Am I really in love with my best friend who is a girl as well?

Zing7

Well I dont know why am I posting here.but I really need some help.I have a best friend who is a girl.n I m also a girl.we r together now almost 2-3 yrs.we both are very possessive about each other.well she is more possessive than me actually.whenever I talk to other girl in friendly manner she gets jealous.she keeps telling me not to talk to ths girl or that girl.n get mad abt this.well let me tell u she has boy frnd.and she is very serious about him.n I also have a boy friend.some 4-5 months back her boy frnd told me that she only talks about me all the time.her boyfrnd thinks we both r girl frnds but dats ok her boy frnd n me r now good frnds.we do joke a lot.


she told me many times dat she loves me.true dat I also love her.she used to kissed me.I was alwayz very shy.never kissed any girl except my boy friend.but dont know how I started loving her.n yeah we feel for each other.I cudnt stop myself.n we kissed each other many times.I even touched her body many times, cuddling n all. she smiles and never say anything.whenever we r alone we kissed each other.n she alwayz hug me 1st and then provoked me to kiss her.she alwayz text romantic msgs to me.I also reply in same manner.she told me everything about their (her n her boy frnd) sex life as well.n told me I only tell u about my private thing so keep it secret.dats very obvious anyway.she used to tell me that she cant leave without me and her boy frnd.we both are 26. well all our office colleague thinks we are lesbian.coz we are so close to each other all the time.but we are not coz we both have boy friends.but we both feel about each other.whenever there is some problem, we share with each other.


now she is getting married to her boy friend.n I dont know why I started missing her so much.am I in love with her?she keeps telling me she loves me n kissed me.I am really feeling very lonely ths day coz she is very busy with her marriage preparation.and these days also she shares all her problem with me.we talk to each other till 2 am.she keeps telling me she is alwayz there for me whenever I need her and wants my support also. n wants me to get married as well.but somehow I miss my old best friend.I started feeling dat I might lose her.I dont want to lose her.I hope i am not cheating my boy frnd, he also loves me.but I love my best friend also.is it normal? I hope m not in love with her? n I hope we both are not bisexual either? coz never kissed any other girl except each other.but now m thinking about our kisses all the time.why am I feeling in dis way? after marriage she will forget about me? what do u guyz think? sorry for my poor english n long paragraphs.plz reply guyz, I really need some answers.

Lou.m

Hello. :-)

Have you ever been in love before?

Is there a sexual attraction?

I think you need to asses what is best for you.

Have you ever felt this way about another girl?

It is possible to have feelings for one person of the same sex but no one else of that sex.

It sounds like she is not really being careful with your feelings or is unclear how much she means to you.


Does it feel like something more to you? Do you feel like you are cheating?

It does sound a very intense friendship. I think no one is going to be able to tell you if you are in love with her or not.

But maybe it is just strong infatuation.

I think you need to protect your feelings if she is getting married. She does not have the right to posses you and seek so much attention.

How do you feel about your boyfriend?

Don't worry about these feelings it can happen a lot to women.

Perhaps you need a break from the friendship and some boundaries.

You will not lose the friendship if that is what it is. But the level of intimacy seems to go deeper. And if you both continue that whilst seeing or marrying men you might both end up hurting each other and feeling short changed.

Maybe think about it and talk about it to her. She is marrying this guy so obviously that is serious.

It could just be a very intense friendship and perhaps you are questioning your sexuality because of the feelings the friendship makes you feel that does not mean it is more than an intense friendship.

Many lesbians and bi and straight girls have very close friendships.

Maybe others can comment too. But maybe talk to her and think of yourself.

Zing7

Hi dear thanks for ur reply

well no I dont feel for other girls. its only her. I dont know if there is any sexual attraction or not. but yes I do enjoy kissing her. n I many times I touched her body as well. she smiles and never said anything. I can feel that she also enjoys n dats y alwayz provoked me to kiss her. whenever we r together, we r alwayz close to each other. she dsnt like my friendship with other girls. n now same from my side also.

n yes I love boy friend also. but I love my best friend as well. she is getting married. n m really feeling very lonely. I share everything with her. I m thinking dat I might lose her. n for dis reason m very disturbed dese days. I want to know is it normal? we love each other dats true. I hope its just friendship kinda love. does anyone feel in dis way? shuld I distance myself from her?

Lou.m

Zing7 wrote: »

Hi dear thanks for ur reply

well no I dont feel for other girls. its only her. I dont know if there is any sexual attraction or not. but yes I do enjoy kissing her. n I many times I touched her body as well. she smiles and never said anything. I can feel that she also enjoys n dats y alwayz provoked me to kiss her. whenever we r together, we r alwayz close to each other. she dsnt like my friendship with other girls. n now same from my side also.

n yes I love boy friend also. but I love my best friend as well. she is getting married. n m really feeling very lonely. I share everything with her. I m thinking dat I might lose her. n for dis reason m very disturbed dese days. I want to know is it normal? we love each other dats true. I hope its just friendship kinda love. does anyone feel in dis way? shuld I distance myself from her?

I can't say whether this is something many experience. I have not really heard of such intense love for a friend. But that is not to say it's impossible.

How would your Boyfriend react would he be ok with it?

It is understandable that you might feel that things will change after she marries.

Maybe try to focus on your and your life a bit more. And say to her that you need other friends too. She can't control your other friendships. You need a life outside her.