots of guys who have two left feed with women, regardless of where they're from originally, so I would pay heed to much of the advice here on how to approach Irish women.

el pasco

Kobe wrote: »

Hi, I'm new here, I'm an Asian currently studying in Ireland. Totally love this country and the people here. However I don't have much luck in getting an Irish girlfriend. I had one Irish girlfriend before but unfortunately it ended quite soon, since then I've been single until now. My question is, how likely do Irish people date non Irish? Thanks.

I did date a few if them and didnt mind who they are where they are from though Asians are alot more up front than Irish whi beat around the bush so to speak
IMHO it's far easier for a female foreigner to date an Irish lad than an foreigner to date an Irish girl that's only my observerations I could e wrong though

Emme

The Corinthian wrote: »

Latent racism, I suspect, is an issue in Ireland. Not a nasty, concious racism, more one of those subconscious "he's a nice guy, but I'd rather my kids were not of mixed race"

Substitute the word "racism" for "sectarianism" and you'll get a reflection of Ireland no more than 30 years ago. "He's a nice guy/she's a nice girl, but I'd rather my children didn't grow up in a mixed marriage (usually pertaining to Catholic and Protestant partners)."

We've come a long way, thank goodness.

Going off topic, I will say that there is a growing not so latent racism towards Irish women from Irish men. A growing number of Irish men don't want to date Irish women but that's another story.

It's nice that somebody finds Irish women attractive. If the OP is a student are there any societies in college where he can meet like-minded women?

I often see Irish girls with Asian guys (it seems to be getting more common as more Asian people come to Ireland) so I think it's possible for the OP to meet a nice Irish girl if he wants. Just be patient about it.

IvyTheTerrible

I'm in a long-term relationship with a French man, a lot of my Irish friends are also with foreign partners, both of European background, and non-European background. I think it's more important about how compatible you are with the other person, not where they are from.

Holsten

Very likely, I don't think the Irish are close-minded in this sense.

It's the person, not what part of the planet they were born.

czechlin

I'm a foreigner and I think the Irish in general are quite open minded when it comes to dating different nationalities. It's all about who you are in the end, not where you're from. Good luck

Kobe

Thank you guys for all the opinions, I knew more now
Would definitely update here when I see someone that I like.

LegacyUser

It wouldn't bother me where someone is from - a different county / country / ethnicity, all the same to me. However, I still think it's ok to not be attracted to certain physical aspects - whether that's short / tall / blond / dark skinned. Personally, blond and/or skinny men don't do it for me. If someone else isn't attracted to ginger / dark skinned / green eyed men, then that's their prerogative.

I would have reservations about the cultures of some countries towards women though. Maybe that's through sensationalist news reporting, but I would personally prefer not to fall in love with someone who is from a culture where women can't drive, or are supposed to be covered up. What if his parents were ill and we had to move there? What if we had a female child there? What would my life be like there?

Someone being 'foreign' wouldn't bother me in the least, as long as we clicked and had the same outlook and goals in life.

Kobe

Plingth wrote: »

It wouldn't bother me where someone is from - a different county / country / ethnicity, all the same to me. However, I still think it's ok to not be attracted to certain physical aspects - whether that's short / tall / blond / dark skinned. Personally, blond and/or skinny men don't do it for me. If someone else isn't attracted to ginger / dark skinned / green eyed men, then that's their prerogative.

I would have reservations about the cultures of some countries towards women though. Maybe that's through sensationalist news reporting, but I would personally prefer not to fall in love with someone who is from a culture where women can't drive, or are supposed to be covered up. What if his parents were ill and we had to move there? What if we had a female child there? What would my life be like there?

Someone being 'foreign' wouldn't bother me in the least, as long as we clicked and had the same outlook and goals in life.

I understand your concern, there are some cultures in some countries that are extremely conservative, I knew several female friends from one of those countries, and I got to know that there is no cinema in that country I think mainly because of they think males and females shouldn't be in same room, not to mention females are not allowed to drive. I'm a Chinese born in Malaysia from and it is a very open country. In fact we don't even talk about equity between gentle because we all agreed that we are equally both important.

GreeBo

I've dated 2 foreign girls, a Luxembourger and a Portuguese girl with no issues, as long as you dont have language barriers I dont see the problem.
The Portuguese girl had 2 flat mates, but foreign (Chinese & Polish) and they were both dating Irish men.

I think its a non-issue tbh, sure there will be some cultures that on the face of it are incompatible, but you will always get individuals who get along.

Grayfoxy

Kobe wrote: »

Hi, I'm new here, I'm an Asian currently studying in Ireland. Totally love this country and the people here. However I don't have much luck in getting an Irish girlfriend. I had one Irish girlfriend before but unfortunately it ended quite soon, since then I've been single until now. My question is, how likely do Irish people date non Irish? Thanks.

I am a guy, would happily date a foreign girl

bnagrrl

My last boyfriend was Chinese Malay and it was one of the best relationships I ever had. In fact we are still very good friends.

It's not where the person is from, it's whether or not you get on with them, have same values, sense of humour, want to spend time with them, etc...

blatantrereg

Irish people date non-Irish very frequently. However male Asian students are likely to find it hard.
Chinese, Japanese and Korean sometimes have some chance. Indian, Pakistani, Bangladeshi are very unlikely to succeed. It comes down to the individual person.
Why do you want an Irish gf specifically? Is it because you want to marry her for a visa? If that is your plan you would be best to forget it. If that is not your plan you would be best to realise that you are likely to be suspected of this, and that any talk of marriage early on will be a red flag.

Taltos

OP - hope you have gotten the answer you want.

As we are now rapidly approaching a debate on visa's and racial profiling I am going to close this before a poster jumps over the line and earns a ban.

Taltos