Relationship and sex

Superwoman91

I'm in a relationship with my partner nearly 6 years and living with him 3 years we are both in our early-mid 20s and healthy... Sex at the beginning was great (honeymoon) period, I expected it to slow... I soon realised that is sex drive is becoming less and less, we have a fantastic relationship, we laugh joke, and basically never argue.. The only thing is the sex issue it blows up into roaring fights !... It mainly went downhill when we first moved in and I found the downturn in his want for sex hard to come to terms with, and he would say no if I tried to initiate that he's too tired so on so forth, ( mind you he has been unemployed with no forms of stress in his life ) I got to the point were if be in bed waiting night after night and when nothing happened I would lose my head and start arguments, this happened I would say on 8-10 occasions over 1.5 years... I gave up trying to intiate sex, it's was a blow every time he said no !! Overall he's not a very affectionate person no hugs or kisses anything like that, but on a regular basis I would hug and sit on his lap, kiss him mess with him... Is never reciprocated ! It's gotten to the point were anything we disagree about he turns back to how he can't deal with the sex problem we have, apparently lies in bed mind racing over weather I'm looking for it or not, cause he doesn't want it... He tried to fight with me over the fact I never intiate it now or that I take to long once the lights are off to intiate and he's turned off then (15 mins) he doesn't accept that I've self esteem issues and that I'm afraid to start sex cause he'll say now... ( I've taken his advice on board and tried to start more often but he always finds another argument) I.e I take to long and now he doesn't want it .... I'm feeling lost hurt and alone now at this stage.. He has even gone through periods of making me feel like a sex maniac which I'm far from... 2 times a week and I would be delighted, as it stands we can go a month without ! I have tried to find scenarios, and majorly kept my feelings out of it, cause when I bring how I feel into anything he goes off on one, how I try to make it all about me and that I don't care what he's going through, I have said maybe take a break, separate bedrooms for a while so he can get uninterrupted sleep, speak to a doctor !!! None of these suit him !! Yet he's not brave enough to finish the relationship ,.! And also won't give suggestions on how fix, tries his hardest to ignore it till he has me laughing and happy again, so he feels off the hook untill it comes to a night were he knows I'm wanting it and he doesn't ........... I know he loves me I don't doubt it, but this is to hard to deal with on my own anymore... Please help

Taltos

Hi OP - please don't start the same thread in multiple forums. I can see you are already getting replies in your first thread so I will close this one.

Taltos