Would this be too stalkerish?

LegacyUser

Now this sounds a bit something a teenager would say but anyway being anonymous and all yesterday I did a race and while I was waiting for my my wave to be called I kept catching a girls eye and shared a smiler with her when she left.

Just there I was flicking through photos of the event to see if I was in any of them and I seen a photo of her and she was tagged in it. Turns out we have two friends in common (guy I met doing a J1 and a guy I played football with back in school days either of who I don't talk to anymore) but would it be too weird/stalkerish if I tried to make contact with here via Facebook? Even though I never actually talked to her?

Should I just let it go?

scarymoon1

What have you got to lose? Life's too short for what ifs. Worst case scenario - she ignores you or whatever. You'll get over it best case scenario she replies and you ask her out - yay

Penny Tration

Was it hell and back?

If so, go for it. Everybody talks to each other at hell, and everyone loves talking about it!

Aside from that, she'll probably be flattered that you fancied her in her running gear (or in muck and slime in the pics of her!).

Nothing to lose

Merkin

Don't friend request her but send her a message on FB and say you recognise her from the race and did she enjoy it etc! Go for it, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain!:)

lukesmom

Nope wouldn't be stalkerish in the least. Go for it.

FouxDaFaFa

Just bear in mind that if you message her and are not friends with her, it will go into the "other" inbox that isn't as immediately visible so it might take her a bit to see it.

Ham Sambo

Go for it, best of luck.

LegacyUser

So I manned up and sent her on a message probably get no reply but as they say in Hell & Back "Winners never quit and Losers never win"

Thanks for the sounding board.

elusiveguy

Just worth noting that messages from non-friends get dumped into an 'other messages' folder that people have to go looking for and there are no notifications for....

Gannicus

Merkin wrote: »

Don't friend request her but send her a message on FB and say you recognise her from the race and did she enjoy it etc! Go for it, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain!:)

ShouldIShouldntI wrote: »

So I manned up and sent her on a message probably get no reply but as they say in Hell & Back "Winners never quit and Losers never win"

Thanks for the sounding board.

Good man. At least you're being pro-active about it. Hope all goes well for you. Sure what have you got to lose? Maybe try sending her a poke just to let her know you have tried to contact her. Maybe send her a friend request. Just to try ensure she gets your mail.

I wish I had done something similar. Had a huge crush on a girl I used to go lifesaving years ago with and we finished the course I never said anything then saw her about 4 months ago on a chance encounter while in a hurry back to work and never got her number.... or even asked for it. Can't find her on Facebook either so I'm still kicking myself today.

MugMugs

elusiveguy wrote: »

Just worth noting that messages from non-friends get dumped into an 'other messages' folder that people have to go looking for and there are no notifications for....

Sometimes that isn't the case if there's mutual friends.

Anyway, the OP will be able to see if she has read the message.

LegacyUser

So she did view my message last night but sadly no reply. Probably for the best, she is a bit out of my league on the looks table. I'm off to cry myself to sleep.

Gannicus

Chin up mate. You gave it a shot. Nothing ventured nothing gained.

MugMugs

ShouldIShouldntI wrote: »

Probably for the best, she is a bit out of my league on the looks table.

If that's her attitude, it's a lucky escape.

If that's your own attitude you need to do a bit of work on yourself too !

Well done for trying though OP. The only hope is by trying !

Lollipops23

OP I was at a party last year and got chatting to a guy I'd never met before. Few days later he messaged me on FB asking me out- I was extremely flattered but was in a relationship at the time.

Lesson: if a girl is nice she'll let you down gently and in a dignified manner. If she doesn't even acknowledge the message, you're probably best off out of it.

Well done for grabbing the bull by its horns

scarymoon1

Never mind! You could be worse and be like me where I thought a guy liked me and asked me out, I went around telling everyone how I'd met a fab guy, turns out he's not available! See there's always someone worse off than you!