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silly situation

  • 17-02-2014 11:45am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I am in my early 30s. I met a female friend 2 years ago and we saw alot of each other most days for about 6 months. We werent seeing each other never kissed. I liked her more than a friend but she told me she liked me too but could never be with me. I accepted this and took a break from seeing her.

    It was only meant a break of a month but ended up being a year. We got back in contact when we met by chance. Again we saw each other most days due to walking to and from a place etc. I had accepted we could only ever be friends so my feelings had moved on too.

    However one day she saw me speaking to another female friend and she changed, she told me that she wanted to kiss me which we did and she really liked it, we slept together shortly after and again she really liked it. She came past to my house for sex and I got the impression she wanted to start seeing me properly.

    She would say she did then didnt, then did , then didnt. It got so confusing and in the end I thought it was better to stop all this.

    she told me, that she was jealous of the friend I was talking to and couldnt help herself. I am an adult and I made the decision to go for it, I always liked her so I wanted to try and see.

    Anyway, she got very upset when I ended it, even though it was obvious she wanted it this way. I felt like I was just being used for sex and she would as good as say this. If I brought it up she would feel upset and deny this.

    We had a heated exchange of emails last week (mature , I know) and now not talking.

    It is the not talking as nothing left to say and both of us upset/annoyed. I want to try and smooth things over but I cant and I feel she has either moved on completely or cant either


    Regarding the other friend, nothing happened there as nothing could as my friend would be there all the time to stop anything.


Comments

  • #2
    December2012
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,695 ✭✭✭December2012


    If you've been honest with her, and she's not giving you what you need, then you're right to walk away.

    Jealousy is a childish emotion for her to base her behaviour on.


  • #3
    Merkin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,230 ✭✭✭Merkin


    It sounds like she doesn't really want you but didn't like that the attention was deflected from her. So she slept with you to prove that she can have you any time she wants. She sounds terribly insecure and also someone who will ultimately wreck your head. You are dead right to stick to your guns when it comes to your own needs and wants - I don't think she can offer you what you want so you were best to cut your losses when you did.


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