Get bored with men? Am I bipolar?

Likearose

A bit about me. I am a happy person. Family and friends are great to me. Happy with life in general except my love life.

I have lots of different interests and I'm ambitious. I love travelling to exotic places and meet new people, etc....but the problem is I get bored with men easily. Not many guys spark my interest and even if they do, it doesn't take me long until I get extremely bored and lose interest. Why?

I have a vision in my head of a man I like to be with and when that man comes along, I lose interest anyway. I realise that people are by definition imperfect, that you'll never find someone who is perfect, and that a relationship is always some kind of compromise. I said to myself many times that I should stop being too picky but I can't help it.

I've met many good guys who I am attracted to and who want to be with me but still I'm single. My friends said its me but I still believe I haven't met him yet? Now I started to think I have some kind of bipolar and It makes me sad.

Tokyo

Not to sound like a smartarse or anything, but I'm guessing that your problem is that you get bored with men.

From the sounds of things, you want to live the life less ordinary, travel to exotic locations, etc, and that extends into your aspirations for a partner - you have this fantasy in your head of what the perfect guy will be, and the perfect relationship will be, and when you meet a guy, then as long as the fantasy of the perfect partner or the perfect relationship is being kept alive, all is good. I'm guessing that once the lustre wears off and you actually have to live in the real world with this guy, as opposed to the idea of what you have pictured this perfect guy to be like, that's where you lose interest and want to move on.

I can't really tell how old you are from your post, and if you are young, then you may just not be ready to settle with one guy, and are more focused on traveling the world and meeting new people, and that is perfectly fine. But someday when you do decide to settle down, it will be important to realise that people are by definition imperfect, that you'll never find someone who is going to be your fantasy definition of perfect, and that a relationship is always some kind of compromise.

Merkin

You're most probably just a commitment phobe, I was the same and you're unwilling to settle which is actually a really good thing, don't be so hard on yourself and don't cave into conforming either.You might meet someone amazing and you might not but enjoy all these experiences on the way. Incidentally when you do meet that someone special you will know but do make sure to give people an actual chance, I used to almost LOOK for stuff.

And I doubt very much indeed you have bipolar, it's an awful illness and if you had it you would know.

Faith

Nothing in your post indicated bipolar disorder at all - an extremely serious mood disorder. Like Merkin said, you'd know if you were bipolar, and it wouldn't be characterised by commitment issues.

Neyite

OP, we dont canvass for medical opinions on this website, its against the charter. If you suspect you have a medical condition, you should contact your GP to get the correct diagnosis, not the internet.

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