ALL THE DECENT MEN... - WHERE ARE YOUS???

cherrystone

As in title... I was wondering lately what is going on in this world? Men in their 30s (or maybe STILL boys) seem to be interested only in 1-2 night stands. WTH?!

Grayfoxy

cherrystone wrote: »

As in title... I was wondering lately what is going on in this world? Men in their 30s (or maybe STILL boys) seem to be interested only in 1-2 night stands. WTH?!

Friendzone.

Grayfoxy

To elaborate,

I am not even joking, same way you think most guys just want their bit, for the "decent guys" it seems most women just want the "bad boy" who (lets be honest) treats women like cr*p.

Really makes the decent guys feel like s**t.

keithc83

I have had the same experiences with women in their thirties. They are not looking for anything other than a one night stand. I think it does have something to do with maturity though for those men and women looking for that. I guess you just need to be lucky to find that one person that does not want a ONS and has the same interests as you. As for me I'm still looking!

Frank Black

cherrystone wrote: »

As in title... I was wondering lately what is going on in this world? Men in their 30s (or maybe STILL boys) seem to be interested only in 1-2 night stands. WTH?!

I'm afraid that by the time men hit their 30's the decent ones will have been snapped up or are gay.

You're just going to have to make do with the ones which are left.

Grayfoxy

Frank Black wrote: »

I'm afraid that by the time men hit their 30's the decent ones will have been snapped up or are gay.

You're just going to have to make do with the ones which are left.

I disagree, I think expectations are just too high (thank you society)

Penny Tration

I'm 24, but have mainly dated men in their 30s. Personally, i think you're looking in the wrong places. I've only met one who only wanted casual sex, all the rest were happy to date.

Grayfoxy

Should probably mention, I am in my 20's, not 30's, but that doesn't change anything.

Idle Passerby

People who are looking for one nights stands/opportunistic no strings fun or whatever, are generally the ones to approach strangers in pubs. They have nothing to loose by chatting up randomers.

On the other hand people who are looking for something more serious are more likely to hang back because it gets tiring Id imagine, starting conversations from scratch with strangers that may well go absolutely nowhere. The 'decent' guys (or girls) are not bothering to chat up strangers, they are hanging out with their friends.

That's my guess anyway.

cherrystone

to: keithc83

its not about same interests... same VALUES would do

MugMugs

cherrystone wrote: »

to: keithc83

its not about same interests... same VALUES would do

With the greatest of respects, right back at you !

It's not a one sided affair.

Grayfoxy

Idle Passerby wrote: »

People who are looking for one nights stands/opportunistic no strings fun or whatever, are generally the ones to approach strangers in pubs. They have nothing to loose by chatting up randomers.

On the other hand people who are looking for something more serious are more likely to hang back because it gets tiring Id imagine, starting conversations from scratch with strangers that may well go absolutely nowhere. The 'decent' guys (or girls) are not bothering to chat up strangers, they are hanging out with their friends.

That's my guess anyway.

This!

Liger vs Tigon

Idle Passerby wrote: »

People who are looking for one nights stands/opportunistic no strings fun or whatever, are generally the ones to approach strangers in pubs. They have nothing to loose by chatting up randomers.

On the other hand people who are looking for something more serious are more likely to hang back because it gets tiring Id imagine, starting conversations from scratch with strangers that may well go absolutely nowhere. The 'decent' guys (or girls) are not bothering to chat up strangers, they are hanging out with their friends.

That's my guess anyway.

Those "decent guys" are idiots. Chatting up strangers is great fun in itself even if nothing comes of it.

The "decent guys" need to learn how to have fun and not look for serious relationships, thats a bit weird. Flirt with lots of women and let a serious relationship develop naturally.

keithc83

Frank Black wrote: »

I'm afraid that by the time men hit their 30's the decent ones will have been snapped up or are gay.

You're just going to have to make do with the ones which are left.

Totally incorrect. And to make a general statement like that really lacks insight into the issue. There are many decent guys out there in their thirties that are still single but are labelled a certain way due to a minority of people. But these minority are the most vocal, and most visible.

Big Bag of Chips

Ok everyone, as this seems to be a general discussion rather than a request for advice on a specific relationship issue, I will lock the thread. There are plenty of discussion forums here on Boards.ie where this thread might be more suited. Personal Issues & Relationship Issues are for seeking and giving advice.