Could you be in a relationship with someone who uses txt speek/terrible grammar?

IvaBigWun

To put it in a hypothetical perspective: lets say looks wise they're a seven out of ten, but all their texts look unreadable and their grammar is a one out of ten.

To me it speaks volumes about their intelligence and general laziness.

Could you be in a relationship with someone who uses txt speek/terrible grammar?

The_Valeyard

y wud it b a prob?

Holsten

Yeah no problem at all.

I do the majority of my communication face to face.

wazky

IvaBigWun wrote: »

looks wise they're a seven out of ten,

For a seven out of ten, I wouldn't care if they didn't have fingers to text with.

Vito Corleone

If they were attractive and had a decent personality I wouldn't care, just as long as they weren't really stupid. I know a lot of people who are fairly intelligent who have terrible grammar in their texts, mostly because they're lazy.

Muise...

No. My nerves could not take it.

hfallada

How uses text talk in 2014? Pretty much everyone has a smart phone with autocorrect. "Hey sxc, im gud. Wbu?" is a bit 2k7 in fairness

geckovision

If they only used it when sending texts and I knew - through getting to know them that they had intellectual qualities I personally appreciate and felt they were well suited overall - it wouldn't bother me.

I think a persons intentions and their character are far more important however.

So...no. Not overall.

Discounting someone based on grammar is beyond idiotic in my opinion.

Banjo String

Jesus man. Forget looks and grammar.


DESCRIBE THE TITS! IT'S ALL ABOUT THE TITS. :mad:

SimonQuinlank

Yes.But she'd be getting dictionaries and thesauruses for every Christmas and birthday until she copped on to herself.

wazky

Banjo String wrote: »

Jesus man. Forget looks and grammar.


TELL ME ABOUT TITS. IT'S ALL ABOUT THE TITS. :mad:

Can she text well with her tits?, now that would be impressive.

Mrs Garth Brooks

Text speak, no way. But bad grammar, its not worst thing.

jaja321

No. Intelligence is attractive, using text speak or bad grammar is not.

121 Gigawatts!?

Nothing worse than bad spelling and grammar. I think it just makes you come across as an illiterate fool.
Now I know English isnt everyones strong point but not knowing the difference between "there" "their" and "they're" and "your" and "you're" is not that difficult!
So no, I wouldnt put up with it! Id at least have to say something to the person in the hope that they would make the effort to take a look at it at least

orangesoda

Awk aye surely ta God like

H2UMrsRobinson

My one can only write in caps and thinks punctuation is the act of being on time.

He's also one of the brightest men I know and he can multiply and add like a mofo.

So yeh I guess I could.

The Backwards Man

What does a 7/10 look like?

I'm all ears.

shopaholic01

Muise... wrote: »

No. My nerves could not take it.

The exception would obviously be if someone was dyslexic. I could cope with some spelling/grammatical errors as long as it was legible. Continuous text speak would be far too irritating.

Is the spelling error in the thread title intentional? :P

Merkin

Muise... wrote: »

No. My nerves could not take it.

Nor me. And I'd secretly despise them for it.

Stepping Stone

I am going out with a former offender. He is very intelligent but bloody lazy. It has taken years of merciless mocking, constant correction and completely refusing to acknowledge the content of text that ommited vowels. Glad to say that we have come through it. Be merciless. It is for their own good. Bad grammar is something that I could not get over, along with abuse of their/ there/ they're, your/ you're, affect/ effect.

IvaBigWun

The Backwards Man wrote: »

What does a 7/10 look like?

I'm all ears.

Im presuming it would be different for everyone

catallus

If she had really bad grammar would it not be a good excuse to fcuk them hard in the mouth?





No?




I'll get me coat.......

Tasden

My boyfriend said one of the things that made him sure he was in love with me was that I always used "you're" in texts instead of ur :pac: I found it strange that he'd even notice something like that but obviously it matters to some people

Muise...

shopaholic01 wrote: »

The exception would obviously be if someone was dyslexic. I could cope with some spelling/grammatical errors as long as it was legible. Continuous text speak would be far too irritating.

Is the spelling error in the thread title intentional? :P

I know poor writing wouldn't be their fault if they were dyslexic, but would you listen to someone singing out of tune?

Muise...

wazky wrote: »

Can she text well with her tits?, now that would be impressive.

Maybe, if it's cold enough.

I was listening to Doolittle today. The Pixies said No. 13 is a song about a girl who described her nipples as the size of a no. 13 pencil. That song is nearly better than tits.

shopaholic01

Muise... wrote: »

I know poor writing wouldn't be their fault if they were dyslexic, but would you listen to someone singing out of tune?

The difference is that it is not necessary to sing, whereas written communication is often unavoidable.

No

The Backwards Man

bluewolf wrote: »

No

You forgot the full stop.

The Backwards Man

The Backwards Man wrote: »

You forgot the full stop.

It was just going to be a really slow sentence

Mickey H

The Backwards Man wrote: »

What does a 7/10 look like?

I'm all ears.

This is a ten.

So is this.

Work backways. Use your imagination.

Muise...

shopaholic01 wrote: »

The difference is that it is not necessary to sing, whereas written communication is often unavoidable.

I'm a bit too fond of reading to get into a relationship with someone who doesn't write well. That is avoidable!

The Backwards Man

Mickey H wrote: »

This is a ten.

So is this.

Work backways. Use your imagination.

Look like people to me.

Femme_Fatale

Far moreso than with a man over 18 who uses that number-out-of-ten shyte.

Femme_Fatale

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

Far moreso than with a man over 18 who uses that number-out-of-ten shyte.

That's such a 2/10 attitude :rolleyes:

Muise...

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

Far moreso than with a man over 18 who uses that number-out-of-ten shyte.

I judge men by their pronouncements on women.

"Judge a moth by the beauty of its candle."

(Rumi)

we'llallhavetea

i actually don't think i could take it. it HAS to be more effort to use that mental text than it is to just type normally? theres something wrong with those people.

Mariasofia

Mickey H wrote: »

This is a ten.

So is this.

Work backways. Use your imagination.

Using your scale Im about a 20/10 ......yay go me!!!!! :-D

The people who don't know their 'yours' or 'theirs' are bad enough, but those who spell 'lose' as loose' really get me.

we'llallhavetea

Mariasofia wrote: »

Using your scale Im about a 20/10 ......yay go me!!!!! :-D

your modesty is most endearing

LeBash

Yes but i wouldnt understand a single txt which could lead to hilarious sitcom style humor

Muise...

Deleted User wrote: »

The people who don't know their 'yours' or 'theirs' are bad enough, but those who spell 'lose' as loose' really get me.

At least these are permutations of the same word. "Should of/could of/would of" make my teeth cry.

id rather brie

I voted yes because of two extremes that I have come across:

i) Someone who doesn't have particularly great grammar and does use frequent text speech but was generally pretty interesting and astute.
ii) Someone that can spell perfectly well and their grammar was acceptable; however, while they could write a lot in a comprehensible fashion, they didn't really have a lot to say.

For those two reasons, I would rather see what someone actually thinks when it comes to deciding whether I could be with them. On the other side of this argument, could I be with an obsessive grammar-nazi? Perhaps not.

Senna

When I started dating my wife she sent me a message of txt speak gibberish, I don't even think we had been on a first date at this stage. I sent her a message back saying "any chance of getting that message in English", from that day on she always wrote her messages correctly. I knew it was meant to be there and then.

bnt

I'm with the OP on this one. My personal understanding of "intelligence" is that it's something you apply to everything you do. My ideal partner reads, learns, understands, synthesises, creates and critiques - and she could never settle for sub-standard communication skills, because that's how we learn.

yawhat!

High horses, ye should dismount.

wil

The Backwards Man wrote: »

.
I'm all ears.

so you're a ∞/10

Muise... wrote: »

I judge men by their pronouncements on women.

"Judge a moth by the beauty of its candle."

(Rumi)

That olde hippocastanum:p

Judge not lest ye be jugged.
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bnt

yawhat! wrote: »

High horses, ye should dismount.

Why? The higher the horses, the further ahead we can see. They're usually faster horses, too. Maybe you're happy down there, traipsing through the mud, but we like it up here in the fresh air. (That's right: we.). :cool:

You wouldn't buy a car that couldn't go round corners, or put your money in a bank that you knew was badly managed. A relationship is an investment in your personal happiness - for both of you. Why would you get involved with someone who was definitely going to make you unhappy. If you feel, as I do, that communication is fundamental in any relationship, you can't simply turn that off.

BetterThanThou

One of my past best friends had terrible grammar when talking online. To the point he was nearly ununderstandable. I usually avoided texting him. But, in person he's actually quite intelligent, in fact more intelligent than most people I know. So, assuming the girl didn't want to text all the time, I'd be grand with it, but if she wants to text all the time like a lot of girls, then it's a no.

Mossyman

If they're not bothered enough to send you a message written in the proper way then they're not bothered that much about you. That's my perspective.

Ficheall

A few years ago, I had the good fortune to be going out with a gorgeous lass who was intelligent and fond of word games. I am also reasonably intelligent and am more anal about my use of English than most.
I cringe a little now if one of our gchat conversations pops up when I'm searching through my gmail account. We 'spoke' like complete idiots to each other. "wat r u doin" & "luv u 2" etc... (She was, of course, more at fault than I...)

Would I like to be in such a relationship again? Absolutely.

bnt

Ficheall wrote: »

I cringe a little now if one of our gchat conversations pops up when I'm searching through my gmail account. We 'spoke' like complete idiots to each other. "wat r u doin" & "luv u 2" etc... (She was, of course, more at fault than I...)

You can always say that you were both doing it ironically ... :P