Are you curious about people who never reveal their personal lives?

Wanderer2010

Have you ever worked with/lived with etc a person who, albeit nice and friendly to you, you know very little about their hobbies or personal life and they stay strictly professional with you all the time. I would class myself as a tad curious but nothing outside of that but others that I know vary from "that fella is weird, never speaks of himself or a girlfriend" to "she keeps herself to herself, thats her choice". What category would you put yourself in regarding people whom rarely give anything away about themselves?

eamonnq

I'm not telling.

BillyMitchel

Descovered 50 shades of gray then?

Sir Arthur Daley

Wanderer2010 wrote: »

I would class myself as a tad curious

You sure your not a tad nosey maybe OP?

shopaholic01

I'd rather a private person than one who feels compelled to bore me with the trivial details of their lives, or worse their childrens' lives.

My name is URL

Those are the best kind of people to work with in my experience.

This thread should have a poll.

For what it's worth I'd have more of a "she keeps herself to herself, thats her choice" mentality

DoozerT6

Maybe some people don't have girlfriends/boyfriends, many friends, or a very exciting life. Rather than advertise this fact in conversation and therefore appearing 'sad' to others, they choose to keep quiet about personal stuff.

pragmatic1

I'd prefer to work with people like that.

eamonnq

Or maybe they get up to all sorts of weird **** that you wouldn't understand..............

TeddyTedson

I've had situations in work where people want to know about my life. I'm very private about myself to people I don't particularly like. I'm sure I've been called many things behind my back because of my unwillingness to share things even when called out about it in front of several of my colleagues. It doesn't bother me what they think though.

In my experience the worst offenders are people who have no life besides their job and try to use work as the source of all their gossip. I worked with an old guy who would every Monday ask me if I had sex on the weekend. I'd usually answer this by asking him how his wife was. He didn't like me.

It's funny that if you're not willing to share things with some people the extent they will go to turn people on you. I was very naive when I started working but now I deal with these types well.

There are of course nice people who ask about your life too and just want to be friendly, but they'll generally not push for information.

stefan idiot jones

They're obviously on the sex offenders list.

Frank Lee Midere

DoozerT6 wrote: »

Maybe some people don't have girlfriends/boyfriends, many friends, or a very exciting life. Rather than advertise this fact in conversation and therefore appearing 'sad' to others, they choose to keep quiet about personal stuff.

Generally people who bore you with their life stories have boring life stories. It's the guys who drank, drugged, or shagged their way though nightclubs, or dimly remembered house parties who keep quiet - except to very close colleagues.

Ihatecuddles

shopaholic01 wrote: »

I'd rather a private person than one who feels compelled to bore me with the trivial details of their lives, or worse their childrens' lives.

You came to mind instantly after reading the OP. Who are you?? Do you even shop?!

shopaholic01

mauzo! wrote: »

You came to mind instantly after reading the OP. Who are you?? Do you even shop?!

I'm very enigmatic.

Chucken

shopaholic01 wrote: »

I'd rather a private person than one who feels compelled to bore me with the trivial details of their lives, or worse their childrens' lives.

Sorry

shopaholic01

Chucken wrote: »

Sorry

I'm willing to make an exception for you because I don't work with you .......... I think. :pac:

jimgoose

They're probably aliens or mass-murderers or communists or something. You should report them to the Authorit-AAAH. :cool:

zoomaway

Wanderer2010 wrote: »

Have you ever worked with/lived with etc a person who, albeit nice and friendly to you, you know very little about their hobbies or personal life and they stay strictly professional with you all the time. I would class myself as a tad curious but nothing outside of that but others that I know vary from "that fella is weird, never speaks of himself or a girlfriend" to "she keeps herself to herself, thats her choice". What category would you put yourself in regarding people whom rarely give anything away about themselves?

Haven't you heard the saying 'empty vessels make most noise.'

Arthur Beesley

stefan idiot jones wrote: »

They're obviously on the sex offenders list.

The people who ask?

timmy4u2

zoomaway wrote: »

Haven't you heard the saying 'empty vessels make most noise.'

The saying that I have heard is "The more you tell somebody about yourself the less respect they will have for you".

zoomaway

Yip right on. I read on another forum about some people who moved to Ireland and were being constantly asked by people they had just met their job title and where they lived. Incredibly rude I think as did the people who were being asked. Have seen plenty of this though. Smacks of trying to 'brand' someone.Very Irish thing.Very ignorant.

DoozerT6

zoomaway wrote: »

Yip right on. I read on another forum about some people who moved to Ireland and were being constantly asked by people they had just met their job title and where they lived. Incredibly rude I think as did the people who were being asked. Have seen plenty of this though. Smacks of trying to 'brand' someone.Very Irish thing.Very ignorant.

I think it's called 'making conversation'??

zoomaway

DoozerT6 wrote: »

I think it's called 'making conversation'??

Well they didn't see it that way.It depends on the intention of the person who is asking, yes some may be genuine of course but others just want to get 'the standing ' of the person.You can see it everywhere.You are introduced to someone and you say you are from a certain county or have a certain surname and then they are off...Example 'Do you know such and such, he lives ... etc'
Who gives a ****? And then you stand their going 'yeah yeah' and you don't even know who they are talking about.
But perhaps I'm biased because I'm not fully Irish.
But yes people try to measure and box others up.
And then the cute Irish *hore will have you by the short and curlies if you let him!

diomed

I was playing golf in Africa in the 1970s with a friend. There was an American on his own so we invited him to join us.

Me: What do you work at?
Reply: Business
Me: What type?
Reply: Import / export

You would think the CIA would give their operatives lessons in bullsh1t.

bnagrrl

diomed wrote: »

I was playing golf in Africa in the 1970s with a friend. There was an American on his own so we invited him to join us.

Me: What do you work at?
Reply: Business
Me: What type?
Reply: Import / export

You would think the CIA would give their operatives lessons in bullsh1t.

That was Art Vandelay! :eek:

Legs.Eleven

There's a man I work with who ignores everyone. He walked into the staff room today, someone said hello to him and used his name, he ignored him. Arsehole.


Anyway, there's a middle ground. I don't want to hear every detail of your life as it'll more than likely bore me to tears but I also veer away from people who give nothing about themselves away at all.

I divulge a lot of stuff on Boards (the stuff I'm happy enough with people I don't know knowing) but very few people in the real world know me properly and I like it that way. My life is boring as fook anyway (not to me though!) and I wouldn't make someone suffer listening to the mundane details of it.