adult bully

cena

Has anyone come across an adult that bullies other adults.

I have come across one or two during my adult years so far.
Nasty work they where.

Would you say an adult bully was a bully when they where a child?

MonkstownHoop

cena wrote: »

Has anyone come across an adult that bullies other adults.

I have come across one or two during my adult years so far.
Nasty work they where.

Would you say an adult bully was a bully when they where a child?

Ask him next time he's taking your lunch money

Sir Arthur Daley

cena wrote: »

Would you say an adult bully was a bully when they where a child?

More than likely they were being bullied when they were a child.

For Forks Sake

cena wrote: »

Has anyone come across an adult that bullies other adults.

I have come across one or two during my adult years so far.
Nasty work they where.

Would you say an adult bully was a bully when they where a child?

Give me your lunch money.

cena

MonkstownHoop wrote: »

Ask him next time he's taking your lunch money

Could be a she. Not been gender specific

Spring Onion

There are adult bullies everywhere! It's how the world works...

Senna

Some people think their boss is a bully when any trouble develops in work, "sometimes" it actually their boss doing his/her job, "sometimes" the boss actually is a bully.

Gatling

Most bullies I've come across as an adult have just been mouth pieces who probably had crap parents who gave them what they wanted everytime they threw a tantrum ,
Parent backs down ,
Repeats through rest of there life ,

Compare that to child /teenage bullies

I had 6 years of hell at school,
kids/teens are far worse

Punch him in the Vagina.

The Backwards Man

Just take a quick look at the comments section of the journal.ie, you'll see all the bullies you want.

Gatling

The Backwards Man wrote: »

Just take a quick look at the comments section of the journal.ie, you'll see all the bullies you want.

Keyboard warriors and most likely suffer from erectile disfunction

SimonLynch

Easily sorted, go to a field in Clondalkin, buy drugs from one of the shirky youths exiting, plant aforesaid drugs in bully's pockets, call the Drug Squad if there is one nowadays and report him/her Bye bye bully. Hic

Tangatagamadda Chaddabinga Bonga Bungo

Gatling wrote: »

Keyboard warriors and most likely suffer from erectile disfunction

Who dah **** do ya ****ing think yous are calling soft cock ya ****, I'll ****ing **** ya up after I **** me girlfriend and her ****ing sister, you wait and see!

Spring Onion

我爱我的砖!

Tangatagamadda Chaddabinga Bonga Bungo

a76vg__?!afrfg bhaty165__?!54 kk00__?!.4 wrote: »

您好 AFTER HOURS MODS，你怎么样在这个非常美好的日子？我不知道你会是那个禁止我，或将管理员打断了我事先完全？

Your username is crazier than mine.

Sir Arthur Daley

Spring Onion wrote: »

我爱我的砖!

Exactly.

urabell

If you get bullied as an adult you probably deserve it, when did it become socially acceptable to be a sap

irish bloke

urabell wrote: »

If you get bullied as an adult you probably deserve it, when did it become socially acceptable to be a sap

Ild say you've gotten your arse kicked a few times with that attitude...

urabell

irish bloke wrote: »

Ild say you've gotten your arse kicked a few times with that attitude...

How did you come to that conclusion

irish bloke

urabell wrote: »

How did you come to that conclusion

Meet me in the car park after work and I'll show you!!!!

doolox

... it would be logical to lay all the blame for bullying on the receiver of the bullying and say he is a "sap". We do not live in an equal world. That is why sometimes a bit of critical thinking has to be done and questions have to be asked. Is a certain course of action reasonable? Is the boss right or just being a exploitative bully? What happens if I fight back?? What are the standards and expectations in the general workplace??

I once held back on complaining when faced with a bullying boss in a temporary assignment for a few months. When an extension was asked for I then used the opportunity to report and get action taken against the bully. At least I had performed my obligations and commitments to the work team and this was acknowledged. If I had taken overly quick action it might have been seen as being sensitive and narky but not in my case.

I was greeted by all and sundry in anew respectful light as I then discovered I was not the only victim of bullying in that workplace. Just that all the others did not present their cases convicingly enough and the problem could be ignored.

cuana

Yes following a successful career and no majors concerns/issues working in different areas and had well with numerous managers over the years. I got a new boss and well needless to say it was a miserable experience. I was over achieving which were reflective in results it just wasn't good enough.

Repeated unprofessional behavior there part me left me feeling extremely inadequate & doubting myself. He had a habit of trying to publicly humiliate, thinned veiled threats yet with no basis! At one point they even tried to discipline me over an underporming deptarment now I always pushed back and basically told him to kindly fcuk off (professionally). I had fully investigated, informed the relevant management teams and found no fault on our part! I had asked for to be further investigated by the accounts dept as I felt the results were not reflective. He accused me of not doing my job he looked like a right fool when I could back everything up with a paper trial yet (yet they couldn't be bothered read there e-mails!) and they also failed to inform me that it had been an error. The fcuked up thing was I had spotted the problem highlighted it, investigated months before they spotted it. Fool! Anyhow I could write a book! My colleagues also noted there behavior towards me which was deeply humiliating! It really shock me I had never been in a situation whereby someone could be so devious & unprofessional. It really knocked my confidence he had portrayed me in a poor light professionally which I think was my biggest issue.

He was known for having extremely poor communication skills amongst our team and numerous persons had also had issues with him professionally. I'm grateful to see the back of him. :mad:

Oh I'm am delighted I always pushed back! (though it battered me!) Now I'm no angel if I did wrong I'd be the first to put my hand up but I was established, experienced and good at what I did. He had no basis whatsoever to continually harass me.

mad muffin

Tangatagamadda Chaddabinga Bonga Bungo wrote: »

Who dah **** do ya ****ing think yous are calling soft cock ya ****, I'll ****ing **** ya up after I **** me girlfriend and her ****ing sister, you wait and see!

I read that in a nasally Dub accent.

dd972

Workplace bullies are the lowest yellow streaks of piss of the lot, they operate in the knowledge that they're in a zone where the victim's scope to have a go back is compromised and wouldn't say boo to a goose to someone in a pub or down a dark alley.

donegal__road

urabell wrote: »

If you get bullied as an adult you probably deserve it, when did it become socially acceptable to be a sap

when did it become socially acceptable to pick on the vulnerable... I take it thats what you mean by a 'sap'.

gozunda

cena wrote: »

Has anyone come across an adult that bullies other adults.

I have come across one or two during my adult years so far.
Nasty work they where.

Would you say an adult bully was a bully when they where a child?

1. There is a well recognised link with adults who are bullies and also exhibit sociopathic behaviour

2. These type of individuals are found in all walks of life

3. Do murderers necessarily murder when they are children? No but some individuals do fail to act like rationale adults and use psychological abuse as a means of power and abuse those who they can - often in work places where management don't give a fig and you can't go and punch, (literally or otherwise) those responsible

One solution - make psychological assault in whatever context a criminal offence. Lock perpetrators up where they will learn what bullying really is and throw away the key.

Individuals who bully are losers and scum imo

wandatowell

irish bloke wrote: »

Meet me in the car park after work and I'll show you!!!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FU_Yi37On1c

Gatling

Tangatagamadda Chaddabinga Bonga Bungo wrote: »

Who dah **** do ya ****ing think yous are calling soft cock ya ****, I'll ****ing **** ya up after I **** me girlfriend and her ****ing sister, you wait and see!

Youre maaaa rite

doolox

...it has become acceptable in some circles for the more protected, powerful and heavily resourced sector of society to prey on and opress the less protected, less resourced and less powerful sector.

I suppose at the end of the day it's really very easy to grow up into an adult who's totally passive or totally a bully without ever realising you now have the power to change things.

For example, you can be some 6ft 6'' tall muscle giant or whatever, but if you were born ten years the youngest of five bully children who all hated you because the parents were two permanently drunk bullies themselves, then you grow up with the assumption that you always lose your fights and arguments.

You just get beaten all the time when you were too small by someone you simply just can't physically stand up to, no matter how much you try. Then you've just been conditioned to surrender every time, while the bully who in real life you could eat alive in a fair fight, has been conditioned to win.

I suppose this scenario continues into adulthood because of the bad luck young victims seem to have in finding further perpetrators to continue the cycle as they grow up.

urabell

donegal__road wrote: »

when did it become socially acceptable to pick on the vulnerable... I take it thats what you mean by a 'sap'.

When did it become socially acceptable to stand idly by and let people walk all over you hoping that they just stop of their own accord?

sopretty

I've had a few people bully me - one in family - two in work. One of the two from work is having a spectacular come-uppins currently and I admit to gleefully watching their downfall..

sopretty

That said, it's more of a sneakiness and underhandedness in adulthood compared to childhood bullying. I sometimes wonder whether I'm not altogether completely stupid/naive/trusting.

goose2005

cena wrote: »

Has anyone come across an adult that bullies other adults.

I have come across one or two during my adult years so far.
Nasty work they where.

Would you say an adult bully was a bully when they where a child?

What kind of stupid username is Cena? 5,000 posts and you aren't even a mod? You suck.

pharmaton

Deleted User wrote: »

I suppose at the end of the day it's really very easy to grow up into an adult who's totally passive or totally a bully without ever realising you now have the power to change things.

For example, you can be some 6ft 6'' tall muscle giant or whatever, but if you were born ten years the youngest of five bully children who all hated you because the parents were two permanently drunk bullies themselves, then you grow up with the assumption that you always lose your fights and arguments.

You just get beaten all the time when you were too small by someone you simply just can't physically stand up to, no matter how much you try. Then you've just been conditioned to surrender every time, while the bully who in real life you could eat alive in a fair fight, has been conditioned to win.

I suppose this scenario continues into adulthood because of the bad luck young victims seem to have in finding further perpetrators to continue the cycle as they grow up.

that made a lot of sense,thanks